what can you do if you want to escape the circumstances your in but there is no way of doing so? im 29?

Question

i live in a one bedroom flat on my own battling long term psychiatric problems. im isolated, ive socially withdrawn, ive lost what little confidence i had..i dont feel i can go out and face the world anymore..i have so many racing thoughts in my mind, i cannot think strait, i feel disorganised and jumbled up. my memorys become very bad to, i cant remember all the racing thoughts that wash through my brain one after another..i feel crippled by this mis diagnosed illness, i was told personality disorder but i think i have an illness like psychosis or clinical depression. i feel detached and dissassociated when i go out, have problems with trance like staring at people, then i have aggressive outburst and seem to lose control. i have no energy to do anything, wash up, brush my teeth, get dressed, tidy my flat. im despairing because i feel im trapped in this situation an can never get out. i wanna find a nice girl, i want to have a good job,i want to emmegrate & find a better life,but feel

i can never achieve this...lifes passing me by..im ageing i have two missing teeth, i hate myself..my confidence has gone..i want to escape from these nightmare circumstances to a better life the one ive described.

im also feel butt ugly i feel i look like an ageing bruce willis with two lower front missing teeth, why cant i be somebody else?

Answer 1

You are emerging from the victim mentality state at the moment and will soon be taking the driving seat and turning your life around. You put your feelings eloquently into words and you accept that it is you who feels and does these confusing things. You are feeling confused because you have not yet worked out the order of priority. What needs immediate change to enable the other changes? Keep busy by tidying your house and yourself (positive actions help our mind align with positivity and positive thinking) to begin with and let the thoughts come and go without panicking (you need do nothing NOW because you are busy cleaning) - you are just trying to prioritize the next action, perhaps treating yourself to something you like for a job well done. You have identified your goal. Remove focus from the goal and start the plans that will help achieve the goal. First things first. Hope that helps. You are in my prayers too.

I noticed your additional comment and decided to check your public profile. You have given pretty sound responses in those that I read. You have the knowledge inside you but are finding it difficult to apply. How would you try help me turn my knowledge into meaningful actions? Now take that advise.

Answer 2

Every day, I devote a few minutes of time to simply relax. It's inevitable to be lured into the stress and tire of a busy day, so I take advantage of my frustration and and anxiety by first taking a few breaths. I tend to get stressed out when I have too much math homework, and I find that procrastinating is seriously not the path to go down, because that will just conjure up more irritation. Your escape, whatever it is -- depends on you. What do you find peaceful? What do you like doing? Having read your funny and thoughtful Q&A's, I know that you're a creative girl, so perhaps take the time to let your thoughts unwind themselves from calculus, or physics, or whatever it is you're doing ... and just let everything sort of float where they may, if you will. I can only do so much algebra before I collapse from exhaustion, so I work at efficient, effective intervals and take frequent breaks in order to avoid becoming bored and restless easily. During these short breaks, I play piano, read a book, eat a snack, or listening to 2-3 songs to replenish myself and get back in the groove of work. The crucial thing is to try not to use the Internet, unless absolutely necessary -- until you finish your work. Sites like Yahoo! Answers, Facebook and the like soak up time like a sponge. Make your daily "release" work for you. Whether it be freeing your emotions upon a diary, meditation, squeezing a stress ball, or simply taking some time to lie down ... let these little activities be a reward for time well spent. I'd rather invest one effective hour of my time with a break in between preparing for a test, as opposed to a fruitless, inefficient 3 hours. I think I'm one of those people that do enjoy working, simply because once I get into it, it's quite fun (even algebra, at times). But stress is the worst. I can't work under pressure. I'm a crazy perfectionist. Best wishes to you and your pursuit of escaping the daily grind. : ) EDIT: But honestly, feeling in control with your work is the most empowering thing ever. I've finished all my homework due on Monday and I'm only halfway through the weekend. : ) @ Arabesque: Ooh, I'm always an early bird too. I get so much work done in the morning, it's magical. By the way, if you exercise in the morning, it'll keep you energetic and jump starts your metabolism!

Answer 3

Wow I don't think you can find your answers here but if it helps I think most people have felt that way at some point in their lives it sounds like you are suffering from major depression and anxiety disorders you need to find a dr that can treat you don't give up you can't fix this on your own. If it helps at all I was going to post a similar question today I feel like I'm taking 2 steps forward then falling 6 steps back am just running in circles but I keep telling myself that change takes time and your life did not get this way over night so one can't expect dramatic changes immediately it's extremely frustrating tho Good Luck you will get better

Answer 4

My friend Life has its ups and downs theres times in your life when you couldn't be happier and there times where it seems like ending everything would just be easier. Life isn't easy and is filled with emotional battles but those battles are lessons we learn in life. Don't take the easy way things will get better just keep your head up and Battle through it things will turn around...Take care and Stay safe......Live your life in what ever way makes you happy....... I would seek group or some sort on controlled social environment

Answer 5

I have the same condition, I have borderline type personality disorder,depression,emotional dysregulation,and post traumatic stress disorder.But somehow I am still outgoing and fun.Maybe you should start taking medication,if you do dont be emberassed because i do too.If you want to feel better than you should start by ckeaning up around your apartment,get a girlfriend,start socializing,and get a nice job.

Answer 6

yes this is very bad. get to see the doctor and he will send you to the appropriate person. you are indeed of someone for depression plus i am not medical but i can see there is something really wrong and its not normal once you get meds and stuff you'll be on your way to beingok

Answer 7

You will be in my prayers today...