My ex left me a year and half ago, he totally destroyed me. we a have young son togather, I have now moved on and recently asked him if i could buy him out of our joint house but he refuses, he wont let me have any guys in the house not that i want them anyway, he says its our sons house and if i wanna move on ive to sell to him, to b honest i dont wanna move as i need to b close to my family and school for my son plus he doesnt wanna move away from his grandparents i feel stuck and controlled any advice.
2007-02-15 00:29:37 · 32 answers · asked by ELAINE B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take him to court
if you can afford it the judge may order him to do so
2007-02-15 00:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a joint mortgage he will have to agree. If he won't the only thing you can do is to put the house up for sale as you have co-ownership. Legally by law he cannot refuse to do that.
If you force his arm this way he might just agree for you to buy his share if he thinks that your son is going to be without a roof over his head.
Of course you don't want to move you need the support of your family and friends especially when you are on your own and that your sons school is near at hand is another good reason.
But look don't take my advice go and seek advice off a solicitor. The citizens Advice can offer free consultation with one of their own appointed solicitors if you are strapped for cash.
Good luck and I am sure things will work out for the best as you seem quite positive and know what you want. That's half the battle believe you me. Keep your pecker up!
2007-02-15 00:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same predicament 20 years ago and the courts dealt with the house. Had to sell and split the money which gave me enough for a deposit for a small flat for me and my son, I have now moved on to my own cottage type. I am now engaged but cannot see me getting married again because of my house,as far as I,m concerned this house is my sons, and if I marry my fiance can claim half of it if we split up. Don,t get me wrong if my son was financially secure I would get married but at this moment in time he is not, so I need to put his future first
2007-02-15 00:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Janet C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing would be to speak to a lawyer, although I do think that you cant do anything without his consent. You culd try to buy him out. That is to give him half of the value of the house. That means you keep the house, for your son. You can even try if you have thatb put on contract, as your ex will suspect your from wanting to sell the house when he is bought out.
But again: talk t a lawyer as he / she will know much more about your options than I do.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-15 00:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by MM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you married?
He left you a year and a half ago right?
What HE HOLDS ALL THE CARDS? NO!
Good that you have moved on GOOD FOR YOU!
Can you buy him out? ASKED? He said no? How about making him now VIA AN ATTORNEY!
SCREW WHAT HE SAYS Take control girl!
He wont let any guys in the house? HE HAS NO SAY IN YOUR LIFE REGARDLESS OF YOUR CHILD OR NOT AS LONG AS NO LEWD ACTS ARE IN FRONT OF YOUR SON!
Does he have a new girldfriend? DOES YOUR SON STAY OVER THERE IN FRONT OF HIM? IS THAT FAIR? NO! GO SEEK THE ADVICE OF AN ATTORNEY AND TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE MOST WILL SEE YOU FOR FREE! CHECK OUT WOMANS ORGANIZATIONS THAT WILL HELP YOU BECOME EMPOWERED AGAIN!
I BELIEVE IN YOU NOW YOU HAVE TO TOO!
2007-02-15 00:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need the formal papers.... did you file for legal separation or divorce? in NY there is no question, the courts divide the assets and the paperwork makes sure he can't run up a bunch of debt and leave you hanging with it... protect yourself and your son...get it in writing. Hire an attorney. I don't know whats down the road for you, but you can live in the same neighborhood even if its not the same house. Here, you would get the house because its abandonment after one year....but I'm no lawyer...get one now.
2007-02-15 01:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get yourself down to the citizens advice bureau and appoint a solicitor, people on here may answer your plea in good faith but that is no substitute for professional help, partners from most relationships have rights and more especially so does your young son. You will find details of your local bureau in the telephone or local directory and or via the local council, make sure you know where you stand from a legal standpoint and not from someone else's experiences which may have different circumstances.
2007-02-15 00:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to buy you out and find a house in the same neighborhood. If he refuses then get a lawyer. You may love the house and not want to move but you must get from under his thumb or he will try to control your life forever. G'luck!
2007-02-15 00:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.. tell him to kiss ur azz lol.. seriously.. if its your residence.. u can bring anyone u chose into that house as u see fit , just like he can at his place of residence, and he cant demand things of u , ur seperated.. And im sorry with u having a child involved, the judge isnt going to make u leave the house especially if ur willing to buy him out of his share, let him talk the talk, because laws are in place to prevent this type of thing.. so dont let him and his controlling ways get to u, the law is on ur side in this situation, so dont even listen to him.. ITS YOUR HOUSE YOUR ALLOWED TO DO WHAT U WANT .. he cant kick u out, he cant do anything.. so dont even let him get to u, the judge will handle it.. and if this is your home and u can buy him out of his share the judge will say thats fair and let it happen.. my advice to u if u havent already is to CHANGE THE LOCKS ON THE HOUSE..
2007-02-15 00:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should be able to have anyone into your house that you want to have in the house. Your ex has no say over whom you associate with. You have a constitutional right to associate invite people into your home that you choose to invite.
Go to your attorney and go to court. Get a court order to tell that jerk to mind his own business and quit telling you what you can and cannot do.
IT'S NOT THE SON'S HOUSE. IT'S YOUR HOUSE. TAKE THAT A$$HOLE TO COURT AND LET THE JUDGE TURN HIM INSIDE OUT. MAKE HIM REGRET HE EVER MESSED WITH YOU. TEACH THAT JERK A MAJOR LESSON IN LIFE. MAYBE IF YOU COULD END UP WITH THE HOUSE TOTALLY YOURS, SINCE HE'S VIOLATING YOUR CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS MAYBE YOU SHOULD SUE HIS BUTT FOR DAMAGES.
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