I am so confused yet so sad. I have been dating my now boyfriend for about 5 months and the first 3 months were out of this world. Honestly, we got along as the best of friend, we laughed together and he was there any time I needed him for a shoulder to cry on. I am completely and utterly attracted to the guy. He is honest, sincere, loyal, TRUSTWORTHY, HOT, has a beautiful house, and I KNOW he would be a Wonderful father. If I had the choice of any father for my "imaginary" children it would 150% be him. He is completely real. Although 6 months before we started dating I dated a complete jerk for a year. He was abusive, he was a cop until he got caught for abusing me, all in all short story he ended up getting fired and he is no longer a cop, got caught for DUI, is 35 and cannot keep a girlfriend cause he is a player. Although, he was able to steal my heart my sweet talking me and I ended up very hurt when we broke up - I think he still owns a piece of my heart although I hate him at the same time.
So that being said, this relationship I am in is my 1st non dramatic relationship and I feel as though something is missing. I hate saying what I dont like about him cause it makes me sound ridiculous but I feel like his niceness is too much sometimes, I analyze everything he does. My ex could dress up in a pink tu-tu with one of my bra's and I would have just laughed but honestly if my new beau were to do that I think I would judge him based on it. I still enjoy spending time with him, I enjoy having sex with him and I enjoy relaxing with him but for some reason I dont feel like I love him like I am supposed to. I sometimes get frustrated with how much he kisses me or is all over me but I think I can over it. What I am asking is why is this happening. During the 1st 3 months things became very serious. We moved in together and I was 150% sure I wanted to start my life with him, now I question myself and I dont know why. Is my gut trying to tell me something or am I just not used to having a normal/healthy relationship. If there is anything in this world that I want to work it would be this relationship. I know I could have an incredible life with him. But I feel stressed cause I dont know if this is what love is supposed to feel like?!?!?!
Or could it be because for the past 5 months we have spent EVERY night together. Honestly every night?!?!?!
2007-02-15 02:59:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's because you are not used to this type of relationship..... BUT I do think you are rushing. It's way too soon to move in with someone so soon. You don't even know him long enough to be able to fully evaluate the whole relationship. Healthy to be with each other every night? I don't think so. You should have your own life and be independent.
2007-02-15 03:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert, and I don't know you or your BF, but perhaps one or more of the following is happening:
1. you crave drama in your relationships and this one is uneventful so you don't feel that it is love
2. you were looking for someone to complete you when actually you need to look inward for that.
3. because he's the complete opposite of the last guy you dated you figured he was the one when he wasn't
4. you're both suffocating each other- "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and all that mess...
whatever it is, the best advice I can give you is to look inside yourself for an answer and communicate your feelings with him
good luck
2007-02-15 03:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by r_penzo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...is there anything you forgot to tell us? If you are be coming unsure of the relationship then you need to address the issues which make you feel unsure. Without doing this the insecurities will mount anda the relationship will fail.
2007-02-15 03:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of all of us have a sprint loopy in each and each individuals. i'm generally very suspicious of all people who claims they are thoroughly sane. loopy human beings can now and back be "smarter" than ordinary human beings via fact they have a different way of finding at issues and don't constantly sense the would desire to slot in or think of like all and sundry else. that's to no longer say that they are constantly amazing yet they'd now and back furnish unique how you are able to look at a topic.
2016-10-02 04:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal. We all want what is bad for us, and like craziness.
Fun and nice can be boring... (not many movies are made about that)
News and Movies revolve around evil, which attracts us.
2007-02-15 03:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Santa Barbara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your being crazy. This guys is treating you like you are a princess... why would you want to change that... especially since you have been treated like dirt. It sounds perfect.... but you need to think about what you really want.
2007-02-15 03:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by ~J*me~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a trip by yourself or with some girlfriends. See if you miss him or not just give yourself some time to think it through.
2007-02-15 03:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Bec 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look it's probably nothing ur last relationship was sick. Cool it and stop spending every night with him go out with ur friends.
2007-02-15 03:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get some therapy i think that abusive relationship messed with your head
2007-02-15 03:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by JennLee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as you asked, CRAZY
2007-02-15 03:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by SKINSIS.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋