Shes making no effort to stay in contact with me. Recently for no reason her boyfriend who used to be my friend has been talking about me to her behind my back which is making her angry at me. This is all started over a minor argument that was her fault and now her boyfriend is making it worse. She wont answer my phone calls and I havent seen her in 2 months. It just hurts because I have been friends with her since I was 14 and now she doesnt care. Whats so bad is I was always there for her when she went through bad times and things arnt great for me right now, and she doesnt care...Do I need to just let the friendship go?
2007-02-15 01:29:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes people just grow apart (especially around the age you are now) but she will probably come back when it's over with her boyfriend!!! Trust me!! And then you will have to decide whether she is worth it or not!
2007-02-15 01:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to write her a letter expressing how you feel about everything and let her know that you want to save the friendship but if she does not want to , then you will respect her request. If you do not get a positive response concerning whether or not you will continue to be friends, then you do not need to waste any more of your time wondering or worrying about it. You can't squeeze juice from a dry turnip.Stop hurting over the friendship after you have done what you can do to save it. If it does not work out the way that you want it to, move on realizing that at least you tried. You are a sensitive and caring person and for the that reason, you will have many friends in your life.
2007-02-15 01:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel i have a best friend that we have been best friends since the summer of eight grade but know we don't talk that much and she calls other people her best of friends and best of buddies, we have had our arguements bad ones to i said some stuff i should not have but she did something way worse than that, every since then we haven't been close as we were, we r still friends but i feel like were not, it hurts i know just give her time she will tell you the truth maybe she is mad because in the arguement u proved her wrong or something, but she'll come around if she doesn't then let her go.
2007-02-15 04:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by CaramelLuv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and if that does not work
then leave it be..There are more friends in this world
she will eventually come around or not you are a friend but
sometimes we pick Friends we are Friends too, but they
are not friends to us.You have to be a friend to know
what it is like so you were never her friend and you need
to remember just because you are so-called friends
doesn't mean she should always agree with you..I had a best friend for 12 years and I thought the world of her the whole time
she couldn't stand me, I didn't know that I found out just like you are
and it hurt badly..I moved on though..It is not worth you dwelling on let it go after you have a talk with her either she will respect
what you have to say or not and if she doesn't she is not
the friend you thought she was.
2007-02-15 02:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by bananasplit1744 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make one last effort to explain my side to her. Tell her that you truly value her friendship and that you don't want to lose her. Unfortunately, she'll most likely listen to her stupid boyfriend. He's a simple idiot and he's probably ruined this friendship for you... But don't fret. If she truly valued YOU and loved YOU she wouldn't let him ruin this. She'd do some of her own investigating instead of just listening to his poison.
Furthermore, she's selfish. You are having a rough spot right now and she's ignoring it. I had a friend who was a horrible brat to her parents. They hate her now. Whenever she needed help, I was there for her. Whenever she needed a place to stay, she could stay with me. She has no recognition of this whatsoever. She has never done a thing for me and only refers to me now as "an old neighbor." Considering how much nursing I gave her, this is insulting. I now refuse to have anything to do with her.
Your friend is oblivious and selfish. Move on. Good luck!
2007-02-15 01:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by OctoberGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thought is "If you love them set them free, if they don't come back, it was never meant to be"
I had a friend I lost to a boyfriend, I think a lot have gone through that, losing friends over boyfriends. But, it hurt and I was so upset. BUt there was nothing I could do and so I just let it end. 6 months later she called me and we talk every few months or so.
2007-02-15 01:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's a real friend then things will work out. Just don't react to anything. Keep your part in it innocent and let them make the fools of themselves. as for your argument own what is yours appologize and leave it at that. What is meant to be will be
good luck
2007-02-15 01:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by callie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she won't answer your calls, I would write her a letter or email explaining your position. After that, you have done all that you can and should just let it go if she still won't talk to you.
2007-02-15 01:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Dally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE SEEN THE REAL SIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP NOW. IT WILL NOT HELP YOU LET IT DIE.
2007-02-15 01:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kwadwo B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dunno
2007-02-15 01:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋