Shes now married, and confided in me that her husband has never seen her totally naked. She only has sex with shirts on. Also, that she doesnt really care for orgasms. This kinda concerns me, and I feel bad that she has those hangups. She says that as a teen, she treated sex like it was no big deal. She had a lot of absent daddy, trying to fill the hole with men and sex, issues. Now that she is married, sex is sacred to her, and now shes plagued by these different issues, and the inability to just let go while making love. I'm curious if any other women have experienced this kind of sexual hangup. If so, did you ever get past it, and how? Thanks so much!
2007-02-14 19:21:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Keely-
Thanks for your info... however, I did not say that she *cant* have an orgasm, but rather that she just doesnt LIKE to.
2007-02-14 19:55:18 · update #1
I've heard of this, and it's usually casued by trauma in the early stages of her life.
She needs to see a conselor to work through this problem. If not for her sake, at least for her husband.
2007-02-14 19:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by MAKE IT STOP! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy took your virginity? Honey, you gave it away. You had a right to say NO. You're making a lot of excuses. I think he might suddenly feel that he has damaged goods. A lot of guys think it's romantic to have someone who has done a lot of people, but when push comes to shove, they change their minds. There was no reason whatsoever for you to bring up the size of his penis. That's just rude and not at all fair. I have to believe that he is not the whole problem here. I like a man who doesn't drink, smoke or party. That would be my husband. Only he hadn't been with an "ex." Just me! You have to live with your past, and you don't seem to mind that. If he does mind it, you might have to talk about what comes next. It sounds like you are both unhappy.
2016-05-24 02:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like there is something there that she just doesnt have enough self confadence to take all of her clothes off weather it be because somthing has happened to her in the past or is because she doesnt see herself as attactive, but she will soon relize that her husband loves her and he wouldnt have married her if he didnt love her and as far as having an orgasim that is something that she will learn to do it takes time to get to know the other persons body and what makes them go and to hit the right spot and it is the same after every child u have, u have to learn new ways because the g-spot changes there is a web site to go to that is pretty helpful and that is karma sutra.com and there is a lot of positions that may help and even if it doesnt there are alot of helpful places in the same site that may just be the answer she need and if he can fullfill the sexual needs of her then chances are she will soon reveal herself completely to him
Kama Sutra - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia this is a good web site there is plently of information in this site to learn how the male and female body works sexually and there are some exilent pointers in it as well
2007-02-14 19:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by keely h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has probably been through some kind of trauma. Making her feel really self consciouce. She may need to talk to a sex therapist.
Yes I also suffer and have suffered the same hangup. It has to be worked on every day. But there is hope and I hope your friend finds it.
2007-02-14 19:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by egomezz007 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not care for them much either. I feel more having breasts kissed or oral sex than actual sex. I guess because I did not loose my virginity until I was 29 that is why I have this hangup
2007-02-15 04:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by ttc #1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No self confidence..hubby has to have a shirt on most of the time but its because he has an spinal injury and gained weight..she is just self consciences..Its up to the guy to make her feel comfortable..and men..just don't want to waste their time with mushy stuff like that.
2007-02-14 19:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is certainly not the only one. My dh's grandma never had sex with her clothes completely off. She wouldn't even take them all off to bathe. Perhaps your friend should get counseling, it doesn't mean she has anything wrong with her, just sometimes an uninvolved party can give you pointers that you don't see yourself.
2007-02-14 19:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by DisIllusioned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crazy. I'm not big on anecdotal evidence...but my ex-girlfriend's roomate had a boyfriend who used to be fat and slimmed down...but would never take off his shirt for sex. Kind of an interesting quirk, no?
Anyway....
2007-02-14 19:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Evan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should see a doctor for these issues, if they are a problem.
2007-02-14 19:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All Stupidity!!!
2007-02-14 19:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by Pintu 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋