This is a pretty long story that needs to be condensed. My wife and I are in couples therapy. We are going through the first big hurdle in our relationship after seven years and four kids. I was very stressed out over the last month or so- intense work related problems, trouble with a very good friend I have known since HS, four kids, plus my wife has gone away to two conferences for the first time ever, as she is getting more independent. Some of her actions were disturbing, she lied to me about two of these guys being gay- and I snooped into her email account and looked at her phone 2X. I told her I did as it made me feel like crap and now we are barely talking. It has been a week of ice cold- but I am giving her the space she has asked for. We had planned to go to a romantic overnighter and I asked her if she still thought it was a good idea day before yesterday and she said, "We always have wanted to go, so lets do it." I dont want to do more damage. What should I do?
2007-02-15 01:46:14 · 8 answers · asked by findingselflove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should go for it and go... Love her and cherish her and treat her like a queen. Hold her and be there for her. Be her best friend. Love here where she is at and buy the way surprise her with some flowers and maybe even some candy. Talk with your wife and communicate with her. Let her know how much this bothers you and ask her what you can do to try to improve upon the marriage and things in it.
2007-02-15 02:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the overnighter and expect nothing. By that I mean have a good time but don't expect things to change because of one night.
Your wife having a career and moving forward in it should not scare you, you seem to be insecure about something. As for her lying about her male friends being gay...hate to say it but she may just have been saying that to avoid getting the third degree. I don't think you should be checking her phone or email unless you have good reason to believe she is cheating.
2007-02-15 01:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make this the most romantic get away ever! Make her feel like she is the only woman on the earth. This might just be the kick start your marriage needs. Tip: continue this behavior at home too. Surprise her occasionally with a romantic dinner or evening in the bedroom.
2007-02-15 02:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Log out of Yahoo Answers, walk away from the computer and sit down and talk to your wife. Maybe this romantic get a way will be a good opprotunity for you to talk things over with her.
2007-02-15 01:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
flow on the overnighter. Make her sense as though she's the only lady interior the room. tell her you like her. flow to an exceedingly sturdy eating place for supper. Get some sturdy wine/champagne and tell her how proud you're of her. that would desire to be a sturdy start up. stay far flung from arguing and basically make the overnighter approximately the two one among you.
2016-10-02 04:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it real slow and agree with her. Talk in a loving way and stay out of argumentsand no yelling. Candle light dinner with a long sexuale night ahead. but go slow
2007-02-15 01:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't have gotten mad that you snooped if she had nothing to hide. Mad as a response to some peeking is always a defense in my experience. Go on your trip, act normal and pleasant, and keep snooping.
2007-02-15 01:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is you and your wife need a talk!!!!!!!!
2007-02-15 01:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋