we r in love, will b soon married,my would b hubby is comin out of a bad marriage,my parents say no, what 2 do

Answer 1

Your question looks like a text message. Anyway, why don't you and your fiance wait to get married. Especially since you said he is just coming out of a bad marriage, give him some time to breathe. It also sounds like you were the other woman, so basically this is a rebound thing, just give it some time.

Answer 2

While marrying someone who got divorce, the causes and reasons therefor should be looked into. If the faults and mistakes making grounds for divorce were from other side only, then can be proceeded further.

Now a days there are many divorces. If no one comes forward to marry the divorced or divorcee, they will remain without a spouse. Such situation spoils/ pollute the society, start unwed sexual activities and will spread AIDS/ STD.

Islam recommends or even commands remarriage, if divorced. It totally forbids all unwed pre/extra marital sexual intercourses. It imposes punishment of death by publicly pelting stones. Muslims blindly follow teachings and commands of Quran and Last Propher which are clearly written unambiguously. Its translations are available almost in every language. They guide them at every stage of their life such as marriage, succession, public & private relations, trade, business, earning and spending, entertainments, etc.

Answer 3

What made the marriage bad? He probably won't admit to his fault in this matter---your parents probably fear he will screw up with you, too. He's not out of the marriage yet???And you two are in love??? A little screwy to me also---sounds like he is a cheat and will cheat on you also---better smarten up--what is there to love about a guy who mananged to lie his way into your life...and why did you go with a married man??? Just some honest questions and you better be truthful with your answers. Do the right thing and figure it out for yourself....before it is too late.

Answer 4

Is this guy divorced yet? If not then why are you seeing him in the first place hon? I kinda agree with your parents on this one. I feel he would be marrying you an a reboung basis and that is not good. You would be much better off without this guy in your life. I suggest you break it off with him and move on and you will be much better for it.

Answer 5

listen to your parents they know more than you and your so called hubby already break his first marriage i;m getting a bad feeling so save your life and move on, ignore this guy

Answer 6

you cant decide your marriage by thinking about their parents.
you are marrying the person and see him coz u are going to live with him..May be he may give what he missed in their parents marriage to make it more bonding and good marriage..U are in love and you know what he is. dont decide on their parents becoz u r not marrying their parents but him so decide on him only...

Answer 7

Why are you marrying someone who just got a divorce? I think you should not only give them some time to figure out what they are doing, as well as yourself. That seems a little fast.

Answer 8

How old are u? Do your parents run your life? Do you want to be single forever just to make your parents happy? Get married and have a child, they will get along fine. Grandparenting changes people.

Answer 9

DO NOT marry someone right after they are getting out of a divorce.....
They need time to breath!!
You don't want to be there rebound marriage
Take your time, besides Mom always knows best!

Answer 10

There are many issues to consider with this situation. First off what is the situation of his divorce. What happened and who is to blame for it? When I met my husband he had been seperated for many years, living in seperate states from his ex and trying to get custody of his children. The blame for the marriage falling apart was due to his ex and her extracuricular activities. I did not take his word for it though, I wouldn't even consider dating him without meeting his best friends and getting their opinion of the matter and then later on his ex's opinion. She confirmed it was her fault for the marriage failing and he did everything he could to make it work. They just hadn't finished getting the divorced finished because they were still fighting over child custody. Once she realized I was in the picture they got the divorce done quickly and fought the child custody seperately.

We have been together for years now, and are now married and have custody of the kids. But that doesn't mean that it came up roses. If it was his ex's fault for the marriage failing, then expect him to have damage. You can't leave a marriage without someone being damaged. There will be issues of being compaired to his ex, and details of his past marriage compaired to this one. Especially if his family was involved in anyway with the relationship. Don't expect his ex to drop out of the picture especially if there are kids involved. If there are kids involved not only are you taking him on as a spouse but her as well. She will be in your life forever even if you never talk to her because she will be talking to your husband. Assuming there are kids and they are with their mother, be prepared for being the villian. If the kids only see you on visitation days with their father, then your the woman who stole their Daddy away from their Mommy. No matter how much you try to explain that wasn't the situation to kids they understand Mom and Dad are no longer together and Dad has a new wife.

If the divorce was his fault be prepared for his attitudes and behaviors from the previous marriage not to change. If they didn't change through a marriage why would they change for you? They won't and unless he puts a 24/7 effort into changing daily for the rest of his life most people fall back into the patterns of the past.

Also, what are your assets together, are you having a pre-nup. If there are any interests that you have or own, then you need to protect them. He has been married before and is now divorcing. There is no surefire way to say it won't happen to you. He shouldn't be opposed to a pre-nump, even a simple one listing what you have and own and saying what I enter into this marriage with is what I take out of it.

Lastly, any behaviors he has now that you don't like don't expect to change. Once married you need to accept that you knew what you got yourself into and that you need accept them, you might not like them, but your the one who saw the issues before hand and still decied to get married. Once you get married, you can't take it back as easily as breaking up with someone. Also, it's good to try to take a marriage class together as well as talk about everything for the future. Including kids and parenting. That way your both sure your on the same page. Good Luck.