indecisiveness,confusion,anger-how to overcome these.?

Question

how to cope with stress,how to control anger.,how to bear with rumours.how to become more confident to face realities of life.
indecisiveness regarding important decisions in life-how to overcome these.how to fight those who are trying to pull you down.,who are trying to depress you.
some sort of vague pain is killing me inside.why so.how to overcome this and become normal.what to do when you become so weak as to find no hope in life,its vaccum everywhere and you feel there is nothing in life.how to face stressful events.how to sleep happily whole night without any thoughts interfering,without any bad dreams.
how to bear with parental pressure,social pressure,and constant abuse and how to forget recurring bad events of past.how to forgive those who hurt you without nurturing vengeful thoughts on them.

Answer 1

Try very hard to keep negative thoughts and feelings out of your mind. There must be some positives in your life. Focus on those positives. Everytime a negative one comes along, push it away by immediately thinking about one of the good ones. Make some good feelings by stepping out of yourself and finding ways to be of help or service to others who are less fortunate than you. Each good thing you do for someone else, will make you feel wonderful, usefull, appreciated, and necessary. It will take a concentrated effort from you to effect these changes in your life, and I wish you luck and happiness.

Answer 2

Try some personality development course (traditional Indian ones) like Art of Living's Part-1 course or many such courses available in the market. Me personally would recommend Sri Sri Ravishankar's Sudarshana Kriya as a solution to all the problems that you have stated (I can vouch for it because I travelled this path)

Answer 3

The Effects of Fear
Fear is the great paralyser. It will keep you from making positive changes in your life and thus retard your recovery from depression. Recognize your fears and resolve to overcome them. This is an area in which I believe a therapist can be very helpful.

Fear persuades you to set easier goals and do less than your are capable of.

Fear triggers internal defense systems and fools you into thinking that you have perfectly good reasons not to change.

Fear, especially fear of failure or disappointment, reduces the number of available alternatives or keeps you from pursuing them.

Fear, particularly fear of making mistakes, causes indecisiveness and confusion. It stops you from knowing what you really want.

Fear warps your perception of you life and what you can do to make it better.

Fear keeps you from asking for help when you need it or benefiting from the emotional support offered to you.

Fear keeps you from asserting yourself and persuades you to settle for what you must settle for instead of going after what you want.

To calm your fears, you develop (and get stuck with) unhealthy habits and behavior problems.

Fear often makes you give up just one step short of your goal.

Fear keeps you from taking risks.

Answer 4

My gosh you sound like me ten years ago. Please take steps towards nipping this in the b. When I was like that I was so caught-up in myself that I had no idea how much I was hurting the people who love me. My parents, my kids, my friends, strangers, anyone who came in contact with me. Don't get me wrong I've always been kind and tried to not let my "cronic", hopeless, inferiorities, and crummy outlook on life affect others, but it does. Searching for truth is the remedy. My problems were not so unique, so elite, mankind has struggled with this stuff for as long as they've been alive. I don't know why they don't teach us this in kindergarden because the fact that some may impose life-debilitating limitations on ourselves is a genuine reality. We can easily get so caught-up in ourselves, our emotions and feelings, that we lose sight of or are blind to anything other than our own world. Anymore... everything is my teacher. Learn new things. Do new things. Some favorite quotes; "Blessed is the man too busy to worry in the day and too tired to worry at night" "To forgive is to set a prisoner free, and finding that the prisoner is you". Our minds are our gardens to which our wills ang choices are our gardeners". You might hate this...but pick up Dr. Lauras' "Bad Childhood, Good Life". Ummmm just try it. For 15 bucks or whatever. Please don't dismiss it because of her character. That's a big secret of life itself. Never deny a potencial sorce of knowlege because of the character of the teacher.

Answer 5

To fully understand the totality and intensity of situation the person described is experiencing may be difficult. In the face of it initially it might seem herculean. However, there are very good examples in history, who have gone through very rough and tough times and have outlived their torments. Anne Frank in the cellar of her German persecution days, did manage to make great notings in her diary. Henkl, in the German concentration camp resolved in his mind not to allow his mind to be tortured, however much he was, physically. Gandhi, encouraged people by reminding them that "we will be suppressed only if we allow others to take away our freedom". I suggest you read the "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey. It would give you great insight into how to tackle the situation you have described. And, if it is you who are undergoing this situation - take heart - have a look at the plight of some of the children in Africa. You must cheer-up. You have access to the Net. Tell yourself, "I will overcome - no one can steal my happiness from me, come what may. I control it."

Answer 6

Firstly, just sit and think about what all had happened, in proper sequence and order, list out where you had been reasons for such problems to arise or how problem came up because of someone's activity......what is the effect occurred......what is the thing to be set right......how could it be done......these are the questions you need to answer.......there are no problems without solutions.......when you are going to really forgive people who hurt you......you will not even feel that you are forgiving..... it will come just like that......now......daily add on to your prayer to god... LET ME HAVE THE ABILITY TO CHANGE WHAT CAN BE CHANGED.....LET ME HAVE THE HEART TO ACCEPT THINGS THAT CANT BE CHANGED.....LET ME HAVE THE KNOWLEDGE TO IDENTIFY WHICH COULD BE CHANGED AND WHICH COULD NOT BE CHANGED......

Answer 7

I had the same feeling before. I have found this to be personally beneficial.

Just pray "Let everyone be happy; Let everyone be well" in your mother tongue.

When you think of everyone include animals, plants and insects - all living beings.

I found my fears and worries gradually subsiding on their own as I sank into the meaning of this sentence.

This is just a passing phase and you will be OK !

Answer 8

Take some time to develope things in yourself that will improve your self-image. Do it slowly step by step, pretty soon you will like yourself more then you will learn to trust yourself. If you trust in yourself, in your own power, in your own unique vision then you can make decisions without the dismay of doubt and confusion.

Answer 9

We are moulded by our environ ment .all that we learn is from those around us .our brain is just like a computers hard disc and all tha is instlled in it from the day our brain is deeloped when we were in the womb of our mother form the operating system.Just as our mother eats for us and breaths for us while we were in her womb ,she also thinbks for us while our brain was in the formatie stage.if the motehr is is in a good evironment and ishappy , the brain of the foetus also enjoys it and moulds the mind in a healthy and happy manner .
whie as children after birth , our mentality , our behaviour ,our moods andour thoughts are all moulded by theenvironment that we grow in.if fortyunatelyu we have good and intelligent people around uds ,we learn good things and manners and develop our intelligence along the line of the cultur of the people around us . As children we do not have mush of responsibilities snd duties and we grow in a carefree style . as we reach adolescence and and adulthood , we are requird to share the responsibilities and the duties of the eleders in the family and contru=ibute our mite to the society and family .Here our burden starts increasing . Our character ability to face the challenges of life creates stress , fear , courage , inteeeligence .confidence etc .When we prepar to meet the challenges of life , naturally meet anxiety , strain, stress arising out of interpersaonnel relaionships in the society , family etc .We have toi learn a balancing act ,in that we can not hae our own way and shoudlbe able to be flexible in our dealing with ohters in the society we live in.These create confusion due to lack of experience and anxiety due to fear of failure and the like . It is all natural in the process of life .once we gain experience we become more confident to face all sorts of challenges in life and in the day to day affairs of life .it is all part of life . It is life

Answer 10

prayer and a psychologist