we had a big row on sunday and fell out he came back on tuesday, and yesterday he didnt bother to get me anything even though he new i had been planning his gift for weeks, I have 3 kids to him and look after him like a child so is it wrong to be so disapointed that i didnt even get a card?
2007-02-14 21:52:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Too much emphasis is placed on Valentine cards, gifts and the like........if you have a wobbly relationship anyway, the added pressure of Valentines day makes things a whole lot worse.......Sit down and talk to him about how you feel and then listen to his reply. Men are usually a bit squirmy about romance, most men look on romance as a lead up to sex anyway, they don't think the way women do and so all the loving bit doesn't figure high on their list of important things which on the whole is a bit silly as it's usually best to keep a partner happy......Your man sounds either hurt about something and wants to hurt you back or else he is a thoroughly selfish person only seeing his own needs......This is why it is important to listen carefully to his reply when you tell him how upset you are about the whole Valentine thing........You should be able to tell what is the core problem by his answers......
2007-02-14 22:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by zararedbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should mention it to him. Not in an angry way, but letting him know it hurt. Is this the usual way that he treats you all the time?
And when the 2 of your argue, does he always go away and stay away? To what, another woman's arms? Or did he go away to pout at his Mom's house. What brought him back...I have a feeling you asked him to.
Why are you looking after him like a child? It sounds like you have set your own pattern to what you will accept from him. Girlfriend, he will never change unless you let him grow up. Stop what you're doing and let him take on the responsibilities that he should, including buying you a $3 card...how hard is that? He has no respect for you. You're his Mom.
2007-02-15 06:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your'e bummed that you two missed the opportunity to have some special time together for Valentine's day and that you would like both of you to do something special for each other this coming weekend.
(This way he won't feel like you have your hand out, selfishly expecting him to throw down cash for you to celebrate a cheesy commercialized holiday.)
You cannot hint around with guys. They have to be told very directly what you expect and the sooner we ladies learn this the better off we will be! ;-) lol (It's true, though!!!!)
2007-02-15 15:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethin inside u tell me u wnt to forgiv him ,forgive n forget tht wht u shud do .the luv btwn u n him is greater than valentine s day or samkard or samthin .and do tht for the kids .its hard being a child whos parents dnt get along too well .
anywayz good luk for the future
2007-02-15 06:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by RAZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wroung. He should of got you something. He needs to learn to grow and stop being sulky. You made up, so he should stop trying to hurt you and spoil you. He needs a kick up the bum if he wants to stay with you!
2007-02-15 08:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the realtionship is good is it really worth ruining it over a piece of paper card??
2007-02-15 06:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by mitchell2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes just forgive him, personally I think this valentine thing has been pounded to death on here,roll on the next big event, Easter.
2007-02-15 06:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
man, such a petty man, made him compensate you man...
act abit mysterious and see if he gets suspicious or concerned, at least you will know if he is still in love with you, if not, Move on. He's not worth your time. There are better man out there
2007-02-15 05:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by 甲丞子 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstance, his knowing you were doing for him, you are well in your right to feel disappointed.
Personally think he is a completely selfish, spoilt, right little git!
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-15 07:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you look after him like a child you can hardly expect him to behave with the sensitivity of a mature man. wipe his bum and send him home to his mum and find yourself a mature MAN
2007-02-15 06:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋