Girl Power! who actually believes in it??

Question

Hi, I have been thinking, and although I am happy that women in this county have rights the same as the men do and we are now considered equal (damm right)
But I also think that this independant girl power thing has gone too far, I am a women and like having a career etc but I also believe that we should be treated by our fellow men as ladies, whats offensive by a man offering to pay and opening the car door for you?? I dont get why some women have a bee in their bonnet about them being able to do everything a man can do, firstly why would you want to? and secondly some things you just cant do.
Men a physically stronger and faster, leave the hard working construction jobs to them their good at it what do you women have to prove??
Women wanting to be in front line combat why?? I was in the army for 10 years and happily accepted that the male soldiers were alot better than females in combat situation, plus the fact that a male soldier would find it alot harder to leave a female dying

than a man which ultimately leave his own life in danger, (yes a few women have proved that they can do it (pass the courses etc)
Basically I know I will probably get bad comments but I would just like to say there is no competition so why do some women think there is, women are women and men are men we are not built the same the man should do all the manly stuff without offending women, their not saying your weak their doing it because it makes them feel like a man. Women should be treasured and look after by their man and treated with the greatest respect (obviously the women must respect the man also), what are your views on this??

CQ of course I grew up in this country did you even read my question or just the first line???, plus you didn't even bother to answer it just tell me it was a bad question, which is your opion but you could not even back your opinion up with up with any reasoning!!

Answer 1

yes i agree with you completely.....men and women are equal in this world. There is always a women behind a mans success and there is always a man behind a women's success full life.
actually women do some thing better and precious, that non of the men can do.They have this capability of giving birth .....not only they give birth they carry the baby 10 months in their womb.
I witnessed a child birth once and i felt so small and i cried imagining my mother. She would have gone through the same pain caused by me.....when she gave birth to me.
That's what i think ..women are the craters of this world. so we men should give respect to them. And you women don't think its offencive if a man opens a door for you or offering to pay etc. Its the way of respect we men should do to women.
Good luck and wish you all the bet

Answer 2

I'm unclear on whether you want equality or privilege. Privilege is the opposite of equality, even when it's in your favor. What if men complained because women did not open doors for them? What if men griped because women did not let the men go first? Do you not see that it is inconsistent to expect men to be chivalrous gentlemen who treat women with special courtesy, while at the same time demanding equal rights with men? That's like sharing an apple with someone, and demanding that he allow you to have two bites for each of his.

So you were a soldier, huh? I've heard what most of the female troops did when the shooting started in Iraq. They found a male buddy, used him to get pregnant, and then used the baby as a reason for getting a medical discharge and being sent home. That left the US forces in Iraq understrength, which made it impossible to conduct the occupation effectively. Maybe you were a better soldier than most of the women in uniform, but the statistics will make military commanders hesitate to use female troops in the future. "Pregnancy to avoid combat" ought to be a crime under the UCMJ, on a par with "cowardice in the face of the enemy."

Answer 3

Girl power pah. It was promoted by women wearing next to nowt to sell albums thereby saying girl power is showing flesh to get by - is that really empowering? Women power such as being strong mothers, teachers and leaders, that's what I believe in. Not women who try to make men feel worthless or lower either. Women who promote total equality - thats woman power.

As for men paying : ) well I'm a student and mother (I study at home) and my hubbie brings in the income (when we first got together it was the other way around) I appreciate anyone holding doors open for me as I'm usually trying to negotiate a pushchair through them. Rarely happens though.

Why should your gender stop you doing a job you love and feel you were born to do? If a male soldier wont leave a woman it's not her fault. Its like saying a woman has more emotions so men can't nurse - utter rubbish.

Answer 4

It's not about "proving" anything. It's not even about one sex being better than the other. It's that fact that men have historically assumed they are the 'superior' sex, simply because they are men. And that's where the problem lies. There should be no superior race or sex or anything of the sort. We are all just people and we are different.
Therefore nobody should assume that somebody is not physically or mentally capable of doing something simply BECAUSE they are a woman or a man. It lies within ones own personal capabilities and goals.
There are some women who feel they are capable of playing rough, violent sports and others who don't. Some men prefer music over violent sports.

So it's not a question of doing "gentleman" things or one sex being 'better' than the other. I personally believe the whole feminist movement has been misunderstood and might just backlash.

But I also believe that girls should rule the world because we're better. So it doesn't matter what i believe.

We shouldn't be worried about who is better, or stronger, or smarter just because of sex. Its just difference of a penis and a vagina. End of story.

Answer 5

You raise some interesting points. I welcome equal rights, being of an age when it was legal to refuse to give a single woman a mortage, because she wasn't married (not that long ago, late 70s actually!). All I have ever wanted is just equal opportunity, equal access to jobs and equal pay for what I did - nothing more. But we should accept that there are differences beteen the sexes - men are physically stronger than women and therefore some jobs aren't suitable for women. Women firefighters? I'm sure there are some good ones but, generally, do they have the strength to carry people that is a requirement? If not, then don't take them on just to boost the equal-opportunity quota that a government requires. Women in the army? Sure, if they can do the job and meet the same physical requirement that a man has to pass - otherwise, I'm afraid no.
The other issue, though, is manners. Gentlemen traditionally treated ladies like frail creatures, opening doors, giving up seats. Very charming and lovely and all part of the courtship. But I think it's unreasonable for a man to pay for everything, since women now have the same chances to earn equal money.
We should accept that men and women are equal, but different!

Answer 6

On chivalry: We don't like being patronized. We can open a door and afford a meal. If opening a door is too tiresome an exertion for you, you shouldn't be doing anything with men.

On construction: There are women out there who are capable of building things. Not a majority, but there are. Some are even better than the men. And if they like construction, they have every right to do it.

On the military: See above.

We don't want to do EVERYTHING a man can do — I've never heard any feminists speaking out against the injustice of not being able to aim when we pee. But some of us just CAN.

Answer 7

Thoroughly agree. Doubtless influenced by the success of the Take That reunion - two sold-out arena tours, a pair of number one smashes and a multi-platinum album – the Spices decide that they want another slice of the pop pie. But comparisons with the comeback of Gary Barlow and co. only make it obvious that, in all honesty, the Spice Girls never really went away. Take That’s return was so welcome because many people (NOT ME) had a chance to miss them. Sure, little Mark Owen had staked his claim to being the nicest man on earth on Celebrity Big Brother, and the tabloids ran occasional pieces asking: ‘Did Gary eat all the pies?’, but we hadn’t heard from Jason Orange or Howard Donald for almost a decade. In stark contrast, there’s not been time to pine for the Spice Girls. Victoria Beckham is still hellbent on turning her marriage into a multinational corporation. Melanie Brown’s paternity battle with Eddie Murphy has kept the gossip rags in juicy cover spreads for months. Emma Bunton tangoed into foolish hearts on Strictly Come Dancing last year. Geri Halliwell is writing a series of children’s novels about – no joke – the second wind of girl power. Melanie Chisholm continues to labour under the misapprehension that she has a solo career. Girl power? Hmmm. Always did ring hollow, considering what they really represented.

Answer 8

I think women need to strike a balance. They shouldn't be too girly- only caring about makeup, clothes and boys and they shouldn't be too manly- only caring about sports and getting too aggressive.

I know ALOT of women who think that just because they are women it means they can't lift anything heavy or assume they can't do certain things without even trying. Its embarrassing because they keep acting like a damsel in distress because they think if they did something like pick up a heavy object or play sports they become butch.

Then there are those girls who go all out to try and act like boys- walking like men, talking like men (not the nice gentlemanly ones either!). The amount of girls I have seen speeding in sports cars dressed in sports gear with no care for their hair ect, that's just as embarrassing.

I do actually agree that women do need to learn that there are just some things they cannot do, physically, you can try but many can't. Just like there are many things men can't do but women can, like have children.

Another thing- This phrase girl power is probably the most embarrassing ever because it has been completely hijacked, the very people who use it, many singers and actresses are the same ones who then use sex to get ahead. They might as well sa 'Girl Power! Hey how come I haven't been asked to take off my clothes off! Everyone else has!'

Then again I'm one of those people I don't have anything in common with other women and not much with men either. I'm pretty sure there is another sex which is completey different and that's me. Just off another planet altogether, and its not Venus and Mars!

Answer 9

Hit the nail on the head - I love having the same rights as men because we are equal but I also like to have my boyfriend look after me and make me feel safe and protected. Before anyone accuses me of being weak because of this - I have lived on my own and looked after myself since I was 19.

The equal rights I'm talking about are things like being able to work after we get married and have kids, that a husband can be charged with rape, that we arent treated as second class citizens. These kinds of things in the past were accepted as normal and this is the kind of stuff that annoys me.

There is nothing wrong with men treating women with respect by opening doors etc - this isnt making us second class citizens again, thats what happens when they dont respect us.

Answer 10

As a bloke, i think that women should be treated as equals in terms of respect and intelligence, but it's stupid to ignore the differences in the genders when it comes to physical things. If a woman can lift as many bricks on a building site as a man and she wants to be a brickie, then there shouldn't be a law against it, but surely women's rights was not about that. They should celebrate the differences between the genders, and accept women are better at some things and men are better at others. The crucial thing, as i've said before, is that respect for those differing talents is equal.

Answer 11

Girl power was created to sell records and has nothing to do with feminism or equality.
Equality only exists in theory; most lower paid, and part-time jobs are still held by women; men still find it hard to take time off work for family responsibilities. Things are improving but attitudes take longer than legislation and women with the kind of double standards you hold don't help.
I don't have to prove anything; i just have to be me and follow my conscience.
I expect PEOPLE to hold the door for me because it's good manners not because of my gender - in the same way I hold the door open for other PEOPLE. If I share a taxi I pay my cut and I buy my round if we're drinking; I'd feel like a sponger if I did otherwise. The only reason I'd accept for not paying my way would be if my friends earned a lot more and have fewer financial responsibilities.
I believe that whatever you do you should do to the best of your ability regardless of gender. My husband is fussier round the house than I am but not good with mechanical or technical things or in dealing with workmen or professionals so we share our responsibilities according to our abilities.
I have asked men out in the past (though not for long time as I prefer my husband); I arranged our elopement and often pay for meals and drinks.