My Fiance didn't get me a present for Valentines day. He saw I had bought him gifts because they've been in the living room all wrapped for a few days. I thought he was going to get flowers or something. He did get me a card and make me a steak dinner - but last time he did that I barely ate the steak - guess he didn't get the hint I don't like them! Everyone in my office talked about what they got. I'm upset. Is that justified or am I overreacting?
2007-02-15 04:10:26 · 35 answers · asked by malibubeach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what you thank it is you annniversy or something be thankful you have a boyfriend and not on yahoo crying about your life o you are.
2007-02-15 04:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for this guy - he got you a card and made you a steak dinner, something he obvious thought would be special. It sounds to me like he put thought into your valentine's day.
I'm pretty sure you've heard this a million times but I'll remind you that it's the thought that counts and I think it sounds like you have a good man on your hands. Don't let something as silly as this crazy commerical holiday come in the way of your happiness. And maybe next year consider toning down Valentine's Day a bit and instead of buying him lots of gifts, making him his favorite dessert and give him a back massage, I guarantee it will be a very happy valentine's day.
Oh and one last thing, remember it took a lot more thought and preparation for him to make you dinner then for him to pick up the phone and order you a dozen roses!
Good luck!
2007-02-15 04:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. It's a holiday that was created just to sell s#*t, and that's all it is.
If he tells you he loves you, or cares about you on a frequent basis, why the need for a peer-pressure inducing faux-holiday?
It is, by the way, a $13 Billion dollar industry here in the US.
We already have anniversaries and birthdays and 363 other days of the year. Plenty of opportunities to say how you feel about somebody.
HOWEVER, he could've been more sensitive about the steak, and he sounds a tad self-centered.
A little observation does go a long way. Maybe that's the cause of the disappointment?
2007-02-15 04:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by morshmi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it Valentine's Day is just another day to make you spend more money. Maybe he didn't have the money to purchase you a gift, he got you a card. It's the thought that counts, when it comes from the heart. Does he do for you on the normal basis? Are you happy with him day to day? Those people at work probably have the most miserable relationships and their husbands, fiances', and boyfriends probably had to make of for being sorry everyday besides Valentines Day. So don't base your relationship on someone elses. Be Blessed!
2007-02-15 04:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by MrsE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think so because if you are to expect something then it would be a big let down when you don't get anything. So if you don't expect anything and you get something then it is a surprise. Now he did do something for you he did get you a card and he did make you dinner even if it wasn't something you liked. Did you even mention it to him that you didn't like steak or that you were upset that you had got him something and he didn't get you anything. For next year why don't you try not getting him anything well except for a card and see what he has to say... As for me I have stopped expecting things from someone who never gave anything in return.....
2007-02-15 04:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by honeybunnies93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you TELL him that you don't like steak? if not, you really have no place getting mad at him for not knowing. maybe he didn't catch your "hint" last time. and did you buy him gifts so that he would buy you gifts in return? because that's a lousy reason to buy gifts. he got you a card and made you dinner. sounds like a nice way to show you he cares. but it would appear that that wasn't good enough for you. maybe you should have told him what to get for you and what you were expecting from him. i personally think that's selfish and shows a lack of character to tell a person what to do for you for a special occasion, unless they've specifically asked for your input. but it would have gotten you what you wanted. and that seems to be your focus--what you wanted and the fact that you didn't get it. maybe your focus should be on the fact that he chose to do two nice things for you and you showed your appreciation by complaining about it.
2007-02-15 04:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, my husband did the same thing... not because of anything but he is clueless about special occasions. Sit your fiance down and very kindly tell him how much special occasions mean to you. Tell him you understand that they do not mean much to him, but also tell him how much it would mean to you if he put a little more thought into special occasions. Tell him you were a little disappointed but you understand this time because he didn't know. I said that to my husband.. he knows, but I appreciate the things he does everyday, not just on Valentines. He made supper and bought me a card and a small box of chocolates. So he is learning. I hope this helps you. Things like this are very sensitive because you don't want him to go out and get what you tell him to get you. You just want him to put more thought into your feelings. Hope you have a great day!
2007-02-15 04:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. My ex-husband was like that. He never gave gifts for anything - maybe a card if I was lucky, with nothing personal written inside.
I'm warning you - If you are this unhappy now, you will become even more unhappy about this after marriage. You need to set him straight now that it's NOT okay not to give gifts. Let him know how you feel and how sad you were when the other women in the office talked about what they had gotten and you had nothing. Explain to him that women base how much their man loves them by the size of the engagement ring and the gifts he buys them - it's just a woman thing. Don't settle for this. It's NOT okay for him to blow you off like that. Get it out in the open now - before you get married.
2007-02-15 04:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first key to a sucessful marriage is communication.
Did you express your desire for a special gift - or did you leave it up to him. Talk to him.
I am not a big fan of Valentine's day as an adult (it was fun in school) but if you really are upset - you guys need to sit down and discuss what both expectations are - for all holidays!
2007-02-15 04:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're overreacting.
You're putting your happiness on whether or not you got a V-Day gift? Grow up. He cooked dinner for you which a lot of women would appreciate. Are you that superficial that you need material things to be happy?
And if you didn't tell him you didn't eat steak, how is he supposed to know. Maybe part of the problem here is you.
2007-02-15 04:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe instead of expecting him to "get the hint" you should tell him you don't like steak,,,, that is very selfish of you to expect him to know your likes and dislikes without you telling him point blank...I think the steak dinner and card are very romantic, and you are a very materialistic person to expect gifts.
2007-02-15 04:15:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋