we've been married 2 years now, no kids, both in our 40's and the husband is a moody guy. especially in the morning. he's mean and verbally abusive, but always comes back and apologizes. i can't stand to be treated this way. whats up? is he going thru some middle age crisis or what?
2007-02-15 00:42:26 · 17 answers · asked by yogajojo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds more to me that he's depressed.. and typically when men are depressed, they express it through anger, as with some it makes them feel better, to belittle someone else.. he appologizes because u let him.. he figures as long as he appologizes for his actions that u'll say its ok and it gives him the right to do it again..
2007-02-15 00:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never speak to my husband before he has had at least one cup of coffee and we get along pretty well now. Some people just need a lot of space first thing in the morning. If you are a cheerful waker then leave him be for a while in the morning. Just do your stuff and let him be until he has woken up good. Best advice I can give ya!!
I think if he was depressed this would be happening all day not just in the a.m. I think hes just a grumpy waker or needs a new mattress for better sleep.
2007-02-15 00:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people Men and Women are just not morning people. Which i find somewhat of a lame excuse. I was married to a woman who was so moody she'd get angry if i said good morning to her. I didn't put up with if for very long, and i jumped right back at the person and said i wasn't going to put up with being treated like a piece of sh it for no good reason.
I'd suggest you tell that ignorant bast ard to straighten up his act or you'll divorce him so fast it will make his head spin.
You deserve better than this, and maybe if he doesn't straighten up, you should give me a call.
2007-02-15 01:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a morning person, apparently. Try getting him some coffee as soon as he wakes up and staying out of his range. Or find out what it is that he does like and govern yourself accordingly. I'm not a morning person either so I kinda know what he's going through with no one else (the wife especially) not knowing how to deal with it. It's not personal, so don't make it about him being mean.
2007-02-15 00:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I missing something here? Your mornings should involve a lot of steam and moaning, and very little talk, unless it is dirty and directly in the ear. I think you are way overthinking this morning biz and falling prey to pop psychology. If he is a healthy man, I assure you that his mood is in your hands, and subject to your persuasion. Try it my way for 1 week and see if you don't experience a radical change for the better!
2007-02-15 01:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree he sounds possibly depressed. I have also heard recently that some men go through a "man's menopause." Ask him to go to the doctor and get checked out, because you won't take his verbal abuse anymore. Either he gets help, or you're leaving.
2007-02-15 00:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are just not morning people do he drink a lot of coffee in the morning and some time after that he is back to normal? if he does then i suggest your get him some one a day vitamins to help with his mood in the morning.
2007-02-15 00:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend growing up was a guy. He was the same way. We all just didn't talk to him before 10 o'clock. It worls. Say hi honey and leave the room, singing.
2007-02-15 01:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be a morning person but that's no reason for him to take it out on you. Let him know you will not tolerate this under any circumstances.
2007-02-15 00:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not talk to him in the morning as it sounds like he is not a morning person
2007-02-15 00:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋