We've been married for six years and have three kids. It just seems like what I have to tell him isn't important anymore. I tell him things and then bring them up a day later and he either says I didn't tell him or that he wasn't listening. We love each other, but just don't seem to be communicating well.
2007-02-15 01:35:49 · 21 answers · asked by socmum16 ♪ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I used to think that he was being rude, but I’ve changed my mind on this. Please remember that men can usually only do one thing at a time. So you’re interrupting him.
Playing video games is no different then reading a book. If you where reading a book and he just started talking to you, you would say he’s being rude. So if you have something to say to him. Excuses yourself into the conversation and wait until he pays attention to you, it will take a minute for his mind to shift gears. Once you are the focus of his attention he will remember what you said.
2007-02-15 02:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If what you are saying is truly important, why not wait for a time where he's not distracted. If it wasn't the video game, it'd be the TV or the kids. I see the point that you need to tell him something important, but unless you tell him it's important or point out that he needs to put the game on pause for a second you can't really blame him. If the shoe was on the other foot would you react the same? You will want to believe that you would give him the reaction you expect from him, but would you really? Just tell him that you need to talk to him when he gets a minute, or ask if he could put the game on pause for a second. If nothing else mention what you need to tell him before you go to bed when it's just the two of you and no distractions.
2007-02-15 09:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you have to say is important then wait until he is not playing the PSP. Are you competing with the PSP? If it is something he really enjoys, let him enjoy it and when he is done he should be a lot more receptive to talking to you. Also realize that it is more than likely that If you were not in the picture, his video games would be no fun at all...
2007-02-15 10:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by findingselflove 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is important, make sure you have his attention. Make him put his PSP down, then talk. Or you can make a time that he will not play, but listen to you. Otherwise, how often are you interupting him? Is this a constant thing? Maybe you are not giving him the down time he needs. Make adult friends outside of your marriage so you have other adults to talk to. Maybe part of the problem is that you are around young kids too much.
2007-02-15 09:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember he is a man. Next once you accept that you have options. Remember you cannot change a person, they have to want to change. But if it is important, leave him notes. Wait until you do have his attention and make sure you just get right to the point. Men are not mind readers, nor do they care about trivial things. You have been married long enough to know better
2007-02-15 09:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by draken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve his undivided attention. He should stop playing if you have something serious to discuss. However if it's something that can wait, you're being rude for interrupting.
Unless he's on PSP all day. In which case you married a child.
2007-02-15 09:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ha Ha!! Mine does the same thing. I'll be talking and he's like
"Uh huh", "Yeah", "Really?" And I know he's not listening. I just laugh. If it's really important, I say "Can you pause that for a minute, I need to tell you something."
2007-02-15 09:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. You need to start taking a class or something. You will become more interesting. You will have something to talk about and absence will make the heart grow fonder. I am not saying that this is your fault because it seems like he has become boring. But get out, let him have the kids one night a week. Just register. Don't ask him because he will talk you out of it.
2007-02-15 09:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we humans (Men & Women) need to be trained. One night ask him a few eas questions that you know he would remember. After he answers correctly, say good job you were listening to me! then reward him..Kiss, rub, ect,,,,. Do that every so often, he will listen more.
Yes may sound silly, but we are human and like stuff like that!
2007-02-15 09:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a man what can I say....women use about 30,000 words a day, men use about 15,000; they have gotten use to tuning out a women's voice from the time they were about two years old.....try taking only five or ten minutes when you have something important to say and get to the point....they get lost in the details
2007-02-15 09:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋