I work the same number of hours as my fiance and we live together. Im also pregnant and get really tired. Do you think its wrong for me to ask him to help around the house?
2007-02-14 21:20:57 · 19 answers · asked by Elaine B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, you make him do the housework, you're doing your own housework by providing living accommodation for your new baby.
I don't think guys really appreciate just how tired being pregnant can make you feel, I used to fall asleep on the sofa every day after work - just couldn't help it.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 21:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by FC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't really wrong to ask him, but I am very sure he will be very defensive about it! I mean you shouldn't really have to ask him. He ought to get the initiative to keep the house neat! Geeessshhhh! And don't ever say that in the future he might change and eventually help you out! He never will change. Believe me! So either live with his mess or live with his attitude or learn to accept the fact that he will never help you clean up house! And to think you are pregnant now?! Oh wow! Say bye bye to a neat house.Baby is coming...then you will have 2 of them to take care of...a big baby and the tiny baby! Good Luck!
2007-02-14 21:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by mylenekeane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you waited much too long to ask him to help around the house. Now you have gotten him used to thinking that he doesn't have to lift a finger. You need to sit down with him and make a list of all the chores that need to get done and come up with a fair distribution of work for both of you. After the baby is born, this will obviously have to be re-negotiated to take into account midnight feedings, etc. Don't wait, sort this out now.
2007-02-14 21:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way get yourself together woman, your pregnant and your hormones are running wiled AND your working the same hours as your fiancee, of course you should get help around the house discuss this with your fiancee asap but just remember to go in calmly ask for a little help and tell him how your feeling i am sure he will understand and want to help more.
2007-02-14 22:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to ask for help around the house to start with. So, no it isn't wrong!! A relationship, not just dating is a partnership. A relationship is give and take and not jsut one person doing it all. Sometimes you can't get equal out of it but you should never get less than you deserve.
2007-02-14 21:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong. You need to listen to your body when your pregnant. If you need sleep, then sleep. It's the baby's way of communicating it's needs.
If your boyfriend is having difficulty being flexible, and caring during your pregnancy, then perhaps he needs to talk to someone (eg a father) or read up on what's involved. It can be hard for them to understand cos they're not feeling the symptoms, but I believe he has a responsibility to try to understand whats going on. After all, it's his baby too.
2007-02-14 21:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your pregnant u should be taking things easy and your fiance should help around the house anyways without u having to ask him
2007-02-14 21:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by glowing flair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be offering to do stuff around the house if he's considerate. Sit him down and explain you'd like help because of your condition! Tell him otherwise you'll have to get a cleaner in and perhaps he'd like to pay...
2007-02-14 21:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and don't ask him tell him if he wants things to get done he need's to help out or just quit work and let him be the bread winner and you take care of the house.
2007-02-14 22:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong in the least and don't you feel the guilt girl-friend. You need a long sit-down chat with him so that he understands how you feel. Don't leave the convo until you've reached an amicable solution
2007-02-14 21:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Brendon B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋