About 8-9 years ago my sisters boyfriend of 6 years raped me in my parents house *he lived with us*..My sister never believed me after i told her and i even had to take a lie detector test to prove and get him to confess on a tapped phone. She still didnt believe me and told me to tell everyone he didnt rape me because she loved him still. I told her i could not and her and him broke up after he confessed to her..In the past he has also abused her emotionally and physically. They broke up and during christmas time she told me she is talking to him again and how happy she is..She said it like she didnt care that he friggin raped me. I was soo hurt but didnt say anything,i know if her and him get back together that i will one day see him again and i cant go through the pain of that. I just cant believe this and dont know what to do about this situation. Everyone in my family knows and they dont care at all. what would u do and why is she doing this to me?
2007-02-15 03:32:04 · 13 answers · asked by cheerychumms 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I did press charges,he went to jail for a little while and it was put on his record as a sexual offender.
2007-02-15 03:39:45 · update #1
Your needs mental help. If shes ok with that obviulsy she isnt all there in the head. You need to say away from her. She doesnt care about you like she should. Im sorry you had to go through that and still are going through it. I dont what else to tell you sorry.
2007-02-15 03:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation. Your sister trusted you with information that most people never talk about. If you were to go to your Mom with this information you will be violating the trust of your sister, even though your intentions are good. I would suggest talking to your sister. Make her understand that what happened was not her fault. I'm sure she feels guilty however she is not guilty of anything. She was a victim but will be a survivor. Talk to her about talking to your Mom. Propose that you both tell your Mom together, this will give her a little confidence as you are there with her. It will also allow your Mom a chance to help your sister heal. Be the good sister you are and continue to support your sister as she moves along with the healing process. I'm truly sorry that you and her have to go through this. The first response said assassinate the guy, I'd be lying if I said this was not the first thing that came into my mind. I wish you both the best of luck.
2016-05-24 03:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about what your family is doing to you. Hey, you need to deal with the emotional damage that you are carrying and you need to do it now. So go talk to a professional, a school counselor or anyone that can help you. I know believe me i can identify with you, i went through a similar situation but you can do. Just don't let him see that he is still affecting because that will give him more power over you. If he is in a room avoid him and if he tries to hold a conservation speak whatever is on your mind but do not get too emotional he will like that. Your sister is very selfish and you need to let them know how deeply it had affected you whether they want to hear or not... be strong and be careful
2007-02-15 03:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Alise 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg hun I am so glad that you got him in trouble for what he did. thats really good. your sister really shouldnt go back with him if he abused her, plus he raped you which is really wrong. I was also raped and my mom did not care at all. he didnt get in trouble, we didnt press charges. well, if you have to face him again if that ever does happen stay strong. I have to face the guy who raped me every single day. just try to talk to your sister and ask her how she would feel if she was in your sitation. she shouldnt choose guy over her own sister, her own blood
2007-02-16 15:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by kyah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was ur sister bf of 6yrs n was living with u guys, right. Love is blind. Tat's y ur sister cant accepted/believed te truth. If u're old enough, u can consider moving out so tat u wont get 2 see him. Y put yourself in tis kind of situation. B good 2 yourself, its ur life.
2007-02-15 03:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS DESPERATE AND STUPID AND BETTER GET A CLUE BEFORE SHE WINDS UP MARRYING A MAN THAT GOES AROUND AND RAPES WOMEN. I WAS RAPED AND NO ONE BELIEVED ME EITHER- IN A HOSPITAL! SO I KNOW. LET THE BITCHFIND OUT ON HER OWN AND YOU STAY AWAY AND LET THE FAMILY KNOW STRONGLY THAT IT IS OVER WITH THE BULLSHIT. WHEN HE RAPES ONE OF HER KIDS THEN SHE'LL ******* KNOW ABOUT IT ALL. MY FRIENDS STEPFATHER RAPED HER AT 10 AND GOT HER PREGNANT AND THE MOM KNEW AND DID NOTHING AND LATER SAID- OH I WAS LONELY" PLEASE!!!!!!!! YOU SISTER IS A PATHETIC ***** AND I WILL NOT LIE, SHE NEEDS TO GROW THE **** UP AND IF A RAPIST IS ALL SHE CAN SETTLE FOR, THEN SHE'S MUCH WORSE THAT YOU. YOU MOVE OUT OR MOVE ON AND IF YOUR UNDERAGE GET HELP, IF NOT MOVE ON. EMAIL TO CHAT IF YOU MUST.
2007-02-15 03:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Press charges against him
2007-02-15 03:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh...does your family have mental issues? Not to be mean, but seriously...thats a serious thing!! Press charges against his *** and you will never have to see him again!!!
2007-02-15 03:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, that is completely disgusting that your sister would ever even think of taking him back. if i were in your position, i would move away and never speak to her again. she's made it blatently obvious that she's putting him before you, and there's no point in you sticking around to be continuously hurt every time you see them.
2007-02-15 03:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS PRETTY MESSED UP ESP. IF YOUR FAMILY DOESN'T CARE. IF I WERE YOU I WOULD STAY AS FAR AWAY AS POSSIBLE FROM HIM AND YOUR FAMILY. IT SEEMS THAT KNOW ONE CARES AND WANTS TO PROTECT YOU AND THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN IS YOU!!! I WOULD HAVE NO PART IN THAT!! GOOD LUCK
2007-02-15 03:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋