i am sure my gf is lying to me.?

Question

i've w/ my gf for about 2 years. i am sure she'll not cheat on me. but i know she is lying. we are both students, and in seperate schools all day long. i let her go out w/ her friends. Recently i've been suspicious of her talking to this guy from her school (by the way she has a lot of guy friends but this one sounds different to me). I noticed him calling almost everyday recently and her too (i tracked his phone #). the thing is this she does not admit that she talks to him, in fact she doesn't even mention his name (which is figured out). last week on saturday she went out to work on her project @ 4 pm she said it will take at most 2 hours she came back home @ 2 am. so @ night i checked her cell voice messages and this guy had called her and asked her if she wants to take a brake around 8pm at starucks. when she got home she told me that she was working @ her project!!! a couple more instances such above have happend since then. i am going crazy and have no sleep! what should i do!!!

Answer 1

ask her straight out if she is seeing (or even attracted to ) anyone else. be prepared for an answer you do not want to hear.

Answer 2

If I was this girl, I would be moving away from you and fast! You are way too controlling, I mean you say you 'LET her go out with her friends'? Since when was that your decision? And the way you are checking up on her is verging on paranoia. You are way too young to be expecting this kind of commitment from another person, and even if you were older and married, each of you has the right to your own life and interests. You have scared her off, and I guess with someone as jealous as you sound, the poor girl is probably too afraid to tell you it's over. If I could meet her I would tell her to get away from you fast, because relationships with jealous men do not improve with time.

You need to get out more, develop your own interests and friends and not be so bound up with one person. Hell, you are still at college, you are young, so get out there, enjoy life while you can. Life's too short to be worrying about these things - if the girl has found someone else, then nothing you can do will make it work again between you. Learn by the experience and move on, before you say or do something you'll regret.

Answer 3

Why is it always people who want to play games and then if they arent satisfied they play more games.
She lives with you, you evidently have access to everything she does. Including tracking her cell phone calls. (Shame On You!) I personally couldnt see living with a person that I found out was tracking my phone calls. Maybe she hasnt mention it because guess what, ITS NOT WORTH MENTIONING!
The man called and left a message, did you ask her or did you just assume the worse. Maybe in all your sneaking around and suspicions you got the message she didnt get while she was working on her project.
Get a Grip and go to sleep it seems to me all this is in your own mind. I dont see things happening for you with her cause you have no trust. So break it off it would be best for her so you can get some sleep.

Answer 4

Man, she's cheating on you - wake up and stop denying it to yourself!
What you do about it once you've accepted it is a totally different matter, but it seems to me you're not going to be able to pretend nothing's happening. In which case you really need to talk it over with her, and be prepared for the possibility that (i) she will continue to deny it even in the face of overwhelming evidence; or (ii) accuse you of spying and dump you (as a means of assuaging her guilt) - but she was probably just trying to get the courage to do this anyway.
On the plus side, she could when confronted with the situation tell you all, apologise profusely, and promise to try to start again with you.
Only you can know how to play it, but from my personal experience DOING NOTHING IS NOT AN OPTION. That suspicion will just eat you up.

Answer 5

You open up the question with 'I am sure she won't cheat on me' yet you are going behind her back and checking her phone for messages and voice calls. If she finds out she will probably dump you there and then. Voice your concerns with her but don't jump to conclusions before having spoken to her & certainly don't have a go at her. You sound like a jealous guy and that's why she's retorted to lying to you about her whereabouts. You need to chill out and maybe then she'll be more honest with you.

Answer 6

Speak to her about it. She may just be having a friend style relationship with this guy and may be worried that you will think it is something else if she tells you or mentions him. Many girls get on better with guys. The only way to tell is to ask her. Watch her reaction and make your decision on how she responds and what she tells you. i wouldnt be doing too much tracking of the guys phone or reading through her phone or you will start to be verging on the pyscho stalker status!
You have trust issues and these need to be resolved, especially after 2 years. if this is going to go anywhere, you need to sort this NOW with her and let her know how you feel.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Give her the cold shoulders and wait and see. This may not turn out well doh so be prepared. After awhile, she may choose to ask u why u are so cold or want a break up with you. prepare for a big quarrel. Honestly, Lying is cheating to me... unless I'm ugly and she said I'm handsome den thats different

Answer 8

I would suggest you ask her outright. You can worry about it easy enough but you need to know for sure. if she says nothing is going on but you are still not sure then there is obviously an issue of trust - or should i say lack of it.
If that is the case then perhaps you ought to reconsider the status of the relationship? Good Luck

Answer 9

Listen pal, you're going to have to take some action before this gets out of hand. If your in love w/ her, then no matter what I say you're going to choose to learn the hard way. If you're not in love; then I have bad news, she's cheating on you. Open your eyes, and if she's not cheating- she will began to notice she can..... and tht isn't good.

Answer 10

I agree with Chelsea. You sound controlling and jealous.
You do not trust her and you will drive her into someone
elses arms. She will get fed up having tp answer to you all
the time. You do not own her and she does not own you.
Just ask her straight out - if its making you ill the relationship
is no good for you. Good Luck.

Answer 11

dump the broad, theres a million out there just like her. If you're doing all of those things, regardless of the outcome, you don't trust her. From there, it is only a matter of time. Let her off the hook, give yourself a break.