i checked my husbands history and found when im not around hes been looking at online porn and adult sex finder i asked him about this and he got angry saying he was just looking and by accident went on to adult sex finder but i checked again yesterday and found more porn sites and find sex in the uk website this has made me lose all my trust in him and made me really insecure.If it was you what would you do?
2007-02-14 20:13:00 · 16 answers · asked by beck 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did he get angry if he found the sites by accident? He's lying to you and he's embarrassed about it, so rather than admit that it, he gets angry and blames you - "bad wife for not trusting me". Its not your fault though, and chances are he is addicted to porn. You are right to feel betrayed. I suggest you see a counsellor who works with this type of problem to get some personal advice on how to approach it, the worst you can do is to ignore it. Good luck.
2007-02-15 00:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by shakespear 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 06:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Dr.Mobby lognneck here.... Well maybe he is unhappy with ur sex life. The porn sites are ok, man are all about the visual part of sex. Being that he went on adult sex finder, not really sure what that is but from the name. I guess it is a site to find someone to have sex with. Maybe you should go to the porn store buy urself a sexy outfit, and get a 15 inch strap on.Have a nite set aside for you two to make love and come in the room dressed all sexy, tie him to the bed, get alot of lube and F.U.C.K HIM IN THE A.S.S. See if he goes on another site then.
2007-02-14 20:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Mobby longneck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the more you tell him he shouldn't or can't do it, or offer ultimatums, the more he will try his best to hide it. Why don't you try watching porn with him? I mean, start out slow, and see how you feel about it. I mean, you might find out that it helps you, too. But you can't continue snooping, because it will just make him resent you and not trust you, and you will only start emploding. It will build up inside you until you explode! So do your best to talk to him, offer him the chance to share, and see what happens. You never know. Believe me, I have been with the same guy for seven years. He has watched porn since he was a teenager. I realized that I was not upset that he watched it, it was only when I saw what he was looking at that I got angry. I did the same thing, i.e., snooping around, and it only made things worse. He did it before I met him, and he does it now. I mean, would you rather him do things watching a woman or man on a computer screen, or actually doing things with a woman next door. Think long and hard on the matter. If you really can't deal with it, you know what you will have to do. Just communicate and be honest and open.
2007-02-14 20:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by buebla 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would not be happy about this if it were me. I feel he is cheating and being unfaithful to you. Ask him again and tell him and show him the proof of what you are finding. Why is he going into places like the adult friend finder? I understand how you are feeling and it makes me sad for you. Is there a way you can find out if he is a member of any of these sites or not? Check his credit card statement when it comes in. Because he has to pay with a credit card to be a member of alot of those sites i think. You also could take him on the Maury show and have him take a lie detector test to see if he is telling the truth or not.
2007-02-14 21:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
As hard as it may be, simply tell him to sit quietly, listen, and tell him how you feel about this. Don't debate it or argue about it.
Let it sink in and if he is a reasonable adult, he'll get back to you on this. Do not force his hand by disabling the computer or internet (yet anyway). This will be viewed as punsihment and put him in a subordinate roll (touchy if he's egotistical).
You could also try to find sites geared toward the female lust and see how it makes him feel as a last resort.
2007-02-14 20:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question - how is your relationship? Are you both getting the pleasure and satisfaction you need and desire?
If the answer to that is yes, then don't worry about his viewing erotica. Millions of men AND women enjoy erotica in some form or other (books, magazines, videos). It's nothing but an alternative form of arousal. There's nothing odd or bad or perverted about it.
Second, even in the best of relationships, you have to allow for some personal "alone" time. Chances are, your husband masturbated before the two of you ever met, and it's not like he's going to just abandon giving himself pleasure just because he can now have partner sex.
We've been happily married for almost 37 years, and we both enjoy our fair share of intercourse AND masturbation.
2007-02-14 23:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girlfriend,i am going through what you are right now.the truth of the matter is,he doesn't want you to know plain and simple.he..maybe curious,learning info bout all the variations concerning sex in general.if you are married for more than 5-10 yrs.probability,he's looking to enhance your sex life together.he lied when he said he found the site accidently.do not feel insecure over this,cos if he desires you more and not ask you to do the unnatural.sweetheart,he just want to make you happy.
2007-02-14 21:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by spunky 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who doesn't? Guys, in general, nowadays, are really hooked up on online porn and those websites like- adult sex finder.
I tell ya, you should talk to him about that while it's still not a habit or else he'll be addicted to it which might cause a problem to your relationship in the long run.
2007-02-14 21:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If he is just looking then it is innocent. As far as adultsexfinder, a membership is expensive and you get nothing without one, so find out if he paid or is receiving contacts from it. Online porn is just masturbation inspiration. No big deal unless he is saying no to you then going to the porn.
2007-02-14 20:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋