What do you do if you find out that your closest friend, who is a girl, is marrying someone other than you?

Question

You spend more than a year with a friend and you become really really close to her that she won't even mind touching her anywhere but as soon as you are about to propose you find out that she is marrying someone else. What should I do?

I know she likes me because we spend at least 12 hours of everyday together and we enjoy so much. But she just told me that she is getting married with someone soon, that is the guy who I only knew was a mere friend to her so far.

I am in a dillema.

Answer 1

Things like this happen, maybe you view you to as more than friends because thats how you`re beginning to feel about her. Let her know how you feel, how uncomfortable you are before its too late. Now i`ve said it short and sweet, theres nothing more and better than this explanation. I wish you the best, and remember the one will come :P

Answer 2

Well you can either be happy for her or tell her how you feel. If you really want to marry her another man wont stop you but you should also consider that you may be putting her in a very awkward position. Maybe in her heart she wishes you would ask her to marry you but you never stepped up to the plate so she dismissed the fact of you being more than just a friend to her. You should tell her how you feel before it's too late.

Answer 3

Well to me it sounds like u guys have different feelings for each other, even though u said she likes u it might not be in the way u feel abnout her. But u do deserve to ask her why she s marrying this guy and u guys have been touching, it depends on what kind of touching(if in a sexaul way)then u really need to set things straight wher b/f she marries. Tell her how u feel & u thought u guys were on the same page, but don't get upset it will make u seem jealous & she will jus ignore wat u really have to say, jus play it cool.

Answer 4

Well maybe she only considers you as a friend, has she ever mentioned anything about liking you in a different way? and how is she going to know you love her have you mentioned it? You only say that she is your closest friend with rights, Maybe she is looking for something serious and the other guy is serious with her. Before loosing her you should talk to her and let her know your feelings.

Answer 5

Tell her how you feel and let her decide if there is anything there between the two of you. However, it sounds like she's somewhat of a Ho because she lets guys who are supposedly a friend touch her all over. The other guy probably would kick your *** if he found out that her friend (you) was feeling her up when he was engaged to her.

Answer 6

I don't think you are really in a dilemma. The message is loud and clear - She loves you but is not in love with you. It's up to you to decide whether you want to keep the current relationship or you'd feel so much hurt that you can't stand it.

Answer 7

If the information in your question is accurate, it sounds like she is not being completely honest with you. If that is true, you are better off not marrying her anyway. A successful marriage requires honesty on both sides.

Answer 8

I would just ask her why? It's completely fair for you to expect her to tell you why she is marrying someone else. Keep your pride in check though, she might say something that could hurt you, even if it isn't on purpose.

Answer 9

ok.... wait u was going to propose to her but sh is marrying someone else??? wow u was getting played BIG time...no u are not in a dillema....

Answer 10

Feel like you've been played? She's letting you touch her and she's been seeing someone else?

She's a player and you lost this game.