I had a 1 1/2 year relationship with a co-worker who is married. She made several promises to me about "us" but has yet to even act on them. She says she needs time but I have given her more than 8 months time. I feel used and angry...even bitter. Should I call her husband and inform him of our escapades? I feel...like she enjoyed her fun at my expense with no responsibility for her actions. Maybe I am just over reacting and should forget this. However, it bothers me for how I was treated and ignored of my needs. As much as I love her she never responds to my questions and just says, "I need more time"......I have written many letters and notes trying to see where I stand with her....and i get no answer. Help! What to do..........
2007-02-14 18:48:02 · 21 answers · asked by YcopyU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do the Honorable thing. Leave her alone. Stop seeing and writing her. Don't tell her husband anything. Let her get on with her life. If she really loves you she will seek you out on your terms. You knew she was married when you started seeing her. I am sure that if she thought you were the kind of guy who couldn't keep things secret, she would not have had anything to do with you from the start.
Going after the Husband (or Wife) is a desperate act and never works to your advantage.
2007-02-14 20:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter that she makes promises to you. She is married and taken. OFF limits.She has used you for her own pleasure and may still plan to. She will most likely drag you out as far as you can go. She thinks of herself. Not her husband she once cared for and loved. and certinaly not you.Do you really want one that cheats. If she did it with you she will do it to another. It is LUST for her. TAKE your life back. find another this time not married.
FOR YOUR INFORMATION My husbands sister has been dragged out for almost 15 years now. A mistress of a mans wants and needs. He does not care , promisies and never keeps them .He is 65 she is 35 and so beautiful. She can have anyone. Is it the win you are after? Or is it really love? People want what they cant have. It makes life more interesting. His sister still loves him . Hes still married and now gave her a ring. He will do this to her until his wife dies. Then she will finally have him. A life wasted chasing a dream... Or he will pass and she left alone not knowing true love.or having a life of her own Leave her .... dont beg dont look back You must... Its a cycle not worth haveing. It could start over again and again. ohhh yes and will the husband care? Maybe not. This other mans wife doesnt care. Cant stop it has known for 12 years. and stays out of convience. She says she stays for the company thats all she wants now. She gave up. Dont bother really move on good luck..
The question you must answer is why do you want him to know she cheats? is it because you want him to kick her to the curb so you can have her? you don't want her... Or do you want him to know for him so he knows.And to hurt her. and you dont want her back.? he will find out soon enough. good luck It will catch up to her.
2007-02-14 19:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by luvtopaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Sounds like a movie I saw...lets see....no not that one...oh! Yes! Look who's talking! That's the one. You should watch the movie. Yeah that's the ticket. Hey idiot she has no consideration for the man she married. Get it? Do you Get that? What makes you think she wont do the same to you? Hell maybe she is. If not She will. I guarantee she will. That would be great. You both deserve it. Her for cheating and you for lusting over a married woman. You both should be stoned. I think you SHOULD tell her husband. Be a man. You're already trying to take his place, or are you just a coward? Sissy boy.
2007-02-14 19:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by OU812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't give you a definitive answer (which i believe she won't), just get over it and think of it as a mistake you made to get involved with a MARRIED woman in the first place. For women just like for men, if the relationship was a meaningful one it wouldn't start off as an affair behind their partner's back.
2007-02-14 19:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Lenusya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should tell him & I don't think that you should see this women anymore. I don't really think you are in love with her how can you love someone who is married who is in love with her husband and you?! It's a bad situation, I would get away from it as soon as possible. I would tell her it's over. Your only going to get hurt more if you stay with her if after a year she hasn't left her husband, she is not planning to cause she is still in love with him and she more than likely is just very confused.
2007-02-14 19:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Megz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much time does she need? sounds to me like she is useing u bro! find someone else & see if she gets jealous.just make sure u find someone that u really like so that if it backfires then u didn't just use her like u had been used. then if u form a relationship with the new girl & things couldn't get n e better, then tell the hubby how much of a bike his wife was. if she does get jealous then there maybe hope, but i wouldn't hold ur breath on that one. JUST FIND A NEW GIRL BRO!!!!!!!!
2007-02-14 18:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by hsvxclr8r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you would want to tell her husband and to be honest you should tell him because chances are she's going to keep cheating on him with you or somebody else. He deserves to be with someone who will be faith full and for that matter you deserve someone who respects you and loves you and considers your needs and feelings not just their own. Just don't expect her husband to say thank you. He'll be upset or angry, but weather you tell him or not you need to break it off with your co-worker.
2007-02-14 19:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by hopeless24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right to feel bitter & angry, but it's not going to do any good to "tell" on her, cause trouble and start drama.
You don't stand anywhere with her. Just walk away; years from now, you'll be glad you did.
Make sure you pee in her gas tank first.
2007-02-14 19:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Tom K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it was wrong to have a relationship with a married perosn. Not cool. And it would be the good thing to do tell her husband, but, I would be afraid what he would do when he finds out. So, think twice.
2007-02-14 18:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by Tidus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST STAY out of it before you get yourself in trouble. Yes she is wrong but so are you because you knew she was married from the beginning (didn't you?) and yet you still hooked up with her. move on with your life because in time she'll have to face her own karma!
2007-02-14 18:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋