yesterday i had an argument with a friend that concerned the working and middle class. She said that she came from a working class background but her family are finacially secure, with a semi mansion and both been educated privately. In short I said that she was middleclass and said that if I had a choice I would rather be working class, she then left the room and has not spoken to me since. I dont want to apologise as i feel i have done nothing wrong, so whats her problem?
2007-02-14 22:16:06 · 16 answers · asked by carmen260 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
a fragile ego
2007-02-14 22:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by Good Egg 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's possible that your friend's parents might have been working class before they achieved financial security. In the future, though, it would be best to avoid arguing with your friend about something this unimportant. Your comment that you would rather be something that you don't think she is may have offended her, or she might have felt like you were questioning her intelligence.
You're right, and you didn't do anything wrong. If you still want to be friends with her, then try telling her that you are sorry if you hurt her feelings, but you were just explaining where you were coming from, that you care about her as a friend, and you do not care enough about social classes to get into anymore major arguments with her about them. If you feel like she's too easily upset and is not worth your time, though, then just don't bother.
2007-02-15 06:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that she would be middle class (possibly 'upper middle'), but I think your opinion about which class you'd rather be upset her. Perhaps it is not the amount of money she has, or where she lives, but what her attitude is like. If her parents act 'working class' then she may feel working class too. Even though it may be hard, I think you should apologise, or just try to explain what you meant. It's better to apologise than lose a friend. It may just be a case of misunderstanding.
Hope this helps. :)
2007-02-15 06:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by hollywoodhx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably thinks it is you that has the problem. If you don't feel you have anything to apologise for ask her NICELY if you could have a word. Tell her it wasn't meant to be an arguement but just something that a lot of people often debate about and have opinions. Tell us that it is one of these things that you'll both have to agree to differ on but you don't want to loose her friendship.......then give her a big hug and say friends?
2007-02-15 14:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, middleclass folk usually act like that... it was a clear divide years ago but now the middleclass per se has sort of encroached onto the working class compartment and settled itself in rather nicely. The result being that it is less identifiable. Therefore, the gap between working and upper class is now much shorter.
It sounds like your friend doesn't really appreciate this fact and is only repeating what she has heard her parents saying.
2007-02-15 06:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by breezinabout 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She comes from a middle class background from what you have said, you yourself are unknown as we know nothing of your background. As to which class you would rather be it doesnt matter be yourself and dont worry about which class you fir into.
Yes you should apologise as you have told her that she is middleclass and you would rather be working class than middle class if that isnt insulting somebody I dont know what is.
2007-02-15 06:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by clever investor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you may have offended her in this way. She may have all the stuff in their family because they worked their a s s off to get it. Meaning they are in fact working class and years of working reaped the results you now see. You cant assume that what you see what people have, that it was something that was handed to them.
2007-02-15 06:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by dont want stalkers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your mistake was in saying "if I had a choice"
she obviously didn't have a choice in how she was raised, and to her eyes, her parents have worked hard for the money.
In my opinion - it doesn't matter what was said - if your friend is upset with something you said, you need to step up to the plate and apologize by saying "I know I've upset you and I'm sorry - please forgive me?" and buy her a coffee or a soda.
After all, a friend is a friend and she will love you all the more for being mature about it right?
2007-02-15 06:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is certainly working calss as are her parents - may be she was talking about her gt grandparents or something. I think what you said was probably taken as insulting even if you did not mean it that way but why would she be insulted about being middle class. we are what we are.
2007-02-15 06:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Working and middle class are the same. She must feel you are uninformed. That is the politest I can be.
2007-02-15 06:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably she thought you were pin-pointing her, whatever. It's sure that she's hurt, you should go and appologise even though you think you didn't do anything wrong.
2007-02-15 06:39:29 · answer #11 · answered by Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋