I have been married 3 yrs and its a second for both of us.I bought my house and paid for it in 1999.I have it willed to my only child.My husband has his will to his mom,dad,or brother and sisters whoever is alive at tht time.There is no house payment .So we just split the utilitys ect.He keeps all his finances to himself and has no kids.Since we married he has done some improvements and my attrny says he needs to sign a post nup because his family may come after half the appreciation value if he dies.Do I ask him to or hope they dont if he does pass away first.Another thing is I dont have any idea of his money ect in what accounts ect ,but his mom and dad made sure he willed to them when he was single ,and I know he has the paperwrk where they are.He isnt even around his family but every 10 yrs,.Do I ask this of him?I feel bad to! Thanx
2007-02-15 03:42:51 · 8 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See an attorney. This guy is looking out for himself. If he dies, his family has no claim to any appreciation value of your house. It will be 100% yours. Since he has his own money and accounts, you have every right to want to protect YOUR property. Don't feel bad for looking out for yourself and your child. It's your duty.
2007-02-15 03:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down after a nice dinner and say to him you have something important to discuss. Ask him how he feels concerning the future. How, he would like to see your assets and his assets divided upon his death and yours. Get his input without your ideas first. Then see how far apart you are . If he doesn't have any idea what to do ask him if you both should see an attorney or an estate advise to help you make sure that his wants and yours will be followed after you are gone. Mention since he is not that close to his family that his family may not truly understand his wishes. Good Luck and God Bless. Take care of it now and not later when the state will step in and do it there way.
2007-02-15 11:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk to him about creating a family trust. Afterall, you two are married. Personally, I think if you are married, you should have a joint account and pay things from there. I was in the similar situation, the differences are that what I brought in and what he brought in was pretty much equal. I do have a child who will end up getting everything after we both pass. But we made sure that everything is in trust and spelled out if I die before him, and if he marries, my half will go to my child not his new family. Talk to an attorney about the trust.
2007-02-15 11:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be afraid to sit your hubby down and ask these questions. Tell him that you want to make sure that everything he wants happens if he passes away. You want to make sure its the way he wants it so there can be NO contesting wills ect...Ask him if he will sign a prenuptual agreement to make sure the house does go in the childs name and that you don't want anyone to be able to take that away from the child or you. Is his will stateing exactly what he wants? if so ok, if not then could he please sit down with you and go over everything so that you don't have to worry about it and that you know exactly what he wants and that you are trying to avoid any negative actions to happen when and if he passes away. Maybe his feelings have changed and want to will everything to you or is there something that he wants to make sure that you have. Put a stipulation in the will that you can live in the house until you die. Make sure all wills cannot be contested and put a stipulations in there that if anyone contests the will all they recieve is one doller (this makes it legal) and that their share goes to his present wife or child etc....hope this helps, take care Heather
2007-02-15 11:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to write new wills.
Even if he leaves the previous one with the parents the most current one takes precedence.
Call the lawyer get him on board and update the paperwork.
Should anything happen to either one of you , you will be glad you did.
How is this for a scenario. Both of you get wiped out in a car wreck and his absentee family swoops in puts claim on your property and put your kid out. Don't think it can happen?
I don't blame you for being concerned. Get him to the lawyer with you and get it done this month.
2007-02-15 12:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been married 3 years and you don't feel comfortable discussing this with him? Why? This is something married people need to know about and have settled.
2007-02-15 11:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by ldgbt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband. You shouldn't feel bad/weird about anything you ask him. You should have this "problem" fixed before it really is an issue
2007-02-15 11:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad just do it.
2007-02-15 11:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋