2007-02-14 18:52:52 · 14 answers · asked by marincaligirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It comes down to attitude. Once you move out of the mind set of trying to please your partner and are only focusing on yourself is when it will be boring. Sex is not for yourself, but for your spouse. Not what you can get, but what you can give. Newlyweds don't seem to have an issue with this concept when everything is new, fun, and exciting. If it gets boring, you have to make the decision that you are going to do whatever it takes to make it enjoyable for your parter. Sex is most enjoyable when it is selfless, I think a lot of people forget that and focus on what might be received.
2007-02-14 20:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We might say that sex never gets boring, it's the people who get boring. If you find sex in marriage boring I'll bet there's other things in thy marriage that are also boring. You can re-kindle the excitement by reading some books, watching some videos, going to a therapist (couples or single), talking with friends or just talking with each other about it. Look at all those answers that say multiple years of marriage hasn't taken the excitement out of their sex life. This can be true for you...but you have to work at it, just as you have to work at marriage to make it last.
2007-02-14 19:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We've been married almost 37 yrs. and I've never found our sex to be "boring."
Most young people go through a fairly intense "experimental" stage at some point in their relationship, looking for new kinds of sexual thrills. They buy a variety of toys, lingerie, videos, etc.
At some point, most people fall into what I would call "comfort patterns." There are ways you really like and prefer to be aroused and satisfied, whether with your partner or by yourself. This is absolutely normal and there's nothing bad about it.
After enjoying partner and solo sex for all these years, we still enjoy it as much - possibly more - than ever, even if we don't engage in intensely acrobatic positions.
We still have variety. Sometimes we'll engage in roll playing. Sometimes we'll opt for intercourse, other times for oral and other times for a shared solo.
What's really good about sex after this long is that you really know how to push your partner's buttons, and you can sustain them "on the edge" better than you could when you first met.
Sex may not always be "unique" or "kinky," but it should always be satisfying.
2007-02-14 23:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 04:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it get boring, try new things, buy x rated movies, have fun, let you partner know what you like. Play games, Have him pick you up at a bar, pretend you do not Know eachother. I hope it never gets boring for us. Together for 14 years. Yeah! Baby!
2007-02-14 19:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Peppermint Patti 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is different, but eventually, it happens to everyone. Just part of the whole scheme of things and you have to try and go with the flow. Nothing is EVER as exciting in life as it was at the beginning. That, as they say, is life!
2007-02-14 18:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have been married 14 years and i wont it 7 days a week
2007-02-15 01:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only gets boring if u let it. Find time for each other, find new and exciting things to do....
2007-02-15 01:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, but will let you know when it does...it has been 32 years and not boring yet.
2007-02-14 18:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
when yu staryt to hate him more than before after 7 years.
But even then i like his sex.
2007-02-14 19:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋