I desperately need advice! I have been married to 'Kyle' for 7 yrs. The past 5 yrs we had serious issues in our relationship that he never wanted to work on. So, we finally separated just to have some time for us both to think. I then met 'Kobie'and to make a long story short, became pregnant with his baby. Over the course of the pregnancy, I basically had a mental breakdown. After Kyle found out I was pregnant, it was kind of his 'wake-up' call and he began being the husband I always wanted him to be and working on the long term issues we had. I was so confused about if I should stay and work on my marriage or be with the father of my child. I literally bounced back and forth between living with both Kyle and Kobie's. Both of them love very much and want to spend the rest of thier life with me. I just want to do what is right. Please help me! Counseling is not working. Being on my own is not an option financially and I have no family or friends I can live with.
2007-02-15 03:37:01 · 13 answers · asked by newyorknewyork 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband wants to raise the child as his,but doesn't want the baby's father to have any part of our lives. Kobie is a wonderful and very supportive father in all aspects. I am still bouncing back and forth and it's crazy and has to stop! My son is 9 months old now. I just want the madness to end and I finally decide who I should be with.
2007-02-15 03:56:02 · update #1
You need an intervention, in a good solid psychologist's office. But basically, first things first, you are supposed to stay with your husband. How old is your baby and where are you now?
2007-02-15 03:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that they both love you but you never said whether or not you love them both. In terms of finances if you were to chose neither, the father of the baby would still be required to pay child support and there are a lot of single mothers out their that do just fine (not easy but doable). If you don't love the father and love your husband and he is willing to raise another mans' child as his own then I suggest you stay with your husband.
If this does happen your husband needs to understand that the biological father has rights too and can't legally be kept from his child but you'll also need to get Kobie to understand that Kyle will be the babies dad too in a sense and he'll need to accept that relationship as well, since your husband would be the main father figure in the child's life.
It's not fair for any of you to keep bouncing back and forth.
I hope some of this helps. Good Luck and congrats on the baby.
2007-02-15 04:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have you had the baby yet and if so is Kyle good to it and treats it like his own then I'd say work on your marriage even though the baby obviously is not his. But if you've had the baby and he's wierd around it then stay with Kobie and start your new life and let Kyle move on. Maybe due to his "wake-up" call he'll have learned a little something and be a good man for the next girl and you'll be happy that he's happy and you'll also be happy with your new family and especially baby. Good luck.
2007-02-15 03:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by AngieBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man really wants to raise another mans child. Keep it simple and go with the father of the baby.
2007-02-15 03:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My little ones at the instant are grown. I truthfully have 2 desirable daughters that I raised the comparable. i grew to become into married 2x and that they've diverse Dads. they are as diverse as nighttime and day, the ladies and their Dads. My oldest had a "lacking link" Dad till she grew to become 15 and moved in to coach a factor. Then yelled at me for no longer telling her greater approximately her Dad. ok, so i grew to become into youthful, yet I did my ultimate. We divorced whilst she grew to become into in trouble-free terms a million a million/2. He wasn't a slob, as a question of reality he has money, political status, and an older spouse. Soooo...my daughter grew to become into greater of a topic. Now they have a "stunning" relationship. She is now 26. My youthful daughter's father grew to become into very lively together with his daughter, now 21. whether, he grew to become into no longer precisely Mr. stunning. He would take her with him, yet that grew to become into the quantity of it. She grew to become into on her very own whilst they have been given the place they have been going. i do no longer evaluate that an "lively" ascertain or sturdy parenting or bonding. it is in trouble-free terms for "prepare". She grew up indignant and envious and now feels that everytime he beckons her she has to run to him. yet, if he does not choose her, she won't pay attention from him for days. I now have a stunning guy that loves being a dad. he's mid 30's and his son is basically about a youngster. They do lots mutually and he's taking him as much as attainable. he's grew to become down many roles to stay close to his son so he would be an lively Dad. He has grew to become my ideas around approximately lifeless beat Dad's so, it truthfully relies upon on the guy, the relationship between the ascertain and infant and the couple/x-couple i think. no longer probable specific, this may well be one for a cut back to make your mind up huh?
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