How to get my wife back?
me and my wife argued quite a bit then the love life went down the pan. then about 4 months later we split up i was not much of a husband i was still young i still love her lots with all my heart .then i found out though my 4 year old son see was seeing someone els 2 weeks after we split he has been staying at there home a couple of times. i love my wife and kids so much i wont them back i feel i have made my choice to quit the things in life i like and be a proper husband and farther but i dont no how to tell it to her i miss them so much. do i just let it go or try to wotk it out is she doing this to get back at me my head is so messed up it hurts to much to sleep
2007-02-15 00:33:14 · 31 answers · asked by trev p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would write her a sincere letter, though not expecting her to take you back straight away. Tell her the ways you are changing. She will want to see that you have changed and have managed to keep that change going over some period of time. In the meantime visit your kids and work on being the person you want to be.
This is your best chance by showing her, you put into practise what you say. Don't expect too much too soon.
Best wishes.
2007-02-15 00:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell her you want her back and how you are going to change. Also tell her you would not force her back until you proved how changed you were and that you understand that could take a long time but you are willing to wait. If she reacts positively then it's up to you. I wouldn't judge her by the fact that she has had someone stay over a couple of times. She could be heartbroken and lonely and just wanted someone at these particular times. However, if she tells you it is definitely over no matter what you do I am afraid you will just have to accept it. You can't make someone love you again.
2007-02-15 10:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you want to give up things that you like ... maybe if you do that (and I'm thinking probably something you shouldn't be doing anyways) and prove to her that you have changed then she may be willing to give you a second chance! How long were you with her ... this new guy sounds like the rebound guy - so you might still have a chance (better the devil you know an all that) so change your ways and SHOW her (words don't mean a thing) that you want her back. It does hurt, but not forever. Stay focused - I hope it works out for you!
2007-02-15 01:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only chance u have is to tell her what u basically said to us.. basically ask her for the chance to prove to her that ur a changed man and want things to work, ask her to go to counseling, tell her ur willing to do anything to prove to her that you can be what she needs u to be.. then at that point its in her court, if she's willing to try she will if not.. then u have to learn to let go.. but atleast u can say u gave it one last shot and not living the rest of ur life wondering "what if's" by not saying anything to her.. but i have to ask, is it that u really love her, or is it jealousy of knowing she's moving on with out u and dating that has provoked this change? i mean did u really think ur wife would just pine over u for the rest of her life? Didnt u think when u left that eventually she'll find a man thats willing to step up to the plate and be everything she needed u to be, and marry another man that would become ur childrens FATHER ROLE MODEL.. because this is what happens when people get divorced.. she will eventually marry a man and he will be the "father" that actually raises them.. being a part time dad doesnt cut it....
2007-02-15 00:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me first say you shouldn't give up things you like for marriage, you will be miserable if you do and in the end it won't work. The only thing in marriage that you should give up is sleeping with others.
Second you can be a good father to your child even if you aren't with their mother. Do the best you can for now and try to talk to your wife, I wish you luck.
2007-02-15 00:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your son, don't bring any of this stuff up and be really nice to your wife. Do this over and over again and maybe you can win her back. The trick is to not let her realize what you are doing. Just continue to be your sweet self. I think she will eventually come around.
2007-02-15 00:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have earned this one all yourself. You say you love her and miss her, but you want to get back at her. Dude, wake up and smell the coffee, it's over for her. You probably said and did things during your arguing that you just can't take back. You need to go get some Help. Run, don't walk to your closest shrink.
2007-02-15 01:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by sillyredhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Boss! Sorry to have to lay this on you. But, "If" she was throwin' down, just two weeks after the break up? She's using the arguements, as a reason to walk away.She already had her Travel Plans, in mind. Make your own Life, happy. If she wants to join you?She'll have to be willing to put some effort in to it.
2007-02-15 00:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is speak to her and pour your heart out to her. Tell her how much you love and miss her and that you have learn-ed from this and want to make things work.
You could always send her a letter if you cant face speaking to her. But I think face to face is always better.
2007-02-15 06:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋