It is common to some parents forcing their children to follow their career footsteps. The idea is for their kids to inherit the office or business. Since there are many new careers today, some parents are hesitant in letting their kids take these new paths. Some parents, due to career failure, wouldn't want their kids to follow their career footsteps. If you are the parent, would you allow your kids to follow your career footsteps? If you are the kid. would you follow your parents career footsteps?
2007-02-15 00:36:31 · 16 answers · asked by inchapie 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
No. A child is going to become an individual and it's unfair to the grown individual that he/she was forced into a lifelong career because the parents thought they should. What if the person had no business sense? What if the business was dying?
My siblings and I followed our own paths. My father wanted one of us to take on his failing business and we realized that there was no way we were going to compete with the big companies taking over the industry he was in. So, we all went our own way - in various science fields because that's where our interests lay.
Would I allow my kids to follow my career steps? While I would wish they would not (I took a while to get where I am), I would not force them to avoid it. It was a learning experience and I had fun while learning (I have two masters degrees and several years of research experience). Why deny them that?
2007-02-15 00:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely NOT okay. We are supposed to live in a free world. Parents should allow their child enough space to figure out what they're good at and love- what's perfect for them. Besides, say your family had a family business, would it be better to just hold it steady, keep it running, or to take the road less traveled and make your own mark on this world? Be a trailblazer! If the child really genuinely wants their parent's career, all right, but give the kid the proper space to figure that out.
2007-02-15 08:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by sfaye_hart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my capacity as a "child" (23) I have not followed my parent's career footsteps and in the future as a parent I would obviously want my children to follow in my footsteps but I would not force them to.
I am a lawyer but if my daughter desperately wanted to be a bus driver, provided she had researched all of her options and was absolutely certain that she wanted to do nothing else more, then I would do everything to help and encourage her in becoming the world's best bus driver!
At the end of the day, you spend a huge part of your life working, it should be your choice as to what you do. Parents should give plenty of guidance, advice, support, questioning etc, but never force a career choice.
2007-02-15 08:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's okay to force a grown adult to do anything. That said, I think we all know that each child that we have is different and needs steering in some direction. I see how my grandfather pushed my dad into the family business and kept a close hold on him because he's a idiot, yet my uncle left home and did quite well. I have no worries about my own daughter and youngest son, but my middle son is definitely going to need some close steering. I think this is sometimes why we perceive some as being "forced" into a profession.
2007-02-15 08:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it okay to force? No, that kid who is now a shoemaker, could have been the doctor who finds a cure for ........
If I were the parent, would I allow my kid to follow? Sure, if they wanted to. As a kid, would I follow ..... only if I wanted to and felt I had a knack to do it well.
2007-02-15 08:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by gosh137 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! The only thing a parent should want for their child is that they will find happiness and fulfilment in any career choice they choose.
2007-02-15 08:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Angela :o) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt force them to no, i think individuals need to find their own path, none of my family are nurses but it was the job for me and on my course there was a girl who was pushed into it by her family and quit in the first year it just wasnt for her.
I think u need to make some mistakes to learn and find your own way.
2007-02-15 08:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by BABY BELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not okay, every kid must follow their own career path, not their parents.
2007-02-15 08:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS A PARENT, I have to say sure, in hindsight. My parents pushed me into being a Doctor so I became a Building contractor. Wish I would have listened. Now I will have to bust my laborious *** for the rest of my life. If I went to Med school and busted my *** for six more years, things would be easier for the rest of my life.
Most parents push the kids FOR them not for themselves. We want to see our kids succeed but not having to sacrifice so much to get there.
I'm proof that kids will make their own decisions.
2007-02-15 08:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by tim s 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am actually encourage them to do something different. I am self employed. I plan on spending every last penny I make before I die. If I die rich I will be really upset.
2007-02-15 08:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by No I Dont Like You 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋