Has any one been the victim of domestic violence, or still in that situation. I was in that situation for 3yrs
2007-02-15 00:49:57 · 10 answers · asked by ryan+reegan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes i was with my x for 5 years, we have a child together , so i kept trying to make it work, hoping one day he'd change, but when i finally woke up and figured out he was never going to change, i got out of the situation.. which was hard to do cause he had me 2000 miles away from my family i had no job, etc, but i finally took what my car could hold and left.. one of the hardest things ive been through in my life, but it was one of the best things ive ever done and i have no regrets for leaving..
2007-02-15 00:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never had a lasting relationship that involved physical violence because from the first raised hand my feelings begin to change. However in my longest relationship before my husband I was a victim of constant emotional abuse, for a little less than 2 years (we were together for 3 years) my ex was involved with someone else and blamed everything on me and I kept taking it, but the "straw that broke the camel's back" was when the other woman got pregnant and he basically started flaunting he and their relationship in my face. It broke my spirit for awhile I couldnt be involved in a healthy relationship for 3 years after that.
When I met my now husband I told him about all my past relationships and what I could not accept and what I needed from him.
I believe that if we let our partners know what we need from a relationship and what we would not accept its a good stepping stone to a solid relationship. I am not saying lay it out on the first date but when you feel that this is a relationship you plan to pursue be open with everything. And if later he/she becomes physically violent fight back don't take anything lying down because people will keep walking all over you, I know its not easy but its all about strength. I know it's hard but I've seen too many people, including a close family member, take abuse for too long.
2007-02-15 09:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by JahJah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domestic violence makes everyone a victim. You should seek help if you are in a situation like this at home. There are also groups to help you understand and cope with it.
2007-02-15 08:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes twice, first time for 3 years, was only 17 and second for less than a year. Would never allow it to happen again no matter what.
2007-02-15 18:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was in that situation, and left. As you have done, thank God. Don't look back, look forward. And all the very best wishes for your future.
2007-02-15 12:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, mine was more mental and verbal than physical, but I got out too. Glad to see you took the first step in healing.
2007-02-15 10:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my 17 year old is going through it at the moment but because his girlfriend has his baby he wont leave and i hate it so much
2007-02-15 14:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by zeuse 666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I left.
2007-02-15 08:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.If he wont seek help,he does not care.We did and all is fine now
2007-02-15 08:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i grew up in it
will never ever forget it
and have made sure my son never sees it
2007-02-15 09:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋