I have been married for 6 years now and its been one long miserable marriage to me as the husband...
i am the step-dad to her three boys and i have none of my own,
my wife does not share the same intemacy in anything that i am into, be it hobbies, or sexual, she always needs to make appointments for sex or it seems, it cant just be spuntanious, she is never up for it either. so that was not in or marriage for a long time now, i was unhappy, emotionally and phisically, not to mention that she does not want to combine incomes and have one account. i want out two years ago I met someone that cares
very deeply about me and i know without a doubt that she would be my soulmate, we enjoy and have the same passion for life in a mutual way .
i told my wife that i want out for real and she does no wnat it of course! and now she is wanting to try harder for the marriage. and i have falling out of love with her. i am just looking for support in my feelings right now
2007-02-15 03:33:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you married your wife you agreed to stick it out through for better or worse. Now you have the worse and you want to run. All because there is someone who has been waiting in the wings. Do you think that is fair? Maybe if you hadn't been dreaming of the girl on the side you could have been putting some more effort into the marriage too. I'm not saying that the fault all lies with you. Your wife should have put the work in too. But she wants to save your marriage and you owe it to both of you to try to make an effort. So many people just walk out on a marriage without so much as a second thought. Where is the commitment that you made to your wife. Marriage is supposed to be forever not until something better comes along.
2007-02-15 03:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's little to late for your wife to want to try and work things out now. I understand how you must feel and I agree with what you are doing. If the love is gone there is no reason to really make it work. Your wife should've been trying to work on the marriage a long time ago. Go with your feelings on this one. Because once the love has gone there is nothing else left.
2007-02-15 03:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be happy, 6 years is long enough of a chance to "try harder". Life is short and we are so busy with daily lives to see that everyone deserves love and happiness. I'd file for a divorce and go for someone that cares from the beginning and not when it's to late to salvage anything.
2007-02-15 03:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your seeking affirmation for having an affair. Not happening here. There is a reason she won't share her life with you. She probably knew that ultimately you would cheat, so why give your life to someone that will treat you the way you have treated her. You met someone else TWO YEARS AGO? HMMMM Wonder why your marriage is failing.
2007-02-15 03:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by dancing11freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the good thing is that you dont have kids with her.and yes you do have the right to look for your soul mate.and to bad for you wife that know she wants to make up for loss time.you need to leave her and be happy with the women that makes you happy.I hope everything works out.
2007-02-15 03:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dulce O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are. You are justified in your feelings.
2007-02-15 03:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋