what do you now suffer because of it?
2007-02-14 22:50:47 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes, I had an ex who was a psycho. he was a basket case. I didn't realise it until I was involved with him, it was hard to break free from him. he would call me weird names and he was so loud, disgusting in fact. I do suffer a little now because of it I suppose it is emotional baggage, which I have, but it is going slowly but surely.
2007-02-14 23:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An emotional and mental abusive relationship that impacted my interaction with other people that we both knew and other people when he was around. It has been hard to open up again and not be 'on-guard' with people all the time since my divorce. My self-confidence took a beating but is getting better. A real eye opener was when I was in Wash. DC for a class and went to dinner with my sister and brother-in-law. When I got back home my sis called me and said that my BIL said to her that he had never seen me like that (positive). She said that it was the person she had always known.
I don't tolerate some things at all anymore that can go towards abuse. I don't need it and if the guy's method of dealing with women is that way, I don't want it.
2007-02-15 07:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Margaret K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i have been in an abusive relationship. My first was w/ my parents. From that I have learned how to be the best parent in the world..DO NOT DO WHAT THEY DID. then a boyfriend, he used to beat me until i lost the twins. From that..i do not let a single person hit me ever again. I also counsel others around me on how to get out. So note this..There are other types of abuse also, sexual, verbal emotional and physical. if you have been hit once by your other.. theres a good chance they will do it again. GET OUT TELL SOMEONE you trust let ppl know what is goin on behind close doors. IF they're hitting you, leave NOW. take the children and go (a church is a good place). who cares about the material things those can be replaced.
2007-02-15 07:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by clg 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I personally haven't been... I would never have any man put his hand on me, or undermined me in any form of way
.. But been in abusive household. My mum is now moved on, and re-married, after 7 years of 'leaving' my father.. I don't feel she has suffered from it, but her children have!
If a woman/man wants to stay in an abusive relationship that is there business, but I don't think the children should suffer from it. We didn't have any where to go, we were stuck in the house... They only split up because me and my sister had enough and got a voice of our own (at the age of 15 and 17), and TOLD my father just to leave... If we hadn't my mum would still be putting up with the same crap...
Love and have a great relationship with both parents... always been a daddy's girl, and very close to my mum... but it was just one of those things!
How about you Sarah?!
2007-02-15 06:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am still involved in an emotionally abusive relationship with my husband of 7 years. He grew up in a home where respect wasn't a value. At the start of our marriage, I was called so many degrading names. I was looked at as if I were a walking steak...not his wife. To this day, he disrespects me. What are the results? I suffer from low self confidence.
2007-02-15 07:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't suffer. I myself have been in an abusive marriage of 13 years, but have now moved on and met a lovely kind fella.
Woman's Aid helped me to relise I could move on and to value myself.
I have also started back into further education, something I would never have dreamt of doing 2 years ago.
PS do contact the police regarding any domestic incidents, I didn't, to my detrement. In the seperation, the courts did not have any evidence and therefore he got joint custody of the kids. But I did get my freedom back.
2007-02-15 07:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by roxy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a mentally abusive relationship and I cannot say that I suffer anything from it really. I look at each relationship in my life with new eyes and don't carry my past with me, what happened in the past is gone it is no good carrying it around with you and it is wrong to compare the new man in my life with the one who abused me they are not the same people. I have God in my life and He has helped me to have a positive outlook on life and to start new and I now have a very loving and wonderful man.
2007-02-15 06:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by liongirl_40 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, not really with a guy, though I have been treated badly by a few, no lasting damage.
But my relationship with my step mother was totally abusive, she would manipulate me to the extent that I self harmed and got myself a nice little eating disorder.
Nowadays, I no longer have symptoms from either of these 'conditions', and haven't for a long time, but if I'm having a rough day I sometimes feel the urge, and I don't have scales in the house.
Still, she showed me EXACTLY what kind of woman I don't want to be, so in a way, she taught me some valuable lessons.
2007-02-15 07:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to say it but I was in an abusive relationship. It was very hard and trying at times. I have since moved on. I found a man now that loves me and would never do anything to hurt me or my kids. When I first met my now husband. It was very hard for me to open up to him and trust him. Because I thought he would hurt me just like my ex did. It is a terrible feeling holding something over his head, that he didn't even do. I was jaded for along time after being with my ex. I have gotten better with that. I have judged alot of men, due to my ex. I have had alot of nightmares, problems with being intimate. List could go on but I think you get it.
2007-02-15 06:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Sweets 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My dad was an alcoholic who mentally abused me until I moved out at 18. He never laid a hand on me but the mental abuse was daily as he was drunk every single night of my life. That was a long time ago, and I have forgiven him for all of it because it does no good to harbor that type of resentment and hate. He passed away as a direct result of his severe alcoholism, not from liver disease, but from what it did to his stomach and brain. He was also an extremely heavy smoker, at the end he was up to 5 packs a day, getting up during the night to chain smoke. I am ok where I am at now, I went the opposite and never touch alcohol and have never smoked. Luckily, my mom more than made up for all of it, she was a fantastic person.
2007-02-15 06:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by ginabgood1 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋