I've heard that if it floats your boat, to do it. And if it doesn't float you boat, get off the ship.
If both partners consent, is porn, using toys and experimentation healthy in a relationship?
What if one partner wants to experiment and the other one doesn't.
What's healthy, what isn't.
Obviously forcing someone is not healthy....
2007-02-15 00:27:33 · 17 answers · asked by Java Queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you just hit the nail on the head when you said that it is OK and healthy if both partners consent and are both into it. If you are not then it is best to find something else that might turn the both of you on. If you do force it upon someone or get upset over the use of something then all it does is build up resentment and causes hurt feelings.
2007-02-15 00:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Duece 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its really about intimacy and trust....every time you try something new you risk feeling silly, making mistakes and letting the other person down. So don't go directly to dominatrix....when was the last time the two of you had a blind date with each other? It is amazing fun....and you can end the night in a cheap motel or in the "lap" of luxury.... can you talk about your fantasies? if you have made your relationship comfortable enough for that, then you have given each other a gift... the idea of any variety or experimentation is to celebrate each other and the relationship....it goes wrong when the act itself becomes the focus....any one of the things you mentioned can become a focal point that is addicting and demeaning .....thats when it causes a break.....and to me thats the difference between a healthy relationship and one that is not....
2007-02-15 00:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual experimentation in a committed relationship is absolutely healthy, as long as you both know beforehand what the other one is looking for. Just be open and honest with each other. If only one of you is comfortable with something, you shouldn't do it together. Why not try sitting down and discussing what kinds of things you're both interested in or curious about before you jump into anything? Come up with a few ideas that peak your interest, have your significant other do the same, and compare notes. If you're really serious with each other, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable telling him what you want. Decide what things you're both willing to try, and what things you're not, and give it a try. If you don't like something, speak up! Just make sure that you're both really honest with each other and agree before you try anything that you'll discuss it later to decide if it's worth trying again.
2007-02-15 00:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only healthy but crucial in maintaining an intimate loving relationship. Each of you should concentrate on pleasing and satisfying the other for the ultimate in a mutually satisfying and intimate relationship. A key is to feel free to communicate your desires and fantasies to each other without fear of upsetting your partner. Understand that some fantasies will remain just that and will never be acted upon. Toys are great just be sure to respect the feelings and reservations of your mate. COMMUNICATE!!!!
2007-02-15 01:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, whatever floats your boat.
Each person can have their own limits. I think it's only fair for people to at least give most things a fair shake and try to be open minded, but if they STILL don't like it, no good.
If the two are too far apart on this, it will lead to fights.
Nobody should be forced into anything, but one person shouldn't be such a reluctant prude that they just frustrate their partner.
2007-02-15 01:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi Java Queen....I think toys and experimentation are very healthy in a relationship, they have always been great for me :-)
But I'd watch out for watching porn if you're in a relationship with a guy because guys have a tendency to fantasize about the girl in the video instead of you, plus men can become addicted to porn very easily.
But if your relationship is with another girl, then hey! No prob with the porn!
As far as inviting a third partner in your relationship with your guy, I wouldn't do it, I've heard too many stories of the relationship breaking up afterwards.
But definitely keep the variety in the sex life!!
xoxo
sophia
2007-02-15 00:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by sophia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its all perfectly healthy, my wife is slowly coming into tying me up. I don't think she doesn't like it, I think she just didn't know what to do, or whether she would hurt me or not. Every time she does experiment I feel her grow more and more comfortable and in that comfort I get her to be more and more wicked with each time. She loves toys and experimenting, porn she's a little cold to but that's because she doesn't want me fantasizing about anyone but her!!
2007-02-15 00:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by tiemetight814 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was crushing your self esteem and you never knew why.. THAT is the time to be crushed and hurt and break up with him.. but you married him anyway. Now you find out he had a good reason for it. If you were okay with it before you knew.. finding out the truth should make you happy and relieved that it wasn't anything to do with you. I don't see how this is worse than before you knew the reason, if anything it's better.
2016-03-29 07:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both partners are open its healthy.
If one is shy and one wants to introduce its cool as long as the one who introduces respects the boundries and the comfort level of the other!
If someone is dead set against it for what ever reason that persons rights should also be respected THE END!
2007-02-15 00:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lots of times one partner isnt familiar with something that the other partner is. My current lady never had anal sex until she met me. She was scared it would hurt, etc. We went slow and used lots of lube and some persuading. Now we have anal 1-2 times a week and she likes it.
2007-02-15 06:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋