I need advice or therapy?

Question

Now, all through my life I’ve been acting like I want a serious relationship, and then when it sits in my lap, I find all other excuses not to be bothered.
I just got out of stupid relationship with a man, he’s a cop, he that has 3 kids by 3 different women. Now I’m actually a bi-sexual woman that has a girlfriend at the present moment, but she has a boyfriend and I don’t. Why oh why do I put myself in these situations, her boyfriend is a CO and he works at night into the AM and I like a fool wait until he goes to work and go to spend the night with her and leave for work in the morning. One time he almost caught me there and I had to jump thru the window, thank god she lives on the 1st floor. She’s actually the aggressive female and I’m the fem. Now on his days off which is 2 days, I can’t hear from her or see her until he goes back to work, I keep asking myself do I really love this woman or is it just a challenge. I can tell you guys tons of stories, but I’m ready to be in a serious relationship, something keeps playing in my head, a psychic told me that I would never get married, and I think that’s playing in my psyche. I want to break up with this woman.
Can someone help me? Is there a Doctor Phil out there some where? Why do I do these things to myself and know that’s not what I really want.

Answer 1

Well first of all you contradicted yourself, by expressing pain over not being able to talk to this woman for two whole days, then saying you want to break up with her, if the first was true then the two days would be a reprieve. Secondly, judging from most men I know, which is alot, then he probably wouldn't mind in the least having you around and joining in on the activities, which brings me to ask, does he not allow her to have girlfriends? It's perfectly normal for women to have other women friends, I can understand a man getting jealous over the male friends, but not women, so either he's controlling or it's your girlfriend who is keeping things seperate, perhaps she's afraid he'll like you more than he likes her. Thirdly I've lost count of all the people who would never marry and are, as well as those who would surely marry and didn't. All marriage amounts to is the state of mind, and a piece of paper, and if the state of mind is wrong than the paper isn't worth a damn, it's just a legal headache, or a way to get insurance. The trick to being happy and successful in a long term serious relationship is to first and foremost being complete and happy with yourself, all by yourself. Confidence and self esteem are crucial, you seem to need to work on both, and don't worry about what any psychic has told you, anyone can be a psychic, and all people are wrong at one point or another. Free Will is something that can most certainly over ride what fate has in store for you, it's how you play the cards, not what you are dealt.
A question you must ask yourself is how are you going to settle down with one person if you prefer being bisexual? You need to be honest and upfront with people right from the start, perhaps if you found a man who really enjoys bringing another woman in and knows what he's getting into, or a woman for that matter, but the key is honesty. You need not ever be the other woman, the "other woman" never comes out on top and can never look at themselves with confidence, self respect, high self esteem, basically self love in general.

Answer 2

listen there are plenty on bisexual women out there that are very beautiful and smart. don't be afraid to be alone for a while until you find the right man or woman for yourself. don't be the mistress. don't you want to be #1 not #2. c'mon you're smart ... get yourself out of this situation.

Answer 3

You are playing mind games with yourself! Please go see a therapist. NOT a psychic, a real therapist with a diploma hanging on the wall.