You get nothing out of it. He gets all of the benefits of a wife. You get no benefits of a legal document. I am starting to date after the demise of my marriage. I am finding that so many women have lived with men and then were devestated when he left them or put them out. Men have all of the advatanges. Why do it? What were you thinking?
2007-02-15 02:04:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the unreading, I am a guy who basically can't get over how vulnerable and gullable women are now. Haven't been on the dating scene in a while and it is amazing how men can get women to do things.
2007-02-15 02:10:43 · update #1
DREW: We are revealing the secret of how dumb they are for doing this but they still won't get it. We tried, man.
2007-02-15 02:15:29 · update #2
Somebody's got to kill the spiders.
2007-02-15 02:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I know for me, I would live with a man without being married b/c I'm not ready for the lifelong commitment of marriage. It's a middle step between dating and forever. I think it's inaccurate to suggest we don't get any benefits just b/c there isn't a legal document. Men aren't always the main breadwinner, and women aren't always the "housewife". I know that my significant other is far more domestic than I am, for example - he does all the cooking.
I think that it is old-fashioned to assume that a woman needs to be economically supported, while a man needs domestic support. I think you give support to each other.
Also, if you don't trust your man to stay with you, why would you get married in the first place?
2007-02-15 10:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never marry a man that I didn't live with first. You need time to really get to know someone before you ever agree to get married. The only way you will truly understand the commitment that a marriage takes is to test the waters first with your honey.
He gets all the benefits and perils of a wife. I get all the benefits and perils of a husband. It's a 2-way street. How can you think that the woman gets nothing out of it??
2007-02-15 10:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most women have a weakness--they can't deal with loneliness. This is why they become involved with substandard men and why these guys make use of females. The happiest women are the ones who have conquered the issue of loneliness. These females live rewarding single lives and try to involve themselves with men who treat them with genuine kindness. If you want a woman like this, look for someone who's not shacking up and who's accomplishing something. Of course, you'll have to be about something yourself, since these girls are the "creme de la creme" and they don't waste time with bums. Best wishes!
2007-02-15 11:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, as you said, I still get all the benefits of a relationship without the intrusion of legal issues. Are you saying that I should marry him so I'm protected when he leaves? If I was with a guy that was going to leave me anyway, why would I want to marry him just to create the legal and financial hassles of having to go through a divorce?
2007-02-15 10:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by selena n 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of women have relationships for reasons other than legal documentation. Marriage is not on every females to do list. We have other choices in the 21st century and attitudes have changed. Whether it is better or worse is not for me to say, but it's always a good thing to have choices.
2007-02-15 10:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women's lib tells females to do whatever the guy does- but that makes them only used up in the end, look at the bitter old feminists, this is a man's world. Be moral, make it legal, then you are protected legally by him not coming home with his new wife, after a long week end away.
you are entitled to the status of wife, not live-in 'mistress', In God's eyes 'sex without marraige' is fornication, read where fornicators go- Be respectable and have pride in yourself. Marraige is holy, but girls today will jump at any bone like a dog, w/no moral compass.
2007-02-15 10:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because I love him...simple. I don't have to get a legal document. But, I in case we do marry, I would like to know if I can live with him or not before that happens. I don't think of it in terms of advantages or disadvantages. This isn't a competition, it's about love. Don't think of it as "what can I get out of this." Just follow your heart and trust in your partner.
Oh, I get it now after reading your notes. You are just trying to prove how stupid women are. Your first question made it out like men are selfish. Gee, stupid me for not understanding your being not clear. It's not stupidity. Men may ask what they get out of it, but women don't. We think differently then you do...it doesn't make us stupid.
2007-02-15 10:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you don't hear those ladies saying iy cost them such amout of money to get out of it. Some people are fine without marriage. Then again you get women who are very dependent on their spouse, when they need to be more independent. i have never been there as far as living with a man but they have lived with me and nothing is free here in my home. everything is 100% 100% here and will remain that way.
2007-02-15 10:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely agree with you on that, but so many men and women do it time and time again. Living with your spouse should only be for husband and wife, if you do everything before marriage then there's absolutely nothing to look forward too.
2007-02-15 10:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by badma'amajama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, women can be devastated after the ending of a marriage,,,,, also,,,,,, and even with that legal piece of paper they often have to fight and maneuver to even get some of what is rightfully theirs for them and any children. the one advantage i see, having done both in my life, is that if you live together,,,,, you wont hang around so long or tolerate as much,,,, as you might do when married,,,,,,for me it was also , when i was younger, easier to hang onto some autonomy,,,, and yes women will tend to get shafted at the end of either type of relationship,,, my advice for anyone cohabiting in any way,,,,,,, make purchases in your name,,,,, dont use your money for expendable things, such as food,, utilities etc,,, contribute your money to actual items, the tv ,,,, household things,,,, while it might not matter as much in a marriage,,,, it certainly does in living together,,,,, and actually if you do that and live together, you can get out with most everything you put into it, as opposed to having to share as in marriage,,,,,,,,,,
finally,,, yes men often benefit more from relationships then women, in the material and daily sense,, i personally after two marriages and two live-togethers, see no need to live with anyone,,,, i can love and be in a relationship , yet maintain my own separate home,,,,, that solves all the problems , lol,,
ps: i think enough men do it right, whether married or living with someone,,,,, to instill hope in the females,,,,often when a woman says, no way no how will i live with a man,,,, she is older,,,,, fortunately for our society,, younger women still accept them,,,,,, otherwise you would have homes of women and children, with the males , i dont know, living in dormitories probably lol
2007-02-15 10:15:37 · answer #11 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋