I do and my husband is anything but. (He wasn't this way when we got married.) His famous quote lately is, "you're the only woman ----- " (who would act like this, get upset about this, be hurt by this,etc)
He's young and had ONE relationship before me (that one lasted all of 3 months while he was in Korea and she was in the states)... so HOW WOULD HE KNOW?!
My friends are like me and expect at least some romance sometimes from their husbands (ESPECIALLY Valentine's day) but I just wanted to know how other women feel about this issue?
Is he right, do most women not care?
2007-02-15 03:18:32 · 18 answers · asked by Nina Lee 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do romantic things for him all the time, most of the time just because and other times b/c I'm trying to hint in a subtle way. I just feel like the give and take things should go both ways and I can only give so much.
2007-02-15 03:37:23 · update #1
Yes, need/want romance and it should be really good too! If he's only had one short term relationship before you, maybe he just doesn't know what to do. Unfortunately, the ball falls in your court to be the teacher here. Now, you can have fun with it or not. But, you might have to be the one to tell him specifically what you need him to do, buy a book or game. I was married to a guy like this (ended up divorcing him because he didn't want to have kids) and I started buying myself flowers once a week from the grocery store. I told him, I really like to spoil myself with the flowers and it's my treat. It took him a couple of weeks, but then he started picking up the flowers for me all on his own. He didn't know, his mom didn't care for flowers. I had to show him what I wanted him to do and eventually he did it.
2007-02-15 03:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I want romance, and I care. My guy and I have recently started dating, he has children and is a little older than I am, he's been in two relationships, ,one in which his ex-wife was cheating on him. So...I feel like this is a fresh start, but sometimes I don't understand why he'll be way in another room when I'm somewhere else. Some guys need more space, some don't. I hate having to try to figure things out and it just exhausts me. But of course we expect sweet, romantic things from our husbands and boyfriends and girlfriends and wives on special holidays or occasions. It feels great. It feels better when you are surprised with something no matter how big or small. Anyway, I wish you luck with this. :-)
2007-02-15 11:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Girl, Empty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman that I know want the same thing so it's not only you most of the time it's the man and he says those things just so you will except what he's offering. If you went and got this attention from someone else then he would change and that's so sad. I'm not telling you to go after someone else I 'm just telling you how it is out here. Try to spice it up a little and make it more exciting to get the attention that you want and try not to nag him because that's a turn off.
2007-02-15 11:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the guys perspective...I would appreciate it if SHE acknowledged all the things I do around the house myself...traditional things like laundry/cooking and cleaning. Then I take the time to bring her a robe when she gets out of the shower or make breakfast on the weekends...we both work, but sometimes it seems like I'm not appreciated...
so, where is the happy meeting point?
2007-02-15 11:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all women need romance, no matter their size, age or colour. since he has not been in a relationship where he should know better, and i believe you love him, you have to teach him how to be romantic but dont be too obvious about it. do things for him, things he's not expecting. and also be patient while you are doing it because he will not catch on immediately but he surely will with time and will reciprocate. dont just limit the things you do or say to him for occassions, do it all the time.
2007-02-15 11:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Frances O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women care about romance. that's foreplay for us. Tell him that. My husband tried that on valentines day one year and he never heard the end of it. For god sake,men, make an effort at least once a year. It makes us women happy which means.....
2007-02-15 11:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by sonart1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is wrong you are not the only woman. I love to be romanced - doesn't have to happen every day but every once in awhile to let me know I'm special to him is nice!
2007-02-15 11:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by MI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman need romance like men need sex!! It is a crucial factor in a relationship...however most men forget that after a while!
2007-02-15 11:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I CARE and I crave romance too. Some men are just insensitive to it, some aren't. It all depends on what you want, it's a trade off. This trait for that trait.
2007-02-15 11:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman wants some romance in her life. He needs to understand and respect that it something that is important to you.
2007-02-15 11:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋