Man moved out four months after becoming involved with another woman. W and the three kids live in the same house that he left. He continues to pay the mortgage, car note, school tuition and health insurance for the family. He has stated that he does not want to reconcile. He has broken up with the mistress. He also says that he does not want to divorce. The wife won't divorce him because he is paying all of the bills. They have the kids on an every other week basis. Why won't he just file for divorce?
2007-02-15 01:19:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's keeping his options open.
2007-02-15 01:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by amandafofanda66 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not divorced, then he's married. Right now, at this very second, he could go back to his wife, and they would be just as married as he ever was. And if he is a married person ... well .. go figure, about the adultry. When a person truly wants a divorce, they get one. It does not matter if the couple lives apart, or even legally separated ... they are still married. Also - many people say they are legally separated - when in all actuality, their State may not even have legal separation ... each State law is different with their laws of legality.
2016-05-24 03:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't 100% he wants to divorce and also he feels guilty about the betrayal agaisnt his wife and kids. Does he seem to be feeling homesick? Where is he living right now? He should keep paying the bills because he made a commitment to his wife and his children live there. He don't get any extra points from me for continuting to pay the bills. He cheated and for that he needs to do a lot more than pay the bills to make up for that! Since he hasn't filed for divorce and the wife hasn't because he does pay the bills and she loves him; then I think he will eventually realize the pain he has caused and that he does love and want his family all together and he will beg for forgiveness.
2007-02-15 01:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For financial, tax and legal purposes. He doesn't get to file as married thus getting a tax break, no child tax credits, more than likely he will pay alimony/palimony, he will lose the house and half of anything he has saved throughout the duration of the marriage. Good luck with that one.
2007-02-15 01:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Snow Plow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just taking his time, if he finds a new love, I'm sure he will file a divorce. His involvement with the other woman is just a fling
2007-02-15 01:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by P Ni Ka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people still view divorce as failure.
Personally, I would have said that the failure has
already happened and he should probably just
get on with the paperwork, but ...
2007-02-15 01:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not sure if he does not want to reconcile.
Maybe he sees filing for divorce as an admission of failure.
2007-02-15 01:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at any time one of them could file, but she is getting her bills paid, and he wants to keep things just as they are, he may be planning to go back hone one day, and maybe he just isn't that convinced his mistress is the right one for him.
2007-02-15 04:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am living with a man that is separated. he stayed in the house she moved and has her boyfriend living with her. he wants to file she doesn't. even after he told her that he is in love with me. with her it is a power thing
2007-02-15 01:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares as long as he is paying the bills!!!
2007-02-15 01:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he loves her and he don't want her to do the stress of bills but if he and she belives in the lord jesus he will bring them a mate only if they truly belive
2007-02-15 01:24:29 · answer #11 · answered by tauntonkaleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋