i have stuff in my mind that i cant ever bring to tell my mum?

Question

first off:i think i might be attracted to girls.but then i like guys aswell still.
second:i think i might be better off as a man.why?i get turned on by gay men.
so which is it?am i bi?should i consider a sex change?should i just keep these thoughts bottled up?

my school never had one.and even if it did know i am too old to go to school.it would be weird.

Answer 1

First, what you are experiencing is not that unusual. Especially if you're in your teens and your hormones are running wild. That's ok! It just means they're doing their thing and everything is working fine.

Second, a lot of straight women get turned on my gay men. It's very normal and happens very, very often. This does not mean that you need to have a sex change so that you can become a gay male.

Just relax, and watch how your relationships with others unfold over time. There's no need to rush or to find a solution to everything right away. Just spend time with the people you enjoy spending time with, explore who you are, and be happy with whatever you discover.

Answer 2

Difficult as it seems, you'll have to follow your heart on this. A sex change is a VERY big step to take, but before you have one, you get councelling (lots of it).

If you love girls, and boys, then youre bisexual... There's no problem there. If you feel you have an internal gender ( For instance I am definatley femminine ) then go with it and try to explore it fully.

Telling mom.... Now there's a wall we all run into at one time or another.
I've never told mine, she knows I'm a girl part time, but prefers not to talk about it... I wear jeans and jumpers around my family, it's not thier business what I wear at home.
Talking to mom is only possible if you tell her... Only you will be able to judge her reaction, but if you have a gut feeling that says to you "I'm youre going to meet with some real hostility"... I'd keep quiet and find another source for this close personal councelling, dont jeapordise family relationships at this stage in your life, that's a choice for when youre happy and comfortble with yourself.
Maybe there's a community health project near you ? or a gay and lesbian advice / information service ?

Take care and above all be safe.

Answer 3

ok this is 2007 so....
1) if your attracted to girls dont worry so much most girls are in a way. The female body is more beutifal to look at in shape than the male, just be yourself if you have lesbian sex with another girl then thats fine just do it it if feels natural dont put yourself in a box

2)u get turned on by watching gay men, so what your saying is looking at two hard co cks makes you get all wet down there, whats wrong with that. Pretty much every guy has watched or wan ked over lesbian porn that dosnt mean we all want to be girls just that we like the body and two is better than one

dont keep it all bottled up talk to someone you trust. but whats this talk of a sex change about?? why would u do that, you can have sex with girls and guys if watching guys take each other up the ar se is your thing why not let a guy take u up the ar se or if you really wanna be there find two bi guys and have a 3 way you can watch them get it on, help them by giving the blow jobs hand jobs then u can have them take u up the ar se whilst one does the other and vise versa. Or even have the best of both worlds one up inside your vagina and one up inside your as shole imagine that eh..........

hope this helps x

Answer 4

First of all no don't keep thoughts like that bottled up you have to tell someone.I was having really strange sick dreams and I wanted to tell my mum but I couldnt so I told a close friend of mine that has known me all my life,couldn't you start by doing that first?it might help and then by getting it off your chest it will help you to tell your mum about it.Just because you get turned on by gay men it doesn't mean you need a sex change.It sounds to me like your bi-nothing wrong with that!Just remember your friends and family are supposed to be there for you and to love you no matter what you turn out to be.Good luck

Answer 5

I think you should chill, All of it is ok, no point having a sex change because a Gay man would run a mile if you said you used to be a woman, better off going to a gay club and finding a Bi sexual man who is camp. No mother want details about thier childs sex life.

Answer 6

You need to talk to someone about this-try a specialist counsellor used to dealing with gay/bi/trans issues. The sex change process is a big step-you would have to have counselling for that anyway so just go talk to someone. You don't say how old you are but confusion like this is perfectly natural especially when dealing with your sexuality & gender i.d. I'm a lesbian but for a few years confused it with being bi at first followed by thinking i should have a sex change! You need to calmly talk to someone who knows what they are talking about/dealing with. The issue of your mum is irrelevant at the moment until you are 100% sure of who you are!

Answer 7

First of all, you must consider your age. If your under the age of eighteen, then you may just want to keep these things bottled up for a while longer. Right now, you are unsure of your feelings. You don't know what you are at the momment. Thats okay.
And if it is, that you are eighteen or older, you still don't know what your feelings mean. Just wait.
You shouldn't keep your feelings bottled up by no means; but your mum dosen't need to hear these thoughts until you are certain of your own feelings.
Talk to friend, a gay friend that wouldn't stand to gain anything or take advantage of your innermost feelings.
However, if your mum is your closest friend, then it "must" be her that you confide in.
Yes, she may get upset, but she's your mum and she loves you no matter what.
Just don't keep your feelings bottled up.
I am straight, but the truth of the matter is, gay men (at least most of them) are good friends. These men, have gone through the worst trying to figure out who they are themselves and overcomming obstacles with their own families.

Answer 8

How old are you? Youth is for growing and experimenting. Why would you NEED to tell your mum anything? Some stuff is not anyone's business but your own.
Perhaps the feminine aspect of some gay men is what's attracting you to them if you also like girls.
Relax, let yourself grow, experiment SAFELY if that's what you want to do, don't put any labels on yourself until you're absolutely sure of who you are.

Answer 9

No hun just be yourself i am a m cross dresser and am also confused as to what sex i should be,i'd rather be a woman,i just love all the cute clothes and not to say how sexy i look when all dressed up.Now that i said that a man doesn't look sexy in everyday clothes just pants shirt ugly shoes etc. now tell me that's sexy? So dear be who you are and enjoy it.

Answer 10

I feel you are bi and there is nothing better for a woman to be a bi.
If you trust me, you can share your thoughts with me and I am sure I will be able to give you good advice.