just because i have 2 chidren and i think the father is cheating people keep saying i should have got married first but why? so basically everyone is trying to say if he was married to me he wont cheat on me. i dont agree with that married or not ur man still cheats on you. not every man is perfect its hard to find the perfect ones. but u know what i could have married him then had children then he could of cheated on me. so please dont think being married is going to make a perfect life
2007-02-15 00:27:33 · 20 answers · asked by sarah j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Getting married doesn't make any difference, if anything it's cheaper for you not to be married you don't have the cost of a divorce! If I had my way I would never had got married either. If he is going to cheat, he'll do it whatever. I think marriage is overrated these days anyway. Good luck to you and I hope you get the cheating sc*mbag where it hurts the most - his wallet.
2007-02-15 00:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jojotraveller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not going to give you the perfect life or partner that everyone believes you'll have. No matter whether you were married or not, the man would have cheated anyway. If things do not work out in the relationship, marriage just makes leaving more time consuming and expensive by having to divorce.
Although the father is legally obligated to financially support his children if you two split and you have custody,he is not obligated to financially support you (in the form of alimony) if you were not married. Although depending on the state and length of time you two were together, you may be eligible for palimony.
2007-02-15 09:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by J T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been with my partner for 25 years, we have 2 kids, and arent married. pieces of paper dont make a relationship.
were here because we want to be.
i think your friends assertions that you have to be married is so you can take your partner to court and nail him to the door financially. then he doesnt pay, you scream and shout and he says..well fork you...im off, see if the CSA does you any good...
and it gets acrimonious very quickly. too many women use the kids as weapons n a war of attrition, my wife tried with me. (i was married for 4 very miserable years) youve got to give me all your money, youve got to work 60 hours a week...
we were seperated for 9 years before i decided it was time to get a divorce. the judge was gobsmacked when i told him we'd sorted it out, visitation etc... "sir, im an adult, im a responsible adult and teh judiciary have no reason to direct how i should behave in this matter, and the judge agreed.
sylvia and i have been happy for 25 years, if and when were no longer happy, we can go our sperate ways like adults, and without lining the pockets of solicitors
2007-02-15 08:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree it doesn`t matter wether or not your married if your partner is going to cheat then he will but what i do think is that if your married and have children then it makes it alot harder for your husband to walk away and leave his family as theres still some sort of commitment whereas if your just living together then it`s so much easier to just walk away and start again.
I`ve learned that the hard way as my bf of 6 years has walked out on me and our son for the 2nd time and i do believe if we had been married it would have been so different,i`m not saying he wouldn`t have left and divorced me but he would definetly have found it harder to do as just living together theres no real tie you can just up and leave whenever you want.
This is just my opinion and if your happy not married then thaats certainly your choice.
2007-02-15 08:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 34 years have always considered it a piece of paper.If some one is going to cheat they do not need a any excuse to do it.So I agree with you marriage would make no difference.Maybe he his not cheating.For your sake I hope he is not.Good Luck PS/ None of us men or women are perfect.
2007-02-15 08:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be married to have children, you don't have to be married to have love. Love is supposed to be a place your heart calls home and where you are always respected. If you don't have love, you will both stray, eventually, in other directions. Cheating has nothing to do with marriage or children, it is about love or the lack of it.
2007-02-15 08:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mike L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want this kind of role model for your children? No one will be perfect, but SURELY you could find someone with some morals and manners... Someone that could treat you how you deserve to be treated- MARRIED or not! If you have a girl, would you expect her to allow someone to treat her this way?
2007-02-15 08:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a person decision the vows don't mean anything if someone's going to cheat. However the marriage vows do show someone loves you and would convice you why would cheat on you if its just insecurity.
2007-02-16 17:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broadly speaking, Marriage does give extra stability (Cohabitees are 5 times more likely to split up) On the whole people who make the commitment of marriage are better at working on it. Not 100% of course but it is a reasonable guideline.
I wish you well.
2007-02-15 09:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you should pick a better man. Second marriage gives the marriage a feeling of committment and security. It also is good for the children to see the parents living out their vows. When there is no committment made (marriage) there is a feeling of, "I/he/she can leave anytime."
2007-02-15 09:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by megan261980 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋