me and my boyfriend live in illinois and he was ordered to play child suport how long will he have to pay will the court just stop taking the money out of his check or will he have to go to court? aslo can anyone give me any advise on how to handel this. he sees his daughter everyother weekend but when he gets her he ignores me and the other day he says he wants a baby but if he ignores me wont he ignore our baby.. is he just wanting a week day baby because he only sees his kid everyother weekend? and his mom said she doesnt want him having nemore kids?... is this normal or is she being mean? sorry i sound so whinny but i was just curious wat u others would do and if its normal or not thanks Alot!
2007-02-14 20:34:41 · 11 answers · asked by **Wishing For A 2010 Baby** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you both are not married, or living together (and he pitches in) then he should pay child support. it wont stop unless you get married. he has to pay that money. todays laws are strong.
the state and federal government are tired of parents not paying for their kids, so they passed stronger laws for child support.
he may ignore you (some ex's do) but its good he's not ignoring his baby girl. they need to bond and be close. many children do not have their fathers (they just go or run away), so leave it be.
as for his mother, her opinion really doesnt matter pertaining to you or your situation. she just feels her son should not have any more children, and shes entitled to feel that way. i dont know if shes being mean, because i dont personally know her. none of us here does.
here are some links that will help with the child support issue. just click on your state and find the subject/section you need.
2007-02-18 00:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will have to pay the child support until that child turns 18 or becomes self-sufficient, whichever will come first. Child support is modifiable, meaning the amount he pays will increase with years. If, in fact, the court is taking money of his pocket (he is not writing and mailing the check himself), that means that the child support has been enforced on him and he is making these payments involuntarily. Very bad sign of his character. The payments will stop by the time child turns 18 or becomes self-sufficient, whichever is sooner. If the payments will still continue, he will have to go to court to resolve the issue.
You seem to be more concerned with money, than with the well-being of your man's child. If you truly love your man, wouldn't you want to love his child as your own? His child will be in his life for the rest of his life, and will always come first. Do you think this is something you are willing to deal with?
2007-02-14 21:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Child support and custody are two different issues. Both have to be court ordered. Since your father was court ordered to pay child support to your mother, that's what he's doing. Since you mother was granted custody of you via another court order, you are living with her. If you want to live with your father, and your mother is not willing to allow you to do so, he would need to go back to court and petition that the original ruling giving your mother custody be overturned. In order for that to be successful, he would have to prove that living with your mother is a danger to your life and safety. So no, you saying you don't like your mom (as all children your age do sooner or later) is not going to make a judge overrule an existing custody order.
2016-05-24 02:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely he will have to pay child support until the child is 18 years old. About him wanting another baby I have no idea, that sounds kind of random. How did you come to find out this information? I mean were you guys just exchanging hello's and he said you know what I want to have a kid? His mom more than likely knows best he might want to hold off on having another one until he is married and has a family, just my thoughts though!
2007-02-14 20:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by Megz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as child support each state is different... For example NY's emancipation age is 18 (automatically) unless a divorce judgment states otherwise.... However in ILL there is no fixed age, usually child MAY be emancipated at the age of 18 but child support may extend beyond the age of emancipation for reasons associated with secondary school expenses (full-time student) and/or extra ordinary medial expenses/conditions.
Your boyfriend will have to file for a motion to close case when child is 18 if he is not sure if the child is still in school.
If she's in school (F/T) = order continues
If she's not in school= child is emancipated
Also, having a wage garnishment for child support should not reflect bad on the non-custodial parent. Many states have laws that child support payments should be garnished from non-custodial parents income.. weather that be employment, social security, disability, pension or unemployment. Unless a court order specifically says non-custodial parent will send his own payments the child support office will attach a garnishments to his wages.
2007-02-15 05:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will have to pay child support until the child in question is 22 yrs of age or until the child is no longer a full time student whichever comes first.
When you marry a man with children you must realize that they (both of yours and his) will come before you.
As far as his mom, Who knows, mother in laws are always a pain in the ***.
2007-02-14 20:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the court order says to do so. It can be up to age 18 or 21. His daughter comes first in his life. He will always put her first if you cant handle it then you need to walk out of the relationship. You get to spend the rest of the time with him when she is not with him. You also need to grow up.
2007-02-22 11:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do sound whiney. It is his responsibility to pay support to his daughter 'til she graduates college actually. He will have to pay for half of her medical and dental and eye Dr bills,half of her college,half of her wedding, And he will always be in her life as long as she lives. Another thing,if his mama is making his decisions about his having more children or not ,then he must have some growing up to do. Why would you even want to have a child with him now?And his time with his daughter should be quality time and you should either join in or allow him to be her Daddy for a couple measly days . You sound like you need to do some growing up as well. Sometimes this generation is all about me me me!! Sorry,but it is true. Oh and guess what? Him and the little girls mama are ALWAYS going to have a common bond FOREVER because he will need to be involved in her life.Can you deal with that? So,I think i would either compromise with him and give him space with his daughter or join in and enjoy her as well if you intend to be part of this guys life. I am not trying to be mean,it is the way it is.His daughter should be a priority in his life.So be prepared to pay pay pay for a very long timeand acept it. Good luck!!
2007-02-14 21:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have to pay support until the child is 18. That's what most have to do.
2007-02-14 20:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by buebla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he'll have to pay child support till the child finishes school 18 or 22
2007-02-20 18:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋