We tell our kids not to talk to strangers, but it's been proved that family is even more dangerous.......?

Question

So why do we get so uptight about paedophiles and the like when the majority of child abusers are relatives?
A stranger shouldn't necessarily be branded a bad person....that is a gross over-reaction.
The latest incident of a 2 year old being raped and murdered [allegedly by her uncle] makes me despair of the human race.
What say others?

Answer 1

i know what you mean i know a few people who have been abused and it's been family members.
can't understand how people can abuse children it's absolutely discus ting they deserve the death penalty

Answer 2

I think you're making generalizations to substantiate your argument. Perhaps the reason relatives and known persons cause more harm is because we are taught to avoid strangers. Thus, a stranger doesn't have the same opportunity as a relative. While it may be easy for you to sit back and thump your chest and say, "that's exactly what I'm talking about"; what do you expect to happen?

Believe it or not, the human race is getting better. If you want to experience a human race in despair, look at the 14th and 15th centuries or perhaps go further back in history. The events going on back then were ruthless.

Answer 3

I think since child abuse and molestation has been given a national priority and brought an awareness of this out in the open more children today are being taught it is ok to tell an adult "NO". In my generation and my girls really, we were taught you obey an adult and nothing was ever said if one should touch you inappropriately or uncomfortable to you to tell someone or even the person that has touched you that you don't like it. But on the flip side of all this, I sometimes wonder if we have not gone to the extreme on this issue. My Granddaughter (8) tells everyone, male and female not to look at her privies (privates). She will yell for me to come into the bathroom to see some of the funny things she makes on the shower wall with her foam soap and when I come in the room she says "don't look at my privies, Memaw". I have tried to explain to her the difference and how it sounds, referring to the old children's fable about the Boy Who Cried Wolf and I hope she is starting to understand a little. We should talk to the younger generations about wrongdoings of others not just strangers in stores and playgrounds and on their way to schools but family members and neighbors alike, another people don't generally associate with harming our children are people of profession..doctors and dentists, a child predator can be from any walk of life.

Answer 4

If there weren't people who went around asking children to "help them look for their puppy" only to get them in their car and hurt them... there wouldn't be "stranger danger." It isn't just for pedophiles... it's for anyone who you are afraid might hurt your kids.

You are right, most people who sexually abuse kids are family members and thats why, like someone else mentioned... we also have to teach them when they need to tell if someone is hurting them.

I certainly don't brand all strangers as "bad people" and I try to teach my kids to be polite... but if a stranger wants my kid to get in their car... or go somewhere with them... and they get offended when my kids won't do it. that's their problem.

If someone is too stupid to see what's going on in the world, and so selfish that he can't sit back and think about what he would do to protect someone he cares about... he has no business talking to my kid in the first place.

Someone else said ... "we need to teach them WHAT TYPES of people to be careful of" I didn't know there was a "TYPE" to look out for. Maybe the majority of people you've seen on the news haven't been the ones that are buying their way out of trouble(?)

Answer 5

I think if someone does somthing like that to a child they're evil - but the fact is they could be anyone - a family member, a friend, someone you used to go to school with etc..
A paedo tried to get me once and at first I didnt know anything about him, but then I found out he was friends someone in my family and he'd probably met me before. Knowing he had connections with a member of my family, and that he was trusted by them made it worse. You've just got to be carefull who you trust and strangers can be anyone, good or bad.

Answer 6

they may start with family members, but when released back into general population, they will not care where the next victim comes from.
Pedophiles are every where, and parents should be knowledgeable and teach their children accordingly.
definitely a sick world we are living in.

Answer 7

Although you do have a valid point, you can't increase the risk to strangers aswell!

Answer 8

yes you saying that is true, but we still have to make our children aware of stranger danger, and the types of strangers not to speak to!

Answer 9

thats a good point, ive never thought about it that way!