my b/f and i have been together for almost 2 1/2yrs and have a little girl named kylie. we have alot of kinda issues that dont have to do with our relationship on top of the relationship issue(lol).when he cheated,it broke my heart, i love this guy so much, i have his kid, i clean his house(we live wit his mom and brother)i cook, and still.... anyways i would just like to know wat i should do or can do? i just feel like he lies to me and cheats on me all the time now, how can i trust him again?oh ya and since i found out i never really got an explanation he just wont talk about it, theres no closer for me... i might be overreacting so just tell me if i am...lol. thanks
2007-02-15 03:56:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not overreacting, but I doubt you're going
to get a useful answer from the likes of us.
We're really talking about two things: What can
he do to prove to you that it won't happen again
and
What can you do to make yourself feel better
about the situtation.
In any case, he has to talk about it. You have
perfect justification to go to court, divorce him and
make him pay alimony and claim that he is bad
parent and shouldn't see the kid if he remains silent.
No, that is not the approach I would take with him
but silence is not an option.
2007-02-15 03:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Elana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me my fiance and i have been together for 2 years our anniversery is tommorrow...we also have a 2 1/2 yearold...(we were together on and off before this 2 years)...
well i found out last month that he was emailing an ex i knew they were talking but the things he said hert me...she crossed the line and sent him naked emails.....we are still together but i feel i need closer too he dosen't like to talk about it anymore because i always start crying ...immediately after it happened he said that he choose me and she doesn't even compare to me that he loves me and he would do anything for us to be together ..especially stop talking to her for good...well she emailed him again last week and he told me that he told her he wasnt ever going to talk to her again ....i don't know if i believe him but after alot of fighting we came to the agreement that i wont metion it anymore if he sends her and email or calls her in front me and tells her to stop....and he cant keep any pictures or anything else that has to do with her...i still need closure in some sense but im hoping after we do this it will .......
My advice is dont bring your motherinlaw in it b/c i did and it made it worse....talk to him and tell him you want to come to an agreement about it ...i have his password to his email and he has mine although i havent done anything its a compromise...its ok to be scared i am all the time...but we've become more distant and we both fear that eventually it will break us up if we dont move on ...if you love him talk to him and he should understand... if ound it in december and im still dealing with it but we've been together on and off almost 4 years and solid the last 2 we want to get married and move soon and that helps me know he does love me ...and only want me she lives in another state so just try to see the facts and really listen to what he says and it should help
Good luck
2007-02-15 13:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by leanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happened to me..i don't have a kid though. i stayed with him and he has gotten much better. i think he was very sorry and now choses me over anyone else so it worked out for me. i still don't always trust him and he knows that but i think I'm learning to trust him more.
2007-02-15 12:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by kissie bee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your b/f cheated caus you aint doind some thing he wants and till you can find out what he wants he will continue to cheat. sorry i know from experience im a reformed cheater
2007-02-15 12:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to Jess hey first think first talk to your mather inlaw and tell her everythin then talk to him ask how wuold he feel if you do samething to him even that you have his kid forst him to talk to you if that don't work scare him that you are goin to live him even knwowing that you have 2 years with him and you love him
2007-02-15 12:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by jrnmcrz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋