We had an arranged marriage 3 months back. i love my husband a lot. He is a decent guy & i know that he loves me a lot. He has a lots of friends and we both enjoy with them a lot. He goes to work in the morning & comes back by 9m. then we go out but always we will be surrounded by friends. how will i explain him that i want some time with him alone atleast once in a month. I fear he would missunderstand me thinking that i dont like his friends. please help me!!!!
2007-02-14 19:21:59 · 14 answers · asked by blossom 4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have communicated my feelings to him but he says he likes people around him every time. he enjoys those get togethers.
2007-02-14 20:50:03 · update #1
Be patient time will come and he will valu for your feelings. In marriage life you both have to understand eachothers feelings. Your husband is a habitual of company of his friends. As the time will pass your husband will come close to you and avoid his friends. Now a days hem might have some fear that his friends will taunting him that after marriage their friend forgets his friends or hiding his bautiful wife. so wait for time
2007-02-22 17:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by amru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to tell him everything about how you feel. Don't use any violence, but just talk it out. Communicate when you have time alone such as before sleep. When it's quiet, face each other and without laughing or anything, say that you want to spend time with him alone at least once a month. It looks like you are always surrounded by your friends, but can you give me a day, at least once a month to spend time with you alone? If he doesn't listen to you when you said it, then he's up to something. Guys can change all of a sudden and can cheat without letting us know. So just watch every action he takes.
2007-02-23 01:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by just ask mee~~!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How people interpret what you say boils down to how you say it. My suggestion is something along the lines of sitting him down, and leading the conversation off with something positive, for instance, telling him that one of the reasons you love him so much is because he is a good man which is obvious because so many other great people want to share in his time. You can follow this up by saying that sometimes you feel as though you are in competition for his time and it would really help you if you could organise regular one-on-one time together. Alternatively, why don't you take the initiative and invite him out on a date? That way you won't be inviting the crowd as well.
2007-02-15 08:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Fiona M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you know he is about to walk in the door from a hard days work, prepare him for a night of romance. He will not want his friends over and will give you his full attention. Romantic dinner, candles, and a rose petal covered bed. Once a month plan this and allow for the other days to be with friends so this way he has his time and you have yours.
2007-02-22 18:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plan a special evening for just the two of you which could include a romantic dinner either at home or away and then of course you could just let your imagination run wild as to what you could spend the rest of the evening doing?! There are only so many needs that his friends are able to fill, if you know what i mean!
2007-02-23 01:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by byotch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's not listening to you, then you have to make a more bold move. Whisk him away somewhere. Just tell him you have a surprise for him, and then just take him away. Maybe once he sees how well the two of you do together on your own, he'll want some more alone time. Good luck.
2007-02-22 11:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most essential thing to do in any relationship is to communicate. Two ways. You talk and he listens. He talks and you listen. Spending time with others is a way to avoid communication. So talk with him, ask him to talk with you. It is important for each of you to realize the other has feelings and concerns and these feelings and concerns must be addressed. Because he doesn't feel what you feel doesn't mean your feelings are not worth paying attention to. The same for him. So ask him how he feels. Tell him how you feel. And discuss how both of you can support each other. Good luck.
2007-02-15 03:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cook a good meal, candles, flowers on the table,soft music,set the table for some Alone Time.
2007-02-22 11:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must communticate your feelings with your husband. Whether the marraige was arranged or not, if you want it to be successful, then you have to tell him what is on your mind and be totally honest.
2007-02-15 03:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by buebla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alone time once a month isn't too much. but if he won't listen to you verbally try writing it in a letter, maybe if he see's it in print he'll think about it more GL
2007-02-15 08:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋