Why do some men go for second wife after having kids from the first woman? FOR MATURED PEOPLE ONLY.?

Answer 1

There are many reasons why this happens to a man.

One, when a man discovered that the woman is not compatible. Two, When she is not submissive as before. Three, When she starts behaving strangely to the husband. Four, when she refuse to dress attractively to the husband' request. Five, When there is no child in the family. Six, when she start comparing herself with other women around regarding dressing. etc. Few, I have given you but they are more than that.

Answer 2

Maybe the first marriage wasn't with the right person?
Maybe as they grew together they became too different for the marriage to survive?
Communication problems,
Sexless marriages.
There are so many reasons - big and small that can make or break a marriage and unless you are those two individuals who decide to split up and move on you will never know the whole story.

Answer 3

Any number of reasons. a common one is beacuse wife 1 is always done after lookin after family etc and doesn't provide the pre kids services quite as often. he gets bored/frustrated with this, and this makes him a touch insane. When he chances upon woman 2 and she shows him a bit of somethin somethin, he's away like a rat up a pipe.

Answer 4

they think when kids come they loose out on things the sex life changes the wife puts all her time to the kids men get left alone so they see the chance to have more sex with out the problem of kids being about another case of there balls ruling their brains

Answer 5

charles na wao 4 u u wan marry second wife? or u dey vex wit some one wer marry 2nd wife? nway this chidinma ur form lover u abodoned
plenty reasons why men take second but mostly its cos of d muslim religion wen d guy is a mulism he is allowed to marry as much as he wants and u no that,nway any other reasons i dnt no so much take care and happy val frm chidinma

Answer 6

if a woman is having a child, her body deformed so man will end up looking for another sexier and more attractive women. and they go for second wife because shes alot more appealing than the first wife. at least he has kids so theres no way of having a baby for the second wife.

Answer 7

because unlike most women not all will ever leave there children for pastures new. probably comes from giving birth in the first place. most men feel they can up and leave with no ties.

Answer 8

They figure they have as much right to happiness as others rather than sitting around sulking that the first didn't work out.

Answer 9

Because they now know what to look for in the make up of the person - then can decipher the codes women use!

i.e. woman smiles - oh crap I'm in trouble
woman laughs - oh oh - time to run
woman grunts - Oh! PMT RUN TO THE HILLS

Only joking ladies - or am I??

Answer 10

When the first marriage doesn't work out, even though most fathers love their children very much many of them also want to have a the kind of life that being married gives people.

Sometimes the woman they marry has not yet had children, and since having children brings joy to many people the fathers are happy to have more.

Sometimes so much sadness has been in the father's life (even if the children from his first marriage brought him joy) having children brings a joy that is big enough to ease some of that sadness. Its a big and exciting event to have a new baby born, and for many people who already have children they just think "the more, the merrier".

I know someone who had a twenty-month old baby die (a woman). She said that it was so horrible that she wanted to have another baby right away because even though that wouldn't take away the sadness it would at least bring in some happiness to help fill the hole that sadness makes in a life and to help bring some light to a life that was filled with grayness. Some people she knew thought she was shallow and just wanting to have "a replacement baby". She said, "People don't understand I'm not having a baby that can 'replace' the one I lost. Its just that having a baby is a really big joy, and I need some big joy because the sadness is so huge." She knew that the new baby would not replace the other one or make her sadness for the other one go away, but she was just so much in need of something good in her life (and in the life of her husband and older child) she wanted another child.

Sometimes father lose custody and are only allowed to see their children once or twice a week because divorce courts often set up horrible arrangements. Sometimes even if a father remains close with his children they grow up and do their own thing. Sometimes children from first families get angry if their father marries someone else because they don't understand that people who have gone through loss, and people who like being married and living with their children, often try to have that kind of life again, rather than just live alone and feel sad that the first marriage didn't work out. People often feel a great sense of loss (like the person who was sad because her child died) but know that they must find a way to build a life that is happy in spite of the loss.

Each parent is an individual with his own life. Even in first marriages when a couple has a child they often think, "I love this child so much I want another one just like this one." When the second one is born some people think, "We love these two so much wouldn't it be nice to have another one just like them!"

When the first marriage fails (often through no fault of the people involved) a father may want to "have more like these", but he can't have them with the mother of the children from his first marriage; so he has them with someone else. All of his children are, though, equally his children.

People who have a marriage fail and who go through all the loss that happens when it does very often think, "Well, there was all that loss; but that doesn't mean I should forget about trying to have a good relationship and a good life." How sad it would be if everyone just gave up on trying to have a happy life and lived out the rest of their life alone, feeling sad about being separated from their children they way they have been.

Some people even think that if they can be an example to their children of how a good relationship is supposed to be it may help their children see that not all relationships are troubled and unhealthy.

When a father is a good father he is very likely to be someone who would never try to take his children away from their mother in a divorce. Because he is a good father he knows that trying to do such a thing would be so horrible to his children he must just do the "grown-up" thing and bear the pain of living away from his children. Some fathers do try to get custody of their children for one reason or another but can't. Either way, they don't usually talk about the horror of being separated from their children because they must be the grown-up and show their children that they are strong. Also, its difficult for anyone who has not had children to understand how a mother or father can love several children equally and still have room to love another child or two.

Mothers are often too old to have more children after a divorce (if they're 40 or over they're generally not wanting to have more children). Most mothers don't go through the loss that many fathers do as a result of a divorce and when it comes to custody of the children.

Fathers, on the other hand, can have children at any age and often have all the sadness of having been separated from their children. I don't mean to say that fathers live in horror and grief for the rest of their lives, but having lost the chance to be with children on a day-to-day basis in their childhood will always be a loss they must deal with.

People who have grown up with their own parents having "stayed together for the children" sometimes believe that it isn't good. People who had parents who divorced or became widowed and never married may have wished their parent found someone to share their life with and believe their own children would want the same for them. Some parents believe that living alone or staying in an unhealthy relationship (that makes for an unhealthy environment in the home) are not what is right for children and instead want to show children that a broken marriage doesn't have to mean broken parents destined to live alone.

It is said (by experts) that men are happiest when married and are often (for whatever reasons) most unhappy after a divorce. This helps explain the need/wish many divorced men have to marry again.

Nobody wants to end up divorcing, and one of the greatest senses of failing one's children is to have to live with knowing that a divorce could not be avoided. Once parents are divorced they must then figure out what is the best way to live a life, move on, and try to be a good example for their children. The choice is to live alone either happily or unhappily (some people are happier alone than others, and some people who have had particularly difficult marriages and divorces are more likely to be happy to just live alone) or to try to have a good second marriage (that often includes having children).

Ironically, it could be that a father loves his children from his first marriage so much that the pain of being separated from them was so great it caused his need to find joy more than if he hadn't loved them so much. Ironically, too, is the fact that a first marriage may have had a whole lot of good in it; and that's what the father wants to have again - only this time without the things that made it too difficult for the original marriage to be whole.

Sometimes a father may have wished his original marriage could have included yet more children, and when the marriage ended he just figured he'd have those additional children he always wanted because "why shouldn't he have more children if that's what he always wanted".

It does complicate life when a father marries again and then has more children. Some people believe it makes things too complicated for the children of the first marriage and that fathers shouldn't complicate everyone's life that way. Others think a "second family" is ok if the children from the first marriage are pretty well grown. Some, though, think that if a father remarries and haves more children it can actually add something nice in the lives of his children from the first marriage because a home with little children in it is often a very alive home. Most people believe that the ideal thing is for parents to stay married to the same person forever, so when that is not possible the remaining options are not ideal.

If you're a child of a father who has married a second wife and had more children I hope some of what I've mentioned has helped you understand a little better.