I no this is braken all rules and i no its wrong but iv always had a thing for my friends fella.. We all work together and reasontly i cant stop thinking about him.. I would never try anything in a million years because i no how much my friend loves him so i need ideas on getting him out my head!!!!
We get on grate and hes one of my bestest lad friends at the moment.. Because we all wrok together its very hard to get him out my mind..
There is a rumor going around work that he is thinking of dumping my friend because hes got feeling for someone else.. Now am praying to god that it isnt me because then il have to turn him down and walk away from someone that i really like..
Iv got a feelin it is me though.. PLZ HELP!!!!!!!!
2007-02-15 04:00:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have to weigh up all the pros and cons of having a relationship with this guy then you can make an informed decision.
it often makes things crystal clear if you write them down include things like loosing your friendship, it may happen to you, atmosphere at work etc it can only be you that makes the decision because you have to live with the consequences.
it is hard when your body is giving such strong feelings to you, denying them is difficult. you may decide to follow your head or your heart, just be sure you wont regret your decision.
2007-02-15 04:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask yourself this, if being with him for a month meant you will never see your friend again and she will hate you, would you do it?
Because reasonably, if he is willing to let people know he is going to dump your friend, for possibley HER friend, then he is not worth your time, or your poor mates. What kinda guy tells others before the girl he is going out with? Ok, I can understand him talking it through with some close frineds, but people at work? Forget this guy, and concentrate on getting someone else, this is an explosion waiting to happen, and men don't have the same morals we do,he won't see anything wrong with screwing his exs friend.
rUN AWAY!
2007-02-15 04:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's difficult and you have done nothing wrong. You can't help your feelings. If they eventually split and he does want you then you should honestly tell your friend how much you have hid your feelings and done nothing to destroy their relationship. She will be very emotional and suffering hurt if he has left her but in time she will realise you did nothing wrong. However, word of warning if there is this rumour going round he is thinking of dumping your friend etc. he would need to have started it. You should really ask yourself if you are being a bit blinded by your feelings for him? After all it's not a very nice person that tells this sort of thing to others before talking things over with his girlfriend is it?
2007-02-15 05:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if it's true (but don't mention that you think it may be because of you) and emphasise how much your friend loves him etc so hopefully he'll take the hint you're not interested.
It must hurt you but when you meet someone right you'll soon forget about him - I don't think you get people out of your system until the next one comes along but it will happen even if you have to be patient. Good luck xxx
2007-02-15 04:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ,
you are really in for some big mess up i know how hard it might be for you but i have a sollution for you do as i say and victory is imminent first to save your friendship ,
spread a false rumor about your self that you are seeing some one and also set up a false personality for that false person u r seeing make sure that your friend and his fella come to know that you have a boy friend . regarding the false boy friend thing keep it a deep secret , no one should know about it no one .
by doing this if your friends fella is intrested in you he is compelled to change his thoughts. and be verry supportive towards your friend. best off luck.
2007-02-16 05:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Winie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl that he has feelings for you is you then are you prepared to lose your friend to be with him?
If it is you then you could explain to him that although you feel the same you can't hurt your friend.
or you could ditch your friend and get with the guy.... but would you ever forgive yourself for that?
My advice is stay well back. Your feeling for this guy will eventually fade and you'll still have your friend!
2007-02-15 10:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no! a bad bad situation, really not good, just think about everything bad about him, imagine him on the loo straining, farting in bed, smelly feet anything to get him out of your mind, your friends more important!
2007-02-15 04:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Keira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really value the friendship you have with this other girl, do NOT date this guy (even if he breaks up with her)!!! Guys come and go, but true friendship lasts a lifetime!!
2007-02-15 05:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
defo 2 the first answer, nothing you can do if its meant too be! i now live with my husband of 20 years best friend!!!! it was meant too be, im sorry for the hurt caused but had too do what was right for me
2007-02-15 05:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by apple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh not good
just imagine yourself having a guy like that and how it would feel him doing that to you. cos that what he's doing and will probably do to you
can you imagine how painful it would be? yes? now hold onto that and dont forget it
2007-02-15 04:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by maraesa1000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋