I'm bi, and my best friend isn't and I thought I was over being attracted to her. But since she broke up with her fiance, I keep having these sexual dreams about her, And thinking about her all the time, I have known her for 12 years and I know she isn't into bi relationships, but I don't know how mucuh longer I can take this.Should I tell her how I feel..or just try to disconnect from her?
2007-02-14 21:30:47 · 13 answers · asked by partygirlcass 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Talk to her about your feelings.
2007-02-15 00:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by happybibottom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, most women are bi and a lot have chosen either consciously or sub consciously not to go that way. She would have sent the signals if she was interested in you that way. By the way after looking at your 360 thingy, I have determined you are more likely a man asking questions out of curiosity.
Anyhow, if you are who you claim to be, be adult and expect the same from her. Best way is through casual conversation. When the subject is brought up, and she shows interest, continue. If she starts sounding repulsed then you have your answer.
You wanted a serious answer, you got it. Peace!
2007-02-15 07:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy Bi Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that the two of you share a friendship based on trust and respect, else you would not have been friends for 12 years.
She is aware of your orientation and it does not bother her.
You say that you are attracted to her AND that she is your best friend.
Ask yourself this: “ Do I Love her “.
If you honestly feel that you do love her, speak to her about your feelings. You cannot live a lie without getting hurt in the process.
Be open and honest.
Should she not feel comfortable with the idea I cannot see how you can continue your friendship.
Love that is not returned is bound to destroy your spirit.
I wish you the best.
2007-02-17 21:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon! if she is not bi, then don't even try it! you will loose her as a friend for sure! If your feelings for her are overpowering then take a couple of steps back and look for someone else to share your life with. If she is not bi now! then she never will be! believe me hon it wont work! You have a good day!
2007-02-15 06:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you talk to her, openly. Tell her how you exactly feel, even if she's not into bi relationships. Just talk to her, if she was understanding she will probably tell you that she is not into this, and she wants to keep it a friendship.
Good luck
2007-02-15 05:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friend... Fantacy is one thing... but you cannot force one on what u desire.... if u will ... she won;t be ur friend then...
And by the way does she know that u are bi...
else... u can tell her... and... convey ur message in a concealed manner... for eg... frequent soft toches on her bums... smelling her... a mild kiss on her neck and a lick... it may pass her the due signal... if she is intrested ..... you will start gettign the signals...
2007-02-15 06:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Zaheer Ahmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, but I would try to ultimately respect her sexual orientation and not tell her of your feelings. You could damage a close friendship or make her feel akward ... maybe try to realize that it's not meant to be and try channeling your energy from this into another one?
2007-02-15 05:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by wildbren83 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not take any step , like talk to her or ask her for a sex because she is a " F " not " bi " if you even talk to her about this she will like kill you and she will very freaked up when she will listen to your feelings about her ,so you should not talk to her and never ever look for person who is not like you means " BI "
2007-02-15 05:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by _~Truly-Great~_ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Disconnect. Since she isn't "bi" she would be very creeped out to be around someone who thought about her as you are now thinking about her. Do yourself and her a favor and just phase out the relationship. (Unless, of course, you can control your thoughts and just tell yourself to knock it off.)
2007-02-15 05:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you'll have to try to tell her and hope for the best. but I don't recommend just losing her as a friend.
gimme a shout if you need...
2007-02-16 07:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋