She is 15 years old, getting on my last nerve with this whole "im so in love with a bum" situation. It is like she is trying her best to ruin her life.
She recently had an abortion because she thought she was oh so grown up but when i told her to move out and play house on her own she knew she couldn't so she had an abortion and i made sure she got on birth control.
I am a working mom and she has a 2 hour window until i come home so what am i going to do with her? How to get rid of the boyfriend too?
Thanks
2007-02-14 22:08:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Get a baby sitter for her during those 2 hours or try to change your work shift so you will be home with her. Take away all of her things that she loves and ban her from the boyfriend. Tell him to stay away or else.
I don't get why teenagers now act like this. It is pitiful that they want to ruin their lives with being a teenage mommy but she done the right thing by having an abortion.
See they act like they know it all but as soon as they are going to be kicked out of the nest they realize how stupid they are. Sorry but its the truth
2007-02-14 22:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 yr old and boy oh boy am I scared of that age of 15. As a 15 yr old girl we think we know everything. You should get a babysitter for her explaining to her that there is no trust because of her recent actions. Explain that she is not being very responsible. But if you do get a sitter it must be an older person one you can trust and she can also trust. Someone that might be able to help her with whatever she might be going through. She might not be feeling that she can come to you for advice, but if you give her someone that just might do that for her things might change. I am glad you put her on birth control. You can't follow her around or stop her from having sex but you can certainly prevent pregnancy. Also talk to her about STD's show her pictures of the results of being infected.
Now with the boyfriend that's a tough one. You have to keep in mind that the more you try and keep her from him the more she will want him. I really don't think you can get rid of him without getting the law involved, but that could backfire with your daughter. Maybe talking to the both of them and sharing your feelings might help. Talk to his parents and let them know how old your daughter is and that its not appropriate for them to be dating especially since she's already had to get an abortion. Good luck!!!!!
2007-02-15 09:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Letty & Pablo G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, all teenager think they know everything at one point in time. I would suggest you taking everything away from her. Her cell phone, her tv if she has one in the room, don't let her watch tv while your home, make her stay in her bedroom and read and pout if that's what she wants to do. Put a lock on her window in the room so she can't sneak out.
Now, about the abortion thing. I'm not going to open my mouth about, but it probably was the best thing you could do to let her get it, since you would have probably been stuck raising it if she didn't put it up for adoption.
Now, about the boyfriend. If he is over the age of 18 have a restraining order put against him so he cant get to your daughter. If that doesn't work, do what my dad always wanted to do to scare away my boyfriends but he never got the chance! Even though I think your mom, but you could still do it. When the boy comes into the living room when he gets there, be sitting on the couch, smoking a cigar(or pretending to), and clean a gun(or if you don't have one borrow one from a friend for the night). Then tell him about how depressed you have been lately and that you just can't stand to see how him and your daughter are interacting and you just wish he would leave. Hopefully for your sake, he will get scared away by that and never come back.
Also, if you don't want to do that, then when he does come over, do not let them in her bedroom, do not let her go out on dates with him, restrict her friends so you know that she is not going out to see him, speak to her friends parents if she goes to stay over at their house, tell them your fears, and if they are good parents as well they will help you!
Good luck. I know your doing your best to keep your daughter out of trouble.
2007-02-15 08:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but there isn't much that you can do but sit down and try and talk to her on her level .. Don't scream, yell or even raise your voice at her because it will make her angry and she wont want to talk to you!
I was in a similar situation when i was 15 but i had the baby !
Please E-mail me on channy_simon@yahoo.com (im not sure if you need .au at the end as its a new account) and we can discuss this further if u like as its a bit of a long story .. which i am happy to discuss with you privately.
My boyfriend (ex) was 18 when i fell pregnant and was a dole bludger, i thought he was perfect but i was young and in love and didn't see who he really was until i got hurt, and he didn't want to play happy families anymore.
Please do E-mail me as i think i might be able to help or even give you some insight on how she might be feeling.
2007-02-15 06:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by channy_simon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to really embaress her, hire a babysitter. Tell her it is necessary since you can no longer trust her. Tell her that when her trust is earned again, the babysitter will go.
As for the boyfriend, you just can't get rid of him. Have you ever noticed that the more you seem to hate him, the more she "loves him more than life itself!". It's rebellion and teen love. Ignore the boyfriend, who will prolly cheat on her or use her, and she will get bored of him rather than be more and more interested in him.
Good luck!
2007-02-15 07:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot camp, you should be able to call social services or the police jury to find out how to get her enrolled in it. It is a real thing and it will scare her straight. As long as the boyfriend is under 18 there is little you can do other than talk to his parents or tell him to stay away.
2007-02-15 06:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should have let her keep the baby and she would have no choose but to ummmm grow up, it is not all roses raising kids and her bf what can u do she is gunna see him behind your back whether u like it or not she is in puppy love stage of life, she will get over it soon....
2007-02-15 07:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by aussie_female1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my only advice that i can give is please pray for your daughter.... make her realize that she ruins her life.. i went on the same situation before and i only realize my mistakes when i faced the consequences of my stupidity... never lat your daughter face the same situation... wake her up before its too late.. good luck....
2007-02-15 06:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by jc retardo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They learn from their Parents and their friends, maybe she has been allowed to be an adult through neglect or ignorance
2007-02-15 06:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋