anyone else out there have an insensitive pig for a husband / boyfriend ?!? i do. mine never even mentioned valentine's day until about 8pm, and that was only because i had a face like thunder.... i calmly explained that i was disappointed that he hadn't even bothered getting me a card, and his response was 'i didn't think u'd be bothered by it all'. i have no idea why after 6 years of sending cards to eachother that he suddenly feels like i'm no longer bothered, and i felt like ramming the card & gift i'd got for him down his throat (or somewhere worse !) anyone else out there have totally insensitive partner ? ( i guess i should ask the guys too - i know women aren't perfect either. ) and please - i don't want to hear stories of perfect guys who treat u to meals out, etc, etc, - i'm depressed enough !!!
2007-02-14 21:06:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
aww - thanks andy c !
2007-02-14 21:14:24 · update #1
no - he hadn't just forgotten it - he just decided not to bother, and yes, he'd better make up for it next month when it's my birthday !!!
2007-02-14 21:16:32 · update #2
errie - i pity your poor wife / partner. u sound like a total miserable swine. i bet your catchphrase at xmas time is 'bah humbug' isn't it ? yes, valentines day is a commercialised day, buy how tight to u have to be not to even buy a card, or at least make a nice meal ?!?!?! go crawl back under your rock !
2007-02-14 21:27:29 · update #3
i know how you feel totally. all i asked my man for was a love letter, something from the heart to make up for the cheating and lying he put me through 7 months ago when i was carrying his son. so he decided to start writing my letter at midnight on valentines. i told him not to bother and where to fuckin shove it. happy valentines day my fuckin ****!! he didnt get no nookie either. whats good for the goose is good for the gander. x
2007-02-18 08:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by lipz20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what, this is nothing against you, honestly.
I am a fella and I did not bring home a Valentines card and I was told that I am a miserable sod.
She has probably written in about me.
I never realised it meant that much to a woman after all St Valentine was not the nicest of people of his time.
I'm sure your man meant nothing against you by not bringing you a card or a present its just us lot we are an insensitive load of Bbs, but give it a week and I bet he will do this very odd thing that we all do.
For no apparent reason he will bring you something or take you to somewhere (it might not be very glam, but Hey) and its a mans way of saying Sorry.
We all brought you Cards and Flowers when we first met that's part of the great act but as years go on we as men think it is just plain daft to bring in great big love, hug kissing, smack you on the lips multi coloured cards and so we don't bother anymore but Hey, we will next year.
2007-02-14 21:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sympathising with you! My husband got me nothing either, and then made matters worse by announcing that he isn't sure he loves me anymore. That, after eating the dinner I prepared for him, and opening the card I got him. But hey, I'm not saying I'm perfect...our relationship has been going through a bad patch since our daughter was born 18 months ago. I can deal with a relationship that's in trouble so long as we both want to fix it, but last night I realised that maybe he has given up on it.
You're husband sounds like he forgot about it, and made a rather feeble excuse by saying he didn't think you'd be bothered. I think you and a girlfriend should book yourselves a weekend away somewhere, and leave your husband home to look after the kids. That would make you feel better, and it might make your husband appreciate all you do.
2007-02-14 21:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have the same annoyance today
my boyfreind was due to travel this morning and had to pack etc and did not even bother to call all evening.
all i got was a nice text in the morning and that was that.
the remainder of the day was filled with travel plans and i was told he would call me later and we would do something.
i tried to call all even on the hr every hr and then i got a text at 11pm apologising and saying he'd been watching the footie...
if this is not someone telling me to bugger off then i dont know what is?
and this is after i spent about £100 on his valentine's gift which i am planning on returning today thank you very much!!!
to be fair to him though i did say that i did not think it was that important to celebrate valentines day this year as he is away and returns a day before my birthday so we are supposed to be doing something then....
well, i wont hold my breath!
2007-02-14 21:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chariddie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK here it is. We men mostly hate having to buy valentine junk. It is seen as just another gimmick to con us out of our hard earned money. We aren't full of the silly romantic notions that all you women have. We are sensible and practical and our logic tells us not to waste our money on cheap tack or flowers, cards and chocolate. Valentines Day isn't even about receiving anything other than love. We don't mind that because it is free. I think it should be scrapped. I mean how silly is getting depressed because you never got a card. Those are your words.
2007-02-14 21:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well my husbands excuse is that it is too commercialised, i do agree with him to a certain degree, but i don't expect anyone to be ripped off buying a dozen red roses at triple the normal price,
id be happy with just a card though !
if it wasn't too commercialised would i get a card?
NO !! mainly cos he cant be bothered
i sympathise with you, ive been with my husband a very long time so i don't expect anything any more, he never gets me a card, but i still buy him one
he also says "i don't need to send a card once a year to tell you i love you"
although he did apologise this morning and said he loved me.
MEN !!
dontcha just luv 'em
what amazes me is he gets away with it ggrrrrrrrrrrr
LOL
don't be too disheartened, cheer up
2007-02-14 21:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥gigi♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably forgotton! Men do. Don't be depressed. I bet that even his explanation is just an excuse not to admit that he has forgotton! We do that, because admitting it, we think, is worse than not! Here is what is said: An excuse is worse then the crime!
Furthermore, not all men are romantic. By nature, most men are not. Hence, try to understand that! But you have every right to be angry and to show him that you are dissapointed, so that he would not take it for granted next occassion, such as your birthday.
You must also understand that its two ways traffic. If he forgets accidentally or otherwise, you should take the lead and I am sure next time he would try to beat you on this!
All the best!/
2007-02-14 21:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hehe well it was the anniversary of our first date as well and he still didn't get me anything, but I'm not worried cos I have to admit that valentines day is a bit of a commercial have and we have been together 27 years.... I used to get upset about that sort of stuff until I realized that I was making such a big deal of it all that my expectations were killing our relationship. There are so many qualities that your man has probably got that are more important like faithfulness,strength etc When you least expect it you will realize he is just not so bad after all.....
2007-02-14 21:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ma C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my fella left a card on the table the night before so I'd find it when I got up in the monrning. I was on my own last night so not best pleased but I'm just thinking oh well it's only one day I suppose.
2007-02-14 21:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is the first year that your partner has felt so in love and comfortable that he didn't feel the need to overly impressed with you.
Or at least that was my husbands excuse the first year he didn't give me a birthday present. He claimed I said I didn't want anything. (I had a newborn baby).
Let him know that Valentines Day is important to you. Give him blank paper, and tell him that his thoughts on the paper is one of the sweetest things he could write, so sit there and write what he feels.
Presents that are from the heart mean the most.
Males suck at this stuff. We have to train them.
2007-02-14 21:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Ang H 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋