Who is trying to figure out him/herself?

Question

did u succeed?
explain please how r u trying to do this?

P.S: all i need is your personal experience no need for Google or Wikipidia :D

I will tell u how i am trying to figure myself out..
recently i found out that i am stubborn!
In fact i used to hate stubbon people so much i believed being stubborn can ruin any sweet feelings

well Why am i trying to find who i am?

okay because i am convinced somehow that i need 2 love people more..

and 2 love people then u have to know them (really find their inner beauty).. and to do all this, i guess i gotta love myself first ( not Ego for sure)..
SO i can love others and search inside their souls :)

Answer 1

" So come my friends
to search, to seek, to find
...and not to yield"
Alfred Lord Tennyson

Answer 2

I have passed this transition in my life already looking back why I became this way and my conclusions are:
1. That I was too self-driven, stubborn, and emotionally weak
2. I expected people to love me and never to hurt my feelings well-this wasn't the case when I first came to Canada. I was suffering from cultural shock how my relatives have changed their ways. Now I am like them
3.I seldom took advice from people which were seemingly good and I usually did what I thought was right, sometimes the outcome was worse.
4.In love, I don't love when I am not shown with it, this is the reason why I will probaly be single all my life. I expect people to love me the way I want them to. I don't believe in unconditional love, only a God can do that.
5. Lastly, I love being single. It is financially crushing but I love the freedom, and the pride that I am deciding for myself.
6. I am stubborn listening only to myself thus leading me to want to be original in all aspects of life- no good ends so far, but hey it is my life.

Answer 3

I have wondered who I am and indeed every issue makes me check and review my conclusions. It helps when people make comments, some positive, some not. Such add to my blocks for self-identification. I know what I can do and what I cannot, know what I like and some things I dont. I have sure acted in different ways in different circumstances. As such, I am not near settled on the question as yet. But the far I have gone is to be whoever it is I am, without playing roles or worrying about expectations. That makes me comfortable and leaves other people with the problem of deciphering who I am.

Answer 4

Finding your self is an ongoing process...
I am comfortable with who I am and have little to no regrets.
I try not to analize things too much, but when I find myself judgeing others, I start a self inventory,I ask myself, do I do things like that?Do I say things like that???? This helps me Identify with my own behaviors that I want to change.I don't know if I will ever become what I was meant to be,But thank God, I'm not who I use to be!

Answer 5

Been down that road long time ago. Found "we" don't exist. The "we" we think we are as a permenent self is a delusion of the mind based on the concept of past and future. We like this or that because of past experiences or future dreams or thoughts. however those experiences are not happening this moment. If you beat a dog, every time you raise your hand, the dog will cower, even if you do not intend to hit him. The dog reacts to a memory, not reality before him.
However, we do exist. If I hit you now, you feel it. But this existence is "emptiness" as the buddhist put it. Emersons ol' invisible eye, the perceiver cannot percieve itself. This is our true self, our original face before we came along quantifying and comparing everything.

Answer 6

Obviously there is a specific thing that is bothering you about yourself. You are to emotionally involved to be neutral. When I need to figure something out about myself I go to someone that I trust unconditionally who I know is honest, level headed, and has no ulterior motives.. It has been a very successful approach. I have solved many dilimas this way, and it gives me much peace of mind.

I am a mature women, and have had allot of life experience, so please for your sake take my advice.

Answer 7

Buckminster Fuller (the man behind the geodesic domes) once stated, "Most of my advances were by mistake. You uncover what is when you get rid of what isn't."

Your discovery will take years, as it should. Quite simply, you will need the exposure to life's experiences to truly "get rid of what isn't." That's the benefit of age and its common association with wisdom.

I am still succeeding well into my 30s.

Answer 8

I definitely am trying to figure myself out right now.

I am starting to figure myself out somewhat, but I don't think I'll ever fully understand myself!

A good place to start for me was to try and be completely confident with myself. If I don't feel comfortable with who I am, I don't want to try and figure myself out =)

I'm also a freshman in college so I think when you are in a situation that is so completely different than what you expect, you really get to know yourself. I am figuring out what sorts of things I like and don't like, and how I react in these situations that are so different than what I'm used to.

Like I said, I don't think you ever TRULY figure yourself out completely, that would take too long! Good luck =)

Answer 9

look yourself in the mirror. Now look at your body. try to find yourself, your esscence. look at ur arms, Do you find youself there, if you would not have your arms, are you still you? Now try to make this excesise with every part of your body. your mind your thoughts, are you YOU with your current thoughts or emotions?Start with those, if you take away something are you still yourself or not and who are you? Ego is going to answer your questions, so, how to get rid of the ego to find your true self, rid of the ME ME ME and find the esscence. Now you tell me... x

Answer 10

I am trying to figure out why I think the things I do and what purpose they serve. Am I self serving or a over zealous care giver.

Answer 11

Either a billionaire is in the habit of Figuring out himself.
Or a pauper is in the habit of Figuring out himself.