My Husband and I had a romantic evening last night for Valentine's Day. Candlelight dinner, champagne, dancing, bubble bath and just a really lovely time. This morning he is saying that if he knew it was not going to led to sex we could of just have a regular night. So should it have ended with sex or is it fine that romance doesn't lead to sex.
2007-02-15 04:01:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, romance doesn't always have to end with sex. Sometimes the evening like you had would be just wonderful. Spending good, quality, one on one time with your significant other is sometimes alot more important that a roll in the sheets.
You husband was a bit out of line to even say something like that, IMHO.
2007-02-15 04:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ariamay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just fine. I think it's the expectations of each person that probably should be communicated before-hand. I mean I know I've been disappointed in a romantic night that didn't end in sex beacuse that's what I was hoping for and expecting. I'm sure my husband has had the same experience. Still, you don't do romantic things just so you'll have sex. I think that a nice dinner, bubble bath etc are all you need. Sex is just one way to connect with your partner. Sometimes it's nice to know you aren't just getting special treatment because of the chance of sex later on.
2007-02-15 12:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by bettygirl1128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not always. Romance is something that is done every day even throughout the day. Yes sometimes it sets the mood for making love and sex BUT not always. Your husband needs to understand that it is all not about sex. It can lead to making love. Romance is what you do everyday and how you treat each other. It is not just a physical thing like sex is. Romance is more of an emotional things with feelings involved.
2007-02-15 12:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should of he not bought you dinner, if you two don't have children he should divorce you. I'd love to introduce to one my daughters.
You are married, married means looking out for the other person and NOT being SELFISH. You have a MAN that made a commitment to put you number one not a BOY-friend getting sex for free. He took the time for YOU to provide a candlelight dinner, champagne, dancing, bubble bath (or a real lovely time as you said).
How could ou be more RUDE?
To a good man this is a nasty as a women can treat you. Do everything you can to impress her and get SLAMMED on the ONE thing you are looking for.
Like I said, I'd introduce him to one of my daughters in a heartbeat and I'll show my son this question to warn him about what a MARRIAGE looks like with a SELFISH girl.
2007-02-15 12:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance never HAS to end with sex, most guys just think with their penis. If the day was to treat you with love, and just to make you smile, like Valentine's Day is supposed to, then sex is up to you, it is an added bonus, but the rest should be just because he wants to make you happy. And because he loves you. He should maybe even treat you that way on a day that is unexpected to show that he can be sweet and romantic.
2007-02-15 12:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_lil_devil18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad thing, but I myself do love to make love to my wife. Though along time ago I adopted the attitude, If she not in the mood, and not enjoying, then It's not ejoyable to me. After all it's supposed to be a mutual and enjoyble thing for both. And in no way shape or form should spending money on her intitle the man to sex. (unless of course she's a hooker) Mind you there are some women that have seemed to set that presidence in their perticular relationship, in that case thats their own fault. In my life my wife is my partner, my best friend, and yes my lover. My love for my wife is much more than sex, along with it, is the fun and laughs we share, the conversations, just being able to lie next to her at night caress her back(which yes, sometimes leads to sex, but alot of times not, but at least she knows I love her) and in turn she does things for me,....bacause she loves me. I guess in short I just wanted to say that yes, sex is a good part of a marriage..it just not the whole thing
2007-02-15 12:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by ga1c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, romance does not always have to lead to sex, but in this case, I think you misread your husband's feelings. On Valentine's Day, in this setting, it seems natural that the evening would culminate in physical intimacy. Maybe you can make it up to your husband this evening! Be loving and kind and attentive.
2007-02-15 12:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not everything but come on now,who doesn't want a romantic night to end in passionate love making. it was valentines for Gods sake.
2007-02-15 12:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by babyblues 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have spent so many years as women trying to get men to understand what we want from them ,and one of the main things we wanted them to understand was what""foreplay is and means to us .romance is a great form of foreplay ,as is the obvious being sexual foreplay .And men understand that we as woman love foreplay before the "grand finale" as it were! so after a night of so called foreplay they want their grand finale ,it seams only fair.Although as couples we do know each others needs and expectations,so only you and your partner can answer this one as a couple. But as a general rule no one should assume that they have right to anything that is not actually offered to them . and the answer to the question is NO............He should not expect sex in return for anything, its somthing we love to give freely when we feel like it...
2007-02-15 12:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first and last thing on a mans mind is sex pl note
2007-02-15 12:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by KOHLI V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋