in the last year I have gained about 20 lbs+ (that I had just lost) I have allowed my house to become completely out of order, its messy and only cleaned up for guests and then only areas that they will visit. My bedroom is totally out of order theres clothes everywhere, and I wont even sleep in it. I have also this past year began going to the casino with all my extra money. My emotional , and physical relationship with my husband is suffering. I am a religious woman and I go to Church faitfully, and have never had these issues before, I have always kept a clean house and my Spirtual life has been great since I have been in Church for the last 8 years until last year. I have big plans to change things but no motivation to do so Whats wrong with me.?
2007-02-14 23:57:34 · 15 answers · asked by overcomern07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like depression seek help
2007-02-15 00:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have various problems in your life, perhaps some kind of depression. It's not really possible to diagnose someone online, but clearly you need to seek out help.
My suggestion would be to get some therapy to talk these issues through with a trained professional. Start with talking to your doctor and get a referral to a licensed therapist. Ask not to be referred to a psychiatrist as they will probably want to pump you full of drugs. Start with a psychologist first and see if some therapy will work, without drugs. However, it may be that some medication will be necessary to help, that rather depends on you and the problem. Although don't expect a pill to be the magic answer on its own.
What ever you do, do not seek counseling with the church. Many churches try to offer this kind of guidance but it is often offered by people with no formal qualifications, and no business trying to provide it. Praying harder is not the answer here either.
Good luck.
2007-02-15 08:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship between you and your husband (both physical and emotional) might be the cause of the problems. You might lost interest in things and have no attemp to do things right.
Put yourself in check, and take action as soon as possible.
If you think relationship is the cause of your problems, go back and try to solve the problem where it begins. Don't let this last any longer for it will completely change you.
2007-02-15 08:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by Master M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldnt hurt to go for a checkup...could be your hormone levels are out of whack. Not sure how old you are but you could be pre-menopausal as young as 35. Low testosterone or estrogen levels etc can cause anger, depression, laziness, lack of motivation and libido etc in women. See your doc, explain whats happening, see if you need Hormone Replacement Therapy.
If your hormones are ok...go to some counselling sessions....maybe you have anger or boredom issues with hubby, bottled up due to your religion (ie your faith may not allow you to express your feelings), that need working out. Your actions do seem to be indicative of a passive aggressive nature against him or God? Your only way of taking back control seems to be in self-destructive ways?
If all your problems came AFTER the gambling habit struck...then you just may have a gambling addiction and its effecting your self-esteem.....so seek gamblers anonymous or read; http://drphil.com/articles/article/173/
2007-02-15 08:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some of the money your spending at the casino and buy a 9 mm and put your suffering husband down but 1st take out a large insurance policy know what i mean?
2007-02-15 08:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by wade 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all get help 4 your gambling. OR GO only once in a while to gamble.Take some of that money ans pay 4 a granny to help you clean house. ONCE your house is straight you will be happy.
2007-02-15 08:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called "burnout". Happens around midlife. You need a long vacation away from it all. During that time, reassess where you are in life, your past accomplishments, and where you want to be. Then come back and renew your faith and satisfaction of your past achievements.
Good luck and have fun.
2007-02-15 08:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by billy brite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are addicted to gambling. Try to see if you can stop going to the casino. If you can't stop, you are addicted. Contact Gamblers Anonymous. It doesn't cost any thing and could save you a lot of heart ache.
2007-02-15 08:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your probaly just depressd about ur husband. some other thing's that might of caused derpression are problems at ur job or with family. so i think u have depression. u should ask ur doctor anyway cause i might be wrong.
2007-02-15 08:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by ch3rryontop2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from depression. Just try to live for your loved ones... love your husband, your kids (if any).... just stop thinking about the past....
2007-02-15 08:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh im srry to hear that but i afraid ur losing every thing but ur self ur faih is leaving and your will power i recomend the book "The Secret" and live by it
2007-02-15 08:04:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋