We live in seperate houses. When PMDD kicks in we seperate. Should I totally leave her alone. Send her notes, gifts or sit back and wait for her to contact me? Usually takes week to ten days before she shows signs of love again. Need ideas, from everyone.
2007-02-15 00:21:38 · 15 answers · asked by halfwound 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Encourage her to seek medical help. If it's really PMDD, she's probably in such hell she might off herself. Treatment like hormonal birth control and ssri antidepressants helps some women...birth control helps me.
2007-02-15 00:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I suffer from PMDD and have a diagnosis that is severe...but my symptoms last only 3 days with my cycle with milder symptoms another day or so at ovulation (mid month). I need to be left alone during those 3 days...but I sure do need a lot of reassurance afterward...that we are still okay. I recently heard it said that most men understand that at work, they may be only 3 or 4 mistakes away from losing their jobs...they see other men downsized or terminated all the time...and they accept that is part of the game without taking it personal. But women feel the same way about their relationships. Imagine if you felt that you were only 3 or 4 mistakes away from her never loving you again. It may sound silly....but it made perfect sense to me. Symptoms that interfere with that much of your life (and hers) should be addressed. It may be time for a new doctor. And, definitely time to look at food triggers (myself I have to watch out for red meat and had to increase my calcium supplements). Only a doctor, someone who specializes in PMDD can help. Have you put it on a calendar? cause if its not really related to her cycle then you may be dealing with another diagnosis (cyclothmia for example) and again, only a doctor you trust can help. I take my husband with me on my appointments cause I get so nervous and my symptoms are so radical that I have been given all sorts of crazy diagnosis and prescriptions...but it was worth the trouble to get it sorted out. My symptoms are only bad about twice a year now,instead of monthly.
Last, her withdrawal from you may not be part of her symptoms but part of the remorse and frustration. In the beginning, before I understood what was going on I was always anticipating that I would be out of control or sorry for the mess I just made...which made it way bigger than it had to be....hope that makes sense. Getting it on a calendar, for both of us, made me realize I am losing about 3 days a month and allowed me to build up some self confidence---before that it was affecting every area of my life. There was nothing my husband was going to be able to do because I was so busy beating myself up for this thing; then I wouldn't take care of myself or eat right and by the time I got my act together again we'd be into the next cycle...it was hell. She needs to see a doctor and you need to know, you can't fix this. All you can do is love her and support her the best you know how. I cannot say this enough, get some help, you don't have to live this way.
2007-02-15 00:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL id be a man and tell her to get over it.. Let me ask u this..
Does she not go to work for that week or 10 days that she has her "PMS"?
Does she treat everyone including best friends, and family like a total terror during those days?
Is she cruel and mean to perfect strangers during those days????
MORE THEN LIKELY NOT.. she's only that way with people she can get away with it with..
I dont doubt that she's in pain or that she doesnt suffer from bad PMS.. but shes using it as a crutch to treat u like crap.. and im sorry.. i believe thats B.S. ive been in tremendous amounts of pain and although i wasnt in the happiest of moods, i didnt have to "seperate" once a month ..lol sorry but i think ur being taken for a ride.. on this one.. tell her to go get on Depo so she'll only have her period 4 times a year.. LOL..
2007-02-15 00:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A week or ten days! What a load of shite. "Hormones" and PMS is just used by women as an excuse to act b1tchy for awhile every month. It saves women the effort of trying to act like a human being even if they don't feel good. My answer is not to put up with it as long as she is acting badly, don't even talk to her call her or email her - no gifts, no notes, no flowers - NOTHING until she acts nice again. It is a 2 way street. If she acts nasty - ignore her until she acts nice.
2007-02-15 00:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-03 12:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I sufferred from PMS for years. It is a true medical problem. My blood count was death threatening low. She needs to seek medical advice. Quickly. Support her, nurture her and get her to a doctor for a complete series of testing. There are things that can be done. I feel sorry for her. That was the most miserable time of my life.
2007-02-15 00:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Send her notes and gift. Tell her you love her. A woman need to know that she is wanted!!!!
2007-02-15 00:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Forever Rainbows 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thing is...when us women get PMS we don't want people around us....we want to be left alone so we can deal with it in our own way...just give her time...PMS is nasty, it takes over, it makes us feel horrible and yes, it drives people away, maybe when she is not PMS try and suggest she sees a doctor that will give her something for it, it's not nice at all...you are being patient and thats nice of you, but PMS gets us and it wont let go till the actual process is over,
2007-02-15 00:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
u will be dealing with this til she goes thru menopause...a very long time!! It doesn't get any better either...as age goes by, hot flashes, etc. U may want to consider a new woman...that is,, if a doctor cannot help her with her PMS symptoms.
2007-02-15 00:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by NYEVE43 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
little things DONT PUSH
notes are good small gifts are good
and not all the time just once in a while
they will let her know you are giving her space she needs and yet you are still by her side
2007-02-15 00:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋