My husband is not to big on Valentines Day. So I told him that rather me forcing him to go out and buy something, we just skip it. Right? Who likes a forced gift? To my suprise he told me that he already had my gift - and that it was at his office. Well that was weird from the start. He never buys me anything early, it's always the day of the Holiday or event. And why would he take it to his office? So I started getting curious as to what it was, or if he really had anything at all.
Well it turned out, he re-gifted my Valentines gift.
He received a gift from a client while we were on vacation last week & saved it to give to me as my gift from him. It's a carton of carmels.
When I got it out of him, we both kinda laughed, yet I told him that I was hurt that he tried to lie about it, and pass it off as something he did on his own. And as much as I didn't/don't want to make a big deal about it, why is it bothering me?
Would it bother you?? Thanks, Gals!
2007-02-15 03:37:26 · 24 answers · asked by jt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For those of you who say he didn't lie...
For my husband to say that he already had my gift was very curious. We can joke and kid around easily with each other - so I asked him how he paid for it, since I didn't notice anything on the bank statments, or see a receipt (I do all the money management in our house) He told me that he didn't keep a receipt for this gift, that he paid for it in cash, etc...
I was actually getting rather excited because he never really makes an effort when it comes to things like this - and then I found out he made not effort at all. And everyone in the office got candy - and it's OLD. When I finally figured out what was going on, he started laughing. The client left the caramel in his office while we were out of town last week. So he did purposely set out to mis-lead me on this. Just an FYI.
2007-02-15 04:01:31 · update #1
You already knew he wasn't big on Valentines day. At least he made an attempt to give you something. He could have sat at his desk and ate all the candy but he thought of you. That's more effort than a lot of guys made! Don't let it bug you. He sounds like he tried (in his own way). Enjoy the carmels.
2007-02-15 03:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Valentine's Day is about love, not about the guy getting a girl a gift just so she will do something dirty in return. Save such things for other days. This is supposed to be about feelings, guys just think that receiving gifts is "girl's thing". No, it isn't. And a teddy bear is pretty much a sign of love. Doesn't matter what you get from your girlfriend/boyfriend. It's from them and that is the only thing that should matter. Please grow up, since quite clearly you're not ready nor do you know what real love is.
2016-05-24 03:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you got something!! I have been married for no more than a year and this was our first Valentine's Day as a married couple... my husband sounds just like yours... I GOT NOTHING!! and that is something that is really bothering me... Sit down and have a talk with him. I had a huge argument with my husband and I made him feel terrible. I think after this he will never miss another Valentine's Day...
2007-02-15 03:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by *jA* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would hurt me a lot but look at the big picture here. He actually joined three thoughts together, Valentine, present and you so in his tiny warped mind, he thinks he's done a good job!
Honestly, though after sitting through several half sullen dinners pretending to have a nice time with my husband (Cripes! 40 bucks for that! And its not as good as your cooking....) and trying to be jolly, I have given up completely and would happily take a thoughtfully re-packaged carton of Camels even though I don't smoke.
2007-02-15 03:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical husband, trying to make himself look better than he is. From now on do not tell him what to do or not to do, just accept what you get or don't get. That way you don't have to make him lie.
My husband never remembers any of those Hallmark holidays and barely my birthday or Christmas. He is always bringing me those promotional items or gifts that he receives at work. I either use them or pass them on (always being honest where they came from) I believe in recycling.
No use to be bothered by his actions as you are the one that boxed him into an awkward corner.
2007-02-15 03:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HELL YES IT WOULD BOTHER ME!
It's rude and insulting for someone to give you a gift that they got from someone else.
It's like someone giving you a fruitcake for Christmas, and then you give it to someone else,(it gets passed from person to person for years) and then a few years later, that same fruitcake comes back to you again. And you are all like "Hey, wait a minute, this fruitcake looks firmiliar!" lol lol
Your hubby is a rude asshole, and you need to cut him off from sex until he can understand why women want a gift given from the heart!
It is not a hard job to go to the store and buy you ONE RED ROSE. Or one tiny box of chocolates, or a ring out of a gum-ball machine, or he could have just given you a card, or just a simple kiss and hug(and spent time on the couch watching tv with you). ANYTHING..he could have done anything and kept it simple, but he RUINED IT! He sucks!
Cheers
2007-02-15 03:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but in sounds very familiar. My husband came home from work and said, "I guess I'd better go get your Valentine's card." He came home, filled it out, and that was it. He did the same thing for my 50th birthday, and then took me to SOMEONE else's birthday party, and didn't get me a gift. On Christmas, it's usually C.D.s that he likes. Other than holidays we get along fine, and he does very nice things throughout the year for me. But the guy hates holidays, and I love them, but I'll never get him to change, so I'm starting to get used to it after 4 years. Ugh! Hey. At least you got candy! chuckle.
2007-02-15 03:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that would so bother me. i would appreciated a card the came from the heart if anything. me and my boyfriend really don't spend lots of money on v-day but it's the little things that matter to me and turns out to be the beat gifts he could give me. maybe you should tell him how you really feel and tell him what natters. i mean what woman on this earth wouldn't want to feek special on that day. next time maybe if you make the first move he'll follow. like playing love music kissing you know stuff like that. tell him u just want something from the heart. i tell my boyfriend that on b-days, x-mas, v-day, anniversaries and i never get disapointed.
2007-02-15 03:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by themakingsofme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to give him credit for thinking fast...but you said he "saved it to give to you as a gift". I'd have been doubled over in pain from laughing so hard and then we would have been up stairs making love like a couple teenagers. Just my imagined thought of this scenario has me sitting here smiling...I'd take it as a thoughtful gesture on his part and let it go
2007-02-15 03:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it wouldn’t bother me. It’s not a big deal. Enjoy the carmels and forget about it.
EDITED TO ADD THIS:
Technically, it doesn’t sound like he actually lied. Did he tell you that he went to the store and bought you a gift? It doesn’t sound that way. He just said that he ‘had’ your gift.
2007-02-15 03:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋