this guy is my classmate and at times,he'll be really nice and helpful like when i need help with schoolwork,he'll try his best to explain it to me and turn around occsionally to see if i was doing fine. we were quite close actually but the problem with him is that sometimes he can be sooo annoying,to a point that i can no longer tolerate him.we used to tell each other our probs,he told me a girl's crushing on him and he asked me what he should do cos he doesn't like the girl but don't know how to tell her.then i told him there's this guy who wanted my no. and he replied saying that who on earth will ever want my no. and why would anyone be attracted to me!he gave me nickname called granny,i don't know why and he said in his eyes,i'm just an old granny.i was so hurt by what he said and i gave me a hard push on his shoulder but he thought i was playing with him which i wasn't.he's being so insensitive and mean to me!why is he like this??we aren't kids..we are 18..
2007-02-14 19:16:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think he's such an asshole because he told me he's gonna get me a rose on valentine's day but in the end, i didn't get anything and he acted as though nothing happened and forgot about everything.he's rude and a pain in the *** really!i feel like giving him one tight slap,i can't tolerate his rudeness & insensitivity anymore
2007-02-14 19:35:21 · update #1
Sounds like he needs to grow up...you have to decide if you want to wait around till that happens...
2007-02-14 19:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
You should not have to put up with such behavior. If you were close before, it doesn't mean that you have to stay close, at least on his part, it doesn't sound like he cares what happens to your relationship
I think you should sit down with him and tell him exactly what you think of him (or you might want to write an email, to be sure that you get it all out, and don't forget all you want to say)
Tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't quit being a a**h** then you don't want to see him anymore
I've had many male friends, and when we've known eachother for a while, they start to treat me like I was "one of the boys", which means I have to get treated like a guy. And that's fine, cause we're all just friends, and I don't mind.
But they would never talk to me like that, not insult me or hurt me. Noone should be allowed to insult you like that. Do not put up with it!
Since he was joking about giving you a rose for Valentines day and stuff, I might suspect that he is either just stupid or he might think that "since I can't get a girl, I will make sure she doesn't get a guy either. She shall not be less miserable than I am"
Does he have a girlfriend? Is he popular with other girls? If not, then that is my theory - he need you to keep his own ego up. He wants you to like him, and he needs you to hear him out when he needs to talk. He has to make sure you don't feel good about yourself, because then you might get a boyfriend, and that would totally screw up the way he uses you
I might very well be wrong, but that's my theory. And I know of many people who do exactly that. They might not do it on purpose, but if he does, I think he is.
But anyway - tell him exactly how you feel, don't hold back if you're angry. And tell him that if he doesn't give you the respect that you TRUELY deserve, then he can go buy himself a teddybear to feel sorry for him
I want you to know that you that you do not deserve to be treated like that by noone, and you DO deserve to be treated with respect. Don't let him get to you!
Good luck to you
2007-02-15 04:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by The psychologist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Sounds like jealousy to me. He tells you this girl has a crush on him but maybe its to make you jealous so when you tell him a guy wanted your number it made him upset. I think maybe hes hurting you because he is hurt himself. If a guy wanted your number then you must be pretty. It doesnt make sense as to why your mate would say that about you if he want feeling jealous lol
2007-02-15 03:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by lindatheundercoveragent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy obviously doesn't know how to deal with women. I'm no expert at it either, but even I know better than to call a girl an old granny.
I think he may have just been trying to joke around with you the way guys tend to joke around with each other.
2007-02-15 03:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm forget him he is mean .. eh wants help but cant be supportive to you as a freind as u are to him then what is he good for ? there is no freindship cant help it. orrrrrrrrr perhaps he likes u and wants u for himself and is feeling you out to see how u woudl react to him having a girl interested in him and u tell him what? he sounds tho really like hes in control of you or manipulative he checks if ur doign fine so this tells me he cares in one way.. or likes to know he is right .. sometimes guys when they are godo tight freinds they dont see u as sexual being in that way more like a sister to him.. so.. perhaps he is a baby - in any case be quiet and keep to yourself his probs are his let this new chik find out the hard way and let him fend fro himself he is unforgiveable in any case. granny? godddddddddddd i cant believe thast insulting .. try to dress up and look hot get guys around ya to drool even if ya ask out of a favor to show him up the dweeb
2007-02-15 03:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see any problem between you and him. His nicknaming you as "granny" is nothing objectionable. You can also give him some nickname. You are in your late teens and as such, such amount of teasing and pranks are common.
Wishing you both good luck.
2007-02-15 03:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really likes you as a friend, and can be very playful with you, like a sister. Just talk to him and let him know it hurts you. Sometimes boys can get a little scared if we like a girl too much and we don't deal with it on the outside. Our feelings can get jumbled and it comes out mean! I don't know if he likes you more than a friend. Just talk to him!
2007-02-15 03:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by loveandlightminister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is attracted to you and is afraid to tell you or dont know how. He is afraid someone is going to take your friendship away from him. It sounds like insecurities.
2007-02-15 03:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by tmills883 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes you, but doesn't know how to tell you. He was probably telling you he didn't like the other girl, because he likes you!
2007-02-15 03:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by So_many_questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, why are you acting like kids? Maybe he just wanted to sleep with you, and maybe he doesn't any more, people change
2007-02-15 03:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋